Divorce and Grief Recovery

01/15/2026

If today feels heavy, you’re not alone.
Someone is glad you exist. ♥️
📞 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.)

Supportive Grounding Strategies for Depression & Regulation of our Nervous System:

Even one of these is enough:

• Take a shower (hot or cold; just let the water run)

• Apply lotion and change into clean, comfy clothes

• Drink cold water (ice, lemon, or mint if helpful)

• Do one small task (a few dishes, one drawer, a load of laundry)

• Listen to music: move, hum, or simply listen

• Prepare a simple meal (or your favorite meal)

• Create something: write, draw, color, build, or craft

• Step outside or take a short walk. Gently orient your senses: notice 8 things you can hear, 8 you can see, smell, or feel, at your own pace.

• Rearrange furniture in a room: small environmental changes can help shift stuck thought patterns.

• Connect with another person: call, text, or listen to a friendly voice

• Spend time with a pet, touch and connection matter

SOMEONE IS ALWAYS LISTENING

These may seem small, but small regulated actions can interrupt isolation, reduce stress, and save lives.

💛 Your worth does not disappear because you’re struggling.

You matter exactly as you are!

If you feel unsafe or overwhelmed, help is available:
📞 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline

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01/12/2026

Clever analogy! And so true

Grief is like glitter.

The moment your world shatters, it’s as if someone threw it into the air — and it rained down over everything. It settles into your skin, your hair, the deepest cracks of your life.

You try to sweep it up, desperate to feel in control of something. You think you’ve cleared it away… until it shows up again. Months later. Years later. In the corner of a picture frame you dust every week. On the sleeve of a sweater you’ve worn a dozen times without noticing it was there. Stuck to the floor where the light hits just right and suddenly it’s undeniable again.

You’ll never get it all. It will always be there — this glitter of grief, catching the light in both beautiful and brutal ways.
Written by: Aimee Suyko - In Their Footsteps

12/24/2025

Christmas is sometimes a difficult holiday when we are grieving the loss a loved one. Let me encourage you, if you are having a difficult time this Christmas, to remember the reason we celebrate: the birth of the one who knows us best and loves us the most. Let me also encourage you to reach out if you need help.

“Love life enough to struggle.” -Olga

12/13/2025

Today we celebrated our veterans with Wreaths Across America. Before the end of the day, every military grave will have a wreath.  It is a class act, and I am proud to have been able to personally place Milt‘s wreath.

11/30/2025

The holidays can be almost impossible during times of grief...but help is available! Here are some pointers for getting through them:
https://youtu.be/_6jyJztapSM?si=C6srd_-AxVR11wYf

You Will Survive!

It would be nice if we could duck our life crisis: pull a blanket over our heads, close our eyes, and let it pass us by. It would be nice is we could wave a ...

08/31/2025

We don’t often honor, bereaved fathers. Love and blessings to them, especially today.

Today is International Bereaved Fathers Day.

I keep thinking about the dads who carry their grief differently. The ones who stay quiet. Who don’t always cry where anyone can see. Who fix the broken things around the house because they can’t fix what’s really broken.

I think of the dads who still say their child’s name under their breath when no one’s around. The dads who replay the last time they hugged their child. The last laugh. The last “love you.”

Some people don’t notice their pain because it doesn’t look like tears. It looks like silence. Or working late. Or holding it together so the rest of us can fall apart.

But I see it. I feel it. And I know so many of you do too.

Today belongs to those fathers who love their child as fiercely as ever… even when the world doesn’t see it.

08/27/2025

07/22/2025

07/11/2025

Wow! Worth the read

I Wasn’t Loved—I Was Useful
They liked me because I was easy.
Easy to talk to.
Easy to lean on.
Easy to forget.

I said yes when I wanted to say no.
Laughed when things weren’t funny.
Held space for people
who never once asked if I needed holding, too.

And now I’m angry.
Not just at them—
but at myself
for thinking that kindness would keep me safe.

1. I Became Who They Needed—Not Who I Was
In every room,
I scanned for cues.

What do they want?
Who do I need to be to stay loved?

I shape-shifted so well,
I forgot what my actual voice sounded like.

Because being authentic
felt like a risk I couldn’t afford.

2. I Confused Being Liked With Being Safe
If they like me, they won’t leave.
If I’m useful, I’ll matter.
If I’m low-maintenance, they’ll stay.

So I made myself easy to digest.
Softened every edge.
Apologized for my needs
before anyone had a chance to reject them.

But approval is a fragile currency.
And one day, I woke up bankrupt.

3. I Didn’t Burn Out—I Was Used Up
I wasn’t overreacting.
I was overextending.

And the weight of being “the good one”
crushed the parts of me
that longed to scream, cry, rage, and say NO.

I thought being nice would make people love me.
Instead, it made them forget I was human.

4. I’m Not Bitter—Just Finally Honest
I don’t want to be the safe choice anymore.
The reliable one.
The emotional sponge.

I want to be loved for my soul,
not my silence.

And if setting boundaries makes me hard to love—
then maybe they never loved me at all.

5. Final Word: I’m Done Performing
I’m not your emotional support human.
I’m not here to stay small so you feel big.
I’m not shrinking anymore
just to stay included.

If love requires disappearing,
I’d rather be alone.

Because I deserve to exist fully.
Loudly.
And unapologetically.

Credit: True Feeling