12/22/2024
As someone who struggles with religious trauma, and other sorts of PTSD, this timeline in the world feels extra difficult. I woke up this morning after several days of actually resting and intentionally letting go, and I had this thought come to me.
I have NEVER been someone who has said you MUST forgive those who have hurt you in order to heal. This puts so much extra burden on the victim! What if…we stand in our power, in our BOUNDARIES in our SELF-LOVE and declare them released from the burden that they should have already corrected their behavior/said they were sorry/dealt with the pain they caused - and just let them shuffle themselves out?
To me, this validates our self-agency and continues our power to make choices - thus also releasing ourselves from the expectation that if they ever change we must also then react accordingly. No! We owe them nothing. And by keeping that pain we continue to relive the hurt.
There are people we just need to redefine our relationships with. And we deserve it to release ourselves from whatever toxic thinking may exist here and shine our inner light. The world needs it and we deserve it. If the people who cannot see our light for what it is and celebrate us, there are plenty who will come along. But first, release the old pattern. Forgiving has so much baggage for me so the language shift is critical.
In the season of letting go and tending our inner light, let’s do this together!
Let me know your thoughts in the comments. I’m curious how this could shift your own perspectives.