03/23/2026
There is a profound difference between being valued for who you are and being valued for what you provide.
When love is conditional on your performance, it is not connection, it is a transaction.
We exhaust ourselves trying to be the perfect partner, the perfect friend, the perfect child, hoping that if we just do enough, we will finally be enough.
But genuine love does not require a resume.
Find the people who love you when you are entirely un-useful to them.
That is where real safety lives.