Surviving Your Abusive Ex

08/23/2025

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💜 YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
REACH OUT NOW
www.hotline.org
1-800-799-7233
24/7
They will help you get
away SAFELY 💜

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08/19/2025

Abusers are so wily and manipulative. There are infinite ways that they can tear down their partner. It is often so difficult to put your finger on exactly what is happening. For me, I kept trying to fix ME to make him happy. That was a losing battle. The more I did, the worse I was treated.
https://carolineabbott.com/2013/08/what-is-emotional-abuse/

08/19/2025

🚨 Strangulation: Often Missed, Always Dangerous

When Tyesha Wayne told police her boyfriend had strangled her until she lost consciousness, they didn’t believe her. No marks meant no arrest—so she was the one taken to jail. Months later, he attacked her again.

Strangulation is the highest predictor of homicide in domestic violence cases. It can leave no visible injuries, yet cause unconsciousness, brain damage, or death. Law enforcement must be trained to recognize the signs, ask the right questions, and identify the true primary aggressor.

Hidden homicides—murders staged as suicides or accidents—happen far too often. Advocates estimate 1,000 or more in the U.S. each year.

Learn the critical steps law enforcement should take and the warning signs everyone should know: 🔗 https://buff.ly/W2obfwt

08/06/2025

The National Domestic Violence Hotline in collaboration with the National Hotline Consortium, is conducting a survey to learn about victims and survivors’ experiences with online abuse and harassment, also known as tech-facilitated abuse.

📝 Complete the anonymous survey today, and make your voice heard! Sharing your insights will help shape future services and policies and expand resources for survivors nationwide. The survey should only take five minutes.

Click here to take the survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FKHQ6ZC

08/06/2025

I tried.
I really did.
So many ways, so many times, I tried to reach out, communicate, start somewhere to heal the wounds.
But every time, I was left holding the wreckage.
I don’t even think you knew what you were doing, the pain, regret and distrust just began to control you and honestly, I don’t know when you stopped being you..
And started being someone completely different
Someone filled with rage, apathy and hatred-
A person I don’t even recognize any more.
You’d say it was my fault, I did this or that- and yes, I have made mistakes and I’m far from perfect.
But no matter what I tried to do to repair, recover and fix, the further it slipped away.
Everything I did, tried, hoped-those things didn’t matter- it was even expected- and any tiny mistake became a glaring proof of my terrible character.
Any time I tried to tell you how something made me feel.. you told me I was attacking you.
I just wanted to communicate.
And you never heard me.
I don’t think you ever will again, and I’ve made peace with that.
You’ve always held onto any pain and hurt, letting it get woven it into your soul so that you never truly let it go.
It will only get heavier as time goes on and you’ll never let anyone truly get close to you.
Even the best friend and others don’t really know you- they know the version you let them see.
The pain, distrust and anger grow, it will define you, shackle you, hurt you for the rest of your life and for that, I’m sad.
It breaks my heart that you can’t see what’s happening because the pain blinds you.
But as I’ve been reminded once more, I can’t save you, no matter how much I once loved the person you were..
Because that person is dead.
As I say goodbye to what was, it stings a little knowing what we had was beautiful..
But maybe forever aren’t words meant for people, but places and things.
I’m closing the chapter knowing I gave my all- and it would never have been enough.
After all, for a bridge to bring two hearts back to each other, it takes both sides..
And sadly, I know that my side would never have been enough.
|ravenwolf

08/06/2025

And hey - if you ever want to send me a message of a thing you did - I'll totally cheerlead you.

08/06/2025

Zenda-Lee Williams
Survivor 💜🇿🇦

08/06/2025

Reach out NOW bc YOU ARE NOT ALONE 💜💜💜
*The website is hotline.org
The services are available 24/7

They will tell you how to get out safely. Please don't become another statistic!!!💜 become a SURVIVOR OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE NOT A VICTIM.

08/06/2025