Narcissist Abuse Survivor Coaching

07/25/2025

If you are a survivor of narcissistic abuse, you understand this back and forth cycle of emotional abuse very clearly.

You deserve a healthy love where someone does not push and pull you away!💗

In the beginning, the narcissist is so into you. You are walking on cloud nine. But after three or four months, you start noticing things. Things that make you want to run. They apologize and you go back.

Or you don’t say anything, and stuff it inside, because you think maybe you were imagining things or exaggerating. But even in those moments, you are not running towards a partner. You’re being cautious and you are to make your narc comfortable. You stop bringing up problems because when you do, there’s a blow up …and now you are in the cycle of abuse.

Stable relationships may have up-and-downs, but they are not daily or weekly thoughts of, “I need to get out of this… “

While it is normal for all of us to question ourselves & our partners from time to time, there are so many red flags that make you want to run from the narc daily.

And as we all know, eventually you’re making a plan to escape, and your initial instincts to run away were right all along…

07/20/2025

Stable people want their partners to feel safe, secure, and loved.

Narcissists are not stable people.

They are chaotic, scheming, tantrum throwing maniacs.

Narcissists feel happy and strong when their partners (aka their villain…) feel anxious and insecure.

Narcissists are very content when pushing your boundaries because they believe they are winning control and you are losing yourself. You are losing pieces of yourself every day you stay with a narcissist.

A relationship with a narc truly is a rabbit hole to nowhere.

You don’t have to live this way. Get support you deserve a healthy love, and you deserve to heal. 💗”25 Ways Narcissist Abuse Survivor Workbook” is available on Amazon.

07/18/2025

How many times were you told, “You’re imagining that?”After being told this hundreds or thousands of times, you begin dulling your senses. You start ignoring body cues (and often basic instincts) for survival.How can you possibly move toward what and who is right for you when you’re not even giving yourself permission to feel safe and listen to body cues for survival? Just as the narcissist wants….Visit my website: narcissistabusesurvivor.com or links in my profile to check out my books on Amazon or to schedule a wellness session.

07/18/2025

Did you know that believing promises without long term observation of a partner’s behaviors is a form of fawning?

It is a trauma response.

Everyone behaves well at the beginning of a relationship. We want to put our best selves forward.

Narcissists love bomb with false promises plus lavish attention & committed investment in appearing like a caring partner.

How do you know if this is real? Take. Your. Time.

This is not a race. Be optimistic & enjoy the process while also refusing to invest your heart until six months or more of observation of not only a guy’s behavior but also YOUR intuitive thoughts when something feels “off.”

07/14/2025

Many survivors are conditioned to staying in dysfunctional situations out of a sense of obligation.Take inventory of which relationships and activities. Do not serve your wellness. You might discover this by asking yourself, do I feel energized or exhausted by this person or experience?Often a connection or activity which used to inspire or nourish us no longer serves that purpose because we have changed, the experience or person changed, or both.Find support to overcome any guilt or shame you feel out of going towards a new path in life. Many of us women feel anxious & guilty about moving on from relationships & activities we have outgrown. Sometimes what we consider an obligation is actually a habit or an arrangement which is not in the best interest of our health and wellness. By letting go of what no longer serves us, we are creating space for going towards the people and experiences which are now more aligned with who we are in the present day.

07/11/2025

Sometimes it is impossible to put into words.

You have tried yo block out the painful memories of abuse while also trying to move forward.

Talking things through with an experienced, trained professional helps you heal. Your friends can only do so much…

Call me for a session. Text or email, Links are in my profile. You can also find my self help book on Amazon, “25 Ways Narcissist Abuse Survivor Workbook.” 

You don’t have to go through this alone. 💗

07/10/2025

After narcissistic abuse, many survivors worry they were lured into the narc web because they were a good person.

You did nothing wrong by being happy and good!! They did by NOT being a good person. 💗 https://www.facebook.com/100064354736875/posts/1142846274537186/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Stronger relationships, a firmer sense of self, and more.