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02/07/2026

A blindsiding breakup doesn’t just hurt — it fractures your sense of reality.

That’s why “just trust again” doesn’t work. Your nervous system didn’t get hurt… it got ambushed.

Rebuilding trust isn’t about believing no one will hurt you again.
It’s about knowing you can handle it and you’ll notice the signs sooner — without abandoning yourself to keep love.

Trust comes back quietly.
Through consistency with yourself, not certainty from others.

Follow if you’re done carrying unfinished heartbreak into new relationships.


02/06/2026

If chemistry has been your compass, this might sting a little.

Attraction doesn’t fail because you “miss red flags.”
It fails because speed hijacks discernment.

When your nervous system is activated, your brain stops observing and starts selling you on potential.
Slowing down isn’t boring — it’s how truth finally has time to surface.

This clip is step one of retraining attraction.
The full roadmap (and why it actually works) is live now


What is avoidant attachment? Not the social media version, but the research backed version. Read the rest in my blog fro...
02/06/2026

What is avoidant attachment? Not the social media version, but the research backed version.

Read the rest in my blog from this week! Comment BLOG to get it in your inbox!

02/05/2026

“60% of adults are securely attached.”
Not avoidant.
Not anxious.
Not emotionally unavailable.

So if most people are secure…
why do you keep dating the same emotionally unavailable person in different skin?

👉 It’s selection bias + nervous system conditioning.

Dating apps aren’t neutral environments.
They reward:
• optionality
• emotional distance
• low accountability
• infinite scrolling

So when apps are your main pool?
You’re not sampling reality.
You’re sampling who stays stuck the longest.

And that’s just Reason #1 out of 10.

🎥 Full video out NOW where I break down:
• why chemistry can be stress, not compatibility
• how your nervous system filters before your brain decides
• and the exact steps to retrain what you’re attracted to

You’re not broken.
You’re conditioned.
And conditioning can change.

02/04/2026

Disorganized attachment is wanting closeness…
and panicking the moment it arrives.

“I want you.”
“Don’t leave me.”
“This feels unsafe.”
“I can’t do this.”

It’s anxious and avoidant at the same time —
intense longing for connection followed by shutdown, numbness, and emotional whiplash.

This isn’t inconsistency.
It’s a nervous system caught between attachment and threat.

Check out my full AMA on attachment styles, where I break down disorganized attachment through trauma, neuroscience, and the nervous system — not shame or labels.

02/04/2026

If asking “What are we?” feels risky, it’s not because you’re too much.
It’s because you’re asking a question when you should be stating a direction.

Clarity isn’t pressure.
It’s information.

When you stop auditioning for reassurance and start naming where you’re going, avoidants reveal their capacity fast — in behavior, not promises.

If they disappear after that?
You didn’t scare them off.
You exposed a limit.

And that’s not a loss.
That’s self-respect.


02/02/2026

Anxious vs Avoidant attachment explained in one metaphor 🐟

If you don’t hold on tight enough, the fish slips away.
If you squeeze too hard, it slips away.

That’s the anxious–avoidant loop.

👉 Squeezing it to death = anxious attachment
👉 Not holding on at all = avoidant attachment
👉 The “just right” grip = secure attachment

Most relationship chaos isn’t about chemistry.
It’s about how your nervous system learned to hold closeness.

For more on relationship patterns and communication styles check out my video “What is Avoidant Attachment?” inspired by my bi-monthly Ask Me Anythings 💬



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