Cannell Wellness

04/07/2022

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A meme that says, “why don’t you make like a tree and slowly grow while helping others around you grow too.”]

04/05/2022

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03/27/2022

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Piece by .eequay

03/23/2022

FINISH THIS SENTENCE: “I love my past self because __________________.”

03/19/2022

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals.

Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others.

Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.

~ Pema Chödrön

art | Christian Schloe

03/09/2022

Source: https://twitter.com/bymariandrew?s=21

02/03/2022

Many of us learned that love was conditional. We had to work for it since we were children.

Many of us had to perform, to prove we were ‘good,’ or we had to completely deny our own emotions in order to cope with our environment.

We learned that love or approval could leave at any moment.

So, we learned to state our case. To over explain. To over apologize.

We learned to rationalize our ‘why’ + attempt to make another person see our side of things because at our core we are afraid. Afraid of being abandoned.

I often find myself over-explaining or wanting to over explain myself. I witness my mind coming up with dozens of reasons to support my “case” when I set a boundary. I witness myself reading a comment about me or my work online + I see my mind desperate to defend the truth as I see it.

I see my inner child afraid that not good enough. This is when we default to defense + explanation.

This is the best time to practice.

The truth is we do not need to defend our worth. We do not need to defend our truth. We do not need to apologize for our limits, our needs, our ambition, or dreams, or our desires— even when it brings up insecurities in those around us.

With healing, with developed self-trust + confidence comes less explaining + more BEING. Sovereign being.

Some reminders when you feel the urge to over-explain:

1. Boundaries are your right. People who guilt or shame you for your boundaries are struggling with their own abandonment wounding

2. Your reality + truth is always valid— simply because you’ve experienced it

3. People project their own sense of self + unresolved pain onto others (this is part of the human experience) personalizing this pain is a choice that can be un-learned

4. People with high self worth respect the needs of others— because they respect their own needs

5. Inner child wounding can create a scenario where 2 adults become children: practice self forgiveness + grace

01/26/2022

Our nervous system is like an alarm system in the body. When we feel we are in danger, the nervous system is activated to help us safe from the threat. This is how we evolved (+ why we are still here.)

Many of us have childhood attachment wounding: which means we were not safe to fully express our emotions, our environment was unpredictable, or we were on the other end of a parents inability to regulate their emotions— do they screamed, shamed, or punished, regularly.

From a young age we learned to be hyper-vigilant. Always scanning the room to see how a parent was doing or feeling, always attuned to shifts in mood or for the next crisis.

As we get older, many of us continue to feel unsafe because our nervous systems are in a chronic state of activation.

Our bodies are brilliant. So we adapt + find ways to feel a false sense of safety. Sometimes through drinking (to take the “edge off”), using substances, dissociating (being physically present and mentally gone) workaholism or chronic busyness, or complete avoidance or escape from life through isolation.

These coping mechanisms allow us to leave our bodies. It’s not that our nervous system isn’t dysregulated, it’s just that we escape *feeling* it.

This is why meditation or feeling any “inner” experience in the body can be so stressful when we don’t feel safe. We might have racing thoughts, or intense sensations in the body NOT because we are meditating: but because we are being present to what we normally are distracted from— the stressful feeling of dysregulation. So we pick up our phones + start scrolling, fill that glass of wine, or say yes to an obligation even though we are way behind our capacity to just stay busy.

The practice of consciousness is the practice of returning to the body. It’s something I do daily. A few minutes of deep breathing where I focus on exhaling stress energy. A walk where I focus on the view of the mountains beyond me. A short yoga practice where I breathe into tight parts of my body.

Learning to feel safe is a practice. Understanding WHY you don’t feel safe in a moment is the gift of self awareness

12/06/2021

What do you say to a sister
who is about to
enter the sea
when you don’t know if she will be met
with storms or calm water
when you don’t know what
journey awaits and
how she’ll make it to shore

What do you say to a sister
when you see her scan the horizon
hesitant and unsure
when you know her fear
and the work that lays ahead
when you know she’ll come out the other side
Changed

Softer perhaps. Or maybe scarred.
But stronger, too, no doubt.

You walk with her as deep as you can into those waters
and you hold her close, as long as you can
and then you let go
and let her dive deep
knowing there are parts of this journey
she must make alone
knowing there are storms that she must face on her own

And you stand, a lighthouse, the shore
as she becomes one with the sea

~ Words and Art by Catie Atkinson
Spirit Y Sol
www.linktr.ee/spiritysol

12/05/2021

“There is a wild woman under our skin who wants nothing more than to dance until her feet are sore, sing her beautiful grief into the rafters, and offer the bottomless cup of her creativity as a way of life. And if you are able to sing from the very wound that you’ve worked so hard to hide, not only will it give meaning to your own story, but it becomes a corroborative voice for others with a similar wounding.”

~ Toko-pa Turner
www.toko-pa.com

Art by Beth Wildwood
www.bethwildwood.com