02/13/2026
Test to check toxicity .
Dunn’s Integrity Counseling
Relationship Toxicity Self-Assessment
Instructions:
This brief self-check is designed to help you identify unhealthy or toxic patterns in a relationship.
For each statement, circle the response that best applies:
0 = Never 1 = Sometimes 2 = Often
1. Communication
• My partner dismisses my feelings or tells me I am “too sensitive.”
0 1 2
• We argue but rarely resolve issues in a healthy way.
0 1 2
• I feel unheard, misunderstood, or emotionally invalidated.
0 1 2
2. Respect
• My partner insults, mocks, or belittles me.
0 1 2
• They embarrass me in front of others.
0 1 2
• My personal boundaries are ignored or minimized.
0 1 2
3. Control & Power
• My partner tries to control who I talk to, where I go, or what I wear.
0 1 2
• I feel like I am “walking on eggshells” around them.
0 1 2
• They use guilt, manipulation, threats, or silent treatment to get their way.
0 1 2
4. Emotional Safety
• I feel anxious, drained, or tense when I am around them.
0 1 2
• I have changed parts of myself to avoid conflict.
0 1 2
• I do not feel emotionally safe expressing my true thoughts and feelings.
0 1 2
5. Accountability
• My partner rarely apologizes or takes responsibility.
0 1 2
• Problems are usually blamed on me.
0 1 2
• They twist situations to make me question my reality (gaslighting).
0 1 2
Scoring Guide
Add your total score:
0–10 → Generally healthy, but some communication improvements may be needed.
11–20 → Concerning patterns are present. A serious conversation or counseling may be beneficial.
21–30 → High level of toxicity. Emotional harm may be occurring. Professional support is strongly recommended.
Immediate Red Flags
If any of the following are present, seek support immediately:
• Physical intimidation or violence
• Threats of harm
• Extreme jealousy or isolation
• Fear of your partner
Important Reminder
Toxic patterns can develop gradually. Awareness is the first step toward healing.
Healthy relationships are built on respect, safety, accountability, and mutual growth.
If you would like support in processing your results, please schedule a session.
