Liz Seitz - Psychotherapist / Individuals and Couples

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Liz Seitz - Psychotherapist / Individuals and Couples

Helping individuals and couples achieve healthy, sustainable relationships and live with a renewed sense of purpose and meaning. Liz Seitz, LMSW-ACP, LMFT

08/05/2025

Until you heal the wounds you carry within and the negative messages you’ve come to believe about yourself, then you’ll likely continue to attract people who will reinforce that painful narrative. When we believe we deserve better, we attract better.

I promise you’re worthy of the love you desire and you don’t have to do anything to earn it. You are worthy because you are. You are loved because you are. Your mere existence anoints you with worth and value.

Love and worth are your birthright, your sacred inheritance. Embrace it and embody its truth. Behave as though you believe it until you actually do.

When you see your own worth, you’ll attract others who will reflect that back to you.

07/21/2025

It’s inevitable that we’ll all deal with health issues of some kind, grief and loss, heartache or heartbreak, and other life challenges. We often think that how we’re feeling is a direct result of our particular situation or circumstances. The truth is that our feelings are determined by the story we tell ourselves about our particular situation.

When we catastrophize or tell ourselves very depressing, anxiety-provoking or destabilizing stories, we can’t help but feel sad, anxious, and unsettled.

We can’t control our circumstances or prevent life from happening to us but we can manage our reactions to those circumstances and the meaning and narrative we attach to them.

Learning to soften, lighten, defuse, and reframe the stories we tell ourselves changes the way we experience all the challenging moments of our lives.

There’ll still be painful and challenging parts but by managing our reactions and stories, we can reclaim our sense of stability and peace at a time when we need it the most.

Next time life becomes challenging, be thoughtful in the way you respond to it and the meaning you ascribe to it. Regardless of the circumstances, be mindful of the story you tell yourself.

When life isn’t gentle with you, be gentle with yourself.

07/14/2025

Many women, in particular, tend to believe that if someone truly loved them, that person would intuitively understand their needs and desires, without having to be told.
The truth is no one, unless they are psychic, can read your mind.

Not being able to read your mind is not a red flag. The warning sign is when you’ve clearly communicated what you need and want, and they continue to behave as though you’ve never told them anything.

As Maya Angelou used to say, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” Love yourself enough to know when to choose yourself over someone who continues to disappoint you.

07/08/2025

Here are some places you can offer your support:

Community Foundation of the Texas Hill Country – Kerr County Flood Relief Fund

https://cftexashillcountry.fcsuite.com/erp/donate/create/fund?funit_id=4201 cftexashillcountry.fcsuite.com.

American Red Cross (Central & South Texas chapter) provides shelters, meals, supplies, family reunification and mental health support.
redcross.org/local/texas/central-and-south-texas.html

Kerrville Pets Alive and Austin Pets Alive: rescues and shelters displaced pets, coordinating fosters and supplies.
Kerrville Pets Alive

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06/30/2025

Just like plants need water and fertile soil, relationships need patience, self-awareness, humility and good communication skills to fulfill their true potential.

One of the best gifts you can give yourself and your partner is to get really clear on what wounds, insecurities and vulnerabilities you’re carrying from childhood and then be brave enough to share it with each other.

There is nothing more intimate than being able to truly allow your partner in to know you on a deeper level. And once you learn more about each other’s fears, insecurities, and vulnerabilities, you each have greater insight into why the other reacts the way they do in certain situations.

As partners, you have tremendous power to be sources of great pain or sources of great healing.
The goal is to use your power for good.

You can ask questions like: When you get triggered, what would be helpful for me to say or do? What do you most need from me in those moments?

Figuring out what you need when you feel anxious, scared, vulnerable or hurt and sharing that with each other is how you can become both students and teachers of one another.

06/23/2025

The more real and authentic partners show up in the relationship, the more threatening things can feel. But knowing that this is a normal stage of relational development can help you hang in there and be open to the work that’s ahead.

Navigating through the power struggle phase and proving to each other that they can handle the differences between them allows partners to feel that they don’t need to be perfect in order to be loved.

Showing up as our true self is the only way to have a stable and sustainable relationship. Once we know that we can let our guard down and our partner will handle our vulnerabilities with care and respect, it increases our level of emotional safety and trust and deepens the intimacy between us.

It takes time to reach this stage of a relationship but it’s well worth it. Stay tuned for more on what you can expect from your most intimate relationships.

06/16/2025

After the honeymoon phase, couples enter into the power struggle phase where vulnerabilities and insecurities emerge and wounds from the past often get activated.

In this stage, partners are no longer on their best behavior. The good news is they’re revealing more of who they are to one another. The bad news is they’re revealing more of who they are to one another. ;)

It’s not actually bad news but it sure feels like it at times. It’s actually what is required to build a more trusting, loving and healing relationship.

This is where relationships really get tested. Partners push back when they feel they’re losing some control, autonomy freedom, mystery and novelty and when their needs are not being met in the way they hoped they would be.

This phase often trips people up or causes fear that they’ve chosen poorly but most often, this is just the natural phase of relationship development.

When you bring curiosity rather than criticism, you can learn so much more about each other and from each other. This phase is an opportunity to grow together versus grow apart.

This stage is when many individuals or couples seek counseling.
Next time, we’ll talk about where we go from here.

06/09/2025

Often when partners emerge from the honeymoon phase of their relationship, they start to feel disillusioned and disheartened. They question whether they’re with the right person and wonder what’s happened and why things have become more of a challenge.

The honeymoon phase is just that, a phase, and it leads us to the next stage in the relationship’s development.

When partners are starting to have struggles and conflicts, they’re right where they’re supposed to be.

As long as both partners are brave, patient and determined, they can emerge from the power struggle phase stronger and closer than ever before. Stay tuned for more on the relational stages of development.

05/27/2025

It’s much easier for us to lead with anger than vulnerability but most often that’s what’s lying underneath the surface.

Ideally, we would all manage our upset in a way that truly expresses what we’re feeling versus letting anger be our shield.

What may feel like a shield in the moment, ironically just renders us more vulnerable because
partners don’t typically respond to anger in positive ways.

If we could tell ourselves the truth about what the anger is masking, maybe we could learn to communicate what is likely to be fear, hurt or insecurity, and end up having a much more productive conversation.

05/19/2025

In relationships, we keep behaving in ways that are familiar to us even when those ways are not serving us.

We need to recognize our tendency to stick with what we know because it’s comfortable and familiar and often, automatic but we also need to ask ourselves if it’s working as it once did or as we hoped it would.

It’s our tendency when things aren’t going well to try harder instead of trying something different.

Learning to stretch ourselves and challenge ourselves can help us develop new tools, behaviors and communication styles that help us achieve our desired outcome.

05/12/2025

So often in relationships, people are so concerned with being right and proving their point that they repeatedly make things worse instead of better.

The question we should be asking ourselves is not: Am I right? but rather : Is what I’m saying helpful?

What would happen if your focus moved from arguing your point to truly listening to your partner and repairing the hurt between you?

At the end of the day, which matters more: being right or being happy? Being right or staying in connection? Being right or feeling loved? Being right or feeling secure in your relationship? Being right or being the right kind of partner?

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