01/17/2025
I know how painful it is to break a trauma bond because I’ve done it more than once. Before my healing journey, I was caught in a cycle, holding on to people who hurt me, thinking the bond meant love. In reality, it was my unhealed self clinging to the last time I felt seen, even if it came with pain.
Breaking a trauma bond isn’t easy, but it’s the most loving thing you can do for yourself. Here are five essential steps:
1️⃣ No Contact:⛔️
This is the hardest step because it feels like losing a lifeline. But no contact gives you the space you need to break the cycle and start healing.
2️⃣ Find Self-Respect:🧘♀️💛
Trauma bonds chip away at your worth. Rebuilding it starts with boundaries and reconnecting with what you truly deserve.
3️⃣ Recognize the Pattern:🔁
Stop romanticizing the past and acknowledge the harm. Healing begins when you see the truth, not the fantasy.
4️⃣ Lean on Support:🫂
You don’t have to do this alone. A trusted friend, coach, or support group can help you stay grounded when you feel the pull to return.
5️⃣ Prioritize Your Healing:🪞❤️🩹
Focus on yourself. Commit to inner work and self-care to ensure you don’t repeat the cycle.
Breaking a trauma bond is hard, but it’s possible—and it’s worth it. If you’re ready to break free and heal, I’m here to help you set boundaries, reconnect with yourself, and reclaim your worth.