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02/27/2025

There Is a Way Out—And There Is Hope
I didn’t always know I was living in abuse.

At 19, I found myself in a physically abusive relationship, pregnant with my daughter, and trying to protect my two-year-old son from the violence we endured. Every time his stepfather raised a hand to him, I stepped in, believing that absorbing the blows myself was my way of standing up for him. I thought that was love. I thought that was strength.

But what I didn’t realize then was that abuse had surrounded me my whole life. It wasn’t just this relationship—it had been woven into my upbringing, hidden in plain sight. I only saw it clearly when I finally healed, when I could step back and connect the pieces.

The fear of being a single mother to two children kept me trapped. The shame of admitting what was happening, the belief that I had somehow failed, pushed me to endure it longer than I should have. Eventually, I found the courage to leave—only to step into another form of abuse. This time, it wasn’t fists. It was words. Control. Manipulation. A slow, quiet erosion of my self-worth.

That relationship lasted 13 years.

I became numb. Survival mode became my default. I poured everything into working hard and providing for my children, thinking that if I could give them a better life on the outside, it would somehow erase the pain on the inside. But I was only masking reality.

Then, in 2019, my world shattered.

My son—my beautiful, loving boy—overdosed. He had fallen in love with someone who was mentally abusive, trapped in the same cycle I had unknowingly modeled. It was then that I knew something had to change.

I couldn't let this cycle continue. Not for my children. Not for me.

Six years later, I can say with absolute certainty that healing is possible. I have done the deep, painful, necessary work to untangle the layers of my past. I have forgiven myself. I have rebuilt a beautiful, open relationship with my children—one rooted in love, trust, and safety. They know they can come to me with anything. No judgment. Just support. Just love.

And most importantly, I know the cycle ends here.

Now, I dedicate my life to helping survivors reconnect with their inner child, heal the wounds of their past, and reclaim the freedom they were always meant to have. Letting go of past mistakes is one of the most important steps in healing. Forgiveness—real, deep, soul-level forgiveness—starts with ourselves.

If you are in an abusive relationship and feel like there is no way out, I want you to hear me: There is hope. There is a way out. And you deserve healing.

I don’t speak from a place of judgment, and I don’t speak from a pedestal. I speak from experience. I speak from love.

You are not alone. You are not broken. And you are so much stronger than you think.

Healing is possible—and you deserve it.

02/25/2025

“𝐓𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐧𝐞𝐬 𝐇𝐢𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧—𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐈𝐭 𝐀𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐀𝐧𝐲𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞”

You’re the one who keeps it all together.
The one everyone leans on.
The provider. The problem solver. The one who survives no matter what.

But deep down?
You’re exhausted.
You overthink every decision.
You overgive, hoping it’ll make you feel enough.
You overwork, just to avoid the pain that creeps in when things get quiet.

𝐈 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
I was you.

For years, I thought I had it all—a marriage, a family, a life I worked so hard to build. And then, in the most fragile moment of my life—the day after my son transitioned to spirit—it all crumbled. My husband left. Just like that.

I was blindsided.

Suddenly, I was a single mom, grieving my son, questioning my worth, drowning in shame for not seeing the signs sooner. The guilt ate me alive. “I should’ve left. I should’ve protected my kids. I should’ve known better.”

Sound familiar?

I see so many survivors carrying this same invisible weight.
You push through.
You achieve.
You survive.

But surviving isn’t living.

And the truth is—𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠… 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮. It buries you deeper.

Here’s what I learned the hard way:
The chains that held me down weren’t the people who left or the mistakes I made.
𝐈𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡.

But here’s the part that changed everything for me—𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐲 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭. 𝐈𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭.

I finally realized:

• I didn’t have to punish myself for my mistakes.
• I didn’t have to carry shame as proof of my pain.
• I could stop surviving and actually start living.

𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐁𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞:

1. 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭:
You did the best you could with what you knew. Healing begins when you stop fighting the past and start forgiving yourself.

2. 𝐏𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐈𝐧𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝:
You’ve spent your life giving everything to everyone else. It’s time to turn that love back on yourself—because you can’t truly thrive when you’re running on empty.

3. 𝐁𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐍𝐨𝐰:
Healing doesn’t live in the what ifs or the should haves. It lives right here, right now. You deserve peace in this moment—not someday down the line.

𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞. 𝐍𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

Let’s talk.

This isn’t about reliving your pain. It’s about releasing it.
This isn’t therapy that keeps you stuck in your story. It’s about transforming it.

𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐥. 𝐍𝐨 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞. 𝐍𝐨 𝐣𝐮𝐝𝐠𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭. Just one survivor to another, helping you see what’s possible on the other side of survival—𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐣𝐨𝐲.

You’ve given so much to everyone else.
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭—𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

I’ve walked this path. I’ve broken the chains.
And I’m here to help you do the same.

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐛𝐲—
𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐞, 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐮𝐩.

02/25/2025

“ℕ𝕒𝕣𝕔𝕚𝕤𝕤𝕚𝕤𝕥 𝕧𝕤. 𝔼𝕞𝕡𝕒𝕥𝕙: 𝕋𝕨𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕕𝕖𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕊𝕒𝕞𝕖 𝕎𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕”

I see so many posts about narcissistic relationships, often painting narcissism as an incurable disease—something fixed and unchangeable. And while it’s true that narcissistic behaviors can be deeply harmful, I want to offer a different lens—one that empowers healing on both sides.

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠:

Both the narcissist and the empath are often trauma-learned identities.

•The 𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭 built walls of control and superiority to mask deep wounds of unworthiness.

•The 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡 learned to overgive, overfeel, and seek external validation to feel “enough.”

Both are survival mechanisms. Both are rooted in pain. But here’s the hope: 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞—𝐢𝐟 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝.

For those who feel stuck in these dynamics, especially for the sake of the children, I want to gently challenge that narrative. We often say, “I’m staying for the kids,” but deep down, we know: 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝. They internalize the dynamics they witness and often grow up to be either the victim or the abuser.

Staying isn’t the only way to protect them—𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐲𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐢𝐬.

But if you feel you must stay for now, then the most powerful thing you can do is start shifting your own identity. When the empath stops seeking validation, sets boundaries, and begins healing their own wounds, something powerful happens:

•The narcissist loses their control dynamic.

•They are forced to adapt—or the relationship will naturally fall out of alignment.

Sometimes, this creates balance. Other times, it leads to necessary separation. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐞𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐚𝐲, 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐢𝐧.

𝐓𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤:

You are not powerless.
You can stop playing small.
You can stop sacrificing your peace for someone else’s dysfunction.

Because in the end, the greatest gift you can give your children isn’t a two-parent household at any cost—it’s showing them what 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡, 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲 look like.

𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬.

Why not you?

10/31/2024

Did you know that over 90% of our actions, choices, and thoughts are driven by the subconscious mind? 🌌💭

It’s like a hidden engine, powering everything we do—even when we think we’re fully in control. Many of these patterns and beliefs were set long ago, shaping how we show up in life today. 🌱✨
As a Transformational Coach and RTT therapist, I guide clients into their subconscious, helping them release old fears, self-doubt, and outdated beliefs holding them back. Imagine letting go of the thoughts that no longer serve you and stepping into a life aligned with your true potential. 🌌

The conscious mind may handle the day-to-day, but the subconscious is the powerhouse behind lasting change. When we access this inner space and reframe those deep-rooted beliefs, everything becomes possible…self-worth, empowered relationships, career success, and so much more.
If you’re ready to unleash the incredible power within and create meaningful, lasting transformation, let’s take that step together.

09/16/2023

Words have power! Use them right and Bless yourself and others 🙏

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09/01/2023

I'm so glad I didn't allow the distractions to get in my way!! It took me 2 hours instead of 30-45 minutes, however I'm so proud of myself 🙌🙏👏👏👏 now I get to enjoy this beautiful place! How blessed am I to call this beautiful place the place I work from!! Don't give up on your dreams, and always keep pushing to get to your destination. No matter the distance or distractions that come in to your path 💯 🙏

08/28/2023

I'm packed up and ready for the journey 🙏

08/26/2023

What is the prayer for Psalm 44?

Even though my eyes don't see you, you are there; even though my hands cannot touch you, you are there; even when my mind forgets you, you are there. Please, Lord, come to my help; come to my aid! In these days of distress, cover me with your steadfast love and deliver me🙏🙌🌈✨️

08/24/2023

Good morning!! To all the Mamma Bears! Keep praying 🙏 keep praising 🙌 He hears you!! I promise if we unite we will bring our children back to him! Don't EVER GIVE UP

Reba McEntire · Sing It Now: Songs Of Faith & Hope · Song · 2017

07/22/2023

**Just topic a of discussion**

Are you a parent to a teenager? How open are your conversations with them? Do you talk to them about the topics that your parents would never have?

Here is my personal experience, I was not opened minded with my 1st born. I was not educated about those topics and I went by what my mom and other adults have thought me. 2019 made that change 100%. Instead of blaming myself for my son's death I got closer to God and my spiritual life. Not necessarily religion, but just that connection directly with Him. Listening to Christian music, meditation, prayer and just recently Journaling. I have researched topics such as addiction, healing, meditation, 3rd eye and benefits of hallucinogenics and their healing properties.

This video caught my attention and I believe if your teen has asked or mentioned wanting to try hallucinogenics this is information they need to know. If they are not prepared and they go and try this things with friends just because they have heard about it being cool, this could can be bad. I believe that if people are in a good mental health and are seeking for healing, psychedelic therapy can be great with amazing healing powers.

Remember, teens will do things if they set their mind to it. The more you fight with them, the more they will want to do it. Yea, when they are grown they will thank you and appreciate you protecting them. But until then, my suggestion is to have open communication and share information with them. Teach them and be honest with them. Don't jump the gun and get upset with them if they ask you a question about these topics. If you don't know the answer, do your own research until you know the answer. Help them navigate. You are here to guide them, not take the wheel.

In one of my journeys, what I learned was that us humans are the vessel. In this anolagy humans are the "car/driver" and God is our "PGS". We all have a set destination, God set that destination from day 1. Well, as you all know, during traffic and because us humans think we know it all, we tend to "exit" and try to find our own way. We don't listen to the GPS no matter how many times it tries to redirect us back to the shortest route. Once we get back on the "highway" we realize that the slow down wasn't that bad and that we should have just stayed, be patient with the slowdown and wait for traffic to pick up again. Exiting and trying to find our own way can potentially turn out to a long road, maybe other stand stills or even worse, we might get lost(die) without finding our destination that He had for us to get to and enjoy.

I know this is long, but if you got to this part of my message. Don't Exit!! Stay focused and know that even with the slow downs in life if you stay focused you will get to that happy place! Love you all 💖✨️🙏

The five distinct levels of the psychedelic experience range from very mild sensations to intense hallucinations. These levels can serve as a useful guide wh...

06/26/2023

Good morning Mamma and Pappa Bears! Have you heard Lamar Odoms story? If you haven't I recommend you watch his amazing testimony 💖🙏

Many people judge other's without understanding the reasons behind their "choices", what if it really wasn't a choice? What if we as society change the perspective as to why someone starts drugs or any type of addiction. What if we start having empathy for those whom have gone through severe trauma and all they are doing is trying to block their pain, just to then realize that it was just Satan's way to place a stronghold on them/us? It's time to unite in a journey of healing ✨️

God (if you struggle with the word God, replace it with the universe)has placed so many wonderful plants to help us cure and live a successful life. You just need to believe and trust. Trust the journey 🙏✨️💖

This documentary follows the two-time NBA world champion's journey to break his addiction and anxiety by using groundbreaking psychedelic medicines.