11/27/2024
Not sure how to respond to problematic others indirect and passive aggressive comments over the holidays? Feel like you just have to nod and smile and get along? That’s not uncommon—as q***rs the larger society has placed the burden of “keeping the peace” on us, at the expense of our peace of mind, well-being, and sense of worth.
Here’s a helpful phrase—it’s really simple and you can practice it anywhere and anytime:
I’m sorry, I’m not sure what you mean by that. Can you clarify before I respond?
I’m not sure that I read your words and your tone as meaning the same. Can you help me understand your meaning/intent?
Keep direct eye contact and make your face pleasantly neutral. Play dumb. Watch them squirm. Keep the eye contact.
Monitor your own emotions and reactions. Do what you need to do to stay safe and in your strength.
And remember, it is 100% ok to not go or to leave as soon as you want.
Take care of you, and share your experience, strength, and hope here with us all!
Thank you!