02/13/2023
The other day I was helping a family with a 3 day old learn to breastfeed. It was not a victory easily one, a consult that even left me sweating by the end. As we discussed a care plan for this family, the father shyly observed, βYou know, Iβve helped delivery a lot of calves and almost all of them can nurse. It is probably a silly comparison, but it seems funny that it is so hard for our baby.β He laughed self deprecatingly expecting me to tell him how very different a human baby is from a dairy calf. But he had struck a softly thrumming cord already filling my days with a low hum. βYour absolutely right,β I responded. βHuman babies should be able to breastfeed, just like the calves you helped deliver. It is a biological imperative that our young should be able to feed. The question is, why canβt they?β
I have been plagued by this realization in my practice. Babies are born to breastfeed, yet so many cannot. We place so much emphasis on the a motherβs right to choose how she feeds her baby we have somehow missed the fundamental issue at hand. Our young, just like any other specie, should be equipped with basic skills for survival, including the ability to eat. While humans have found a work around in bottling, a major gliche in our biology remains. Many of our babies cannot eat as biology intended, yet no one seems to be asking why.
It is not just our babies who are unable to breastfeed. Many motherβs are having more and more trouble lactating. Whether it is low supply, oversupply, recurrent mastitis, or the mental fugue of depression stealing their joy and capacity to manage these systems, it is impossible to deny women are struggling too. We can debate the origin of such trends tumbling down the rabbit hole of finger pointing, but I proffer it is conglomeration of inputs culminating in system failure. Just like an ecosystem going into decline, it is rarely one challenge that shifts cosmic balance toward destruction. It is one insult after another that tip the scales. It is no different with motherβs and babies.