Evolvement Behavioral Health

07/13/2025

07/13/2025

There’s nothing like parenting to show us just how much growing up WE still have to do.

We expect emotional regulation from children — while we yell, shame, and slam doors.
We demand maturity — while we model reactivity.
We want cooperation — while we dish out commands with no room for connection.

Children aren’t the problem.
Their behaviour is a mirror — reflecting what they’ve been shown, not what they were born knowing.

And too often, they’re punished for being human
by adults who haven’t yet learned how to handle their own humanness.

We expect children to regulate emotions we haven’t even mastered ourselves.
We punish them for being impulsive, reactive, overwhelmed —
as if those aren’t feelings we still battle, too.

Not only is emotional dysregulation normal for kids —
it’s normal for HUMANS. All of them.

But instead of helping them through it,
we often respond with the very behaviour we’re trying to correct…

We scold them for yelling, then raise our voice.
Demand they stay calm, while losing our cool.
Call them disrespectful, while dismissing their need for dignity.

The truth is: they’re not “misbehaving.”
They’re developing.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.

Because if we want to raise emotionally intelligent children, we have to become emotionally intelligent adults.

We have to pause more often.
Reflect more honestly.
And repair more bravely.

THIS is the work.
And it starts with us. ❤️

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07/09/2025

*Applications DUE: JULY 14, 2025*

Volunteers truly are the heart of what we do at La Piñon. ♥️

Are you interested in empowering survivors of sexual assault and child abuse with a community of support and healing through advocacy?

Then we need you!

For more questions give us a call at 575-526-3437 or send an email to Paul and Patricia.

Emails: Paul@lapinon.org and Patricia@lapinon.org.

07/06/2025

When your child messes up, the way you respond shapes how safe they feel in the world.

Not just with you, but with themselves.

If every mistake is met with judgment or harsh words, they don’t learn better behavior.
They learn to hide.
They learn to be afraid of being human.

But if they see you pause and choose calm, they learn that mistakes are a part of life.
They learn it’s safe to be seen—even when they’re struggling.
They learn that love doesn’t disappear when things get hard.

This is how you become their safe place.
Not by being perfect, but by staying present.

06/29/2025

Art of Parenteen ❤️

06/29/2025

For many children (and adults), “sorry” becomes a quick fix to escape the discomfort of repair. But true repair is more than a word—it’s a process.

If your child blurts out an apology in frustration, it doesn’t mean they aren’t sorry—it just means they need guidance on how to make it meaningful.

Instead of demanding politeness, pause and teach: 💬 “Let’s talk about what happened.”
💛 “Can you see how they might be feeling?”
🛠 “What can we do to make things right?”

This is how children learn empathy, accountability, and emotional safety—not from forced apologies, but from compassionate connection.

It takes longer. But it lasts a lifetime.

✨ Want more tools like this? Find them in my book or visit www.thetherapistparent.com

06/20/2025

It's officially 😎🌴🍦🚤🍧
The days are longer & the sun is shining—but sometimes some of us don't feel as bright. If you're struggling with mental health or substance misuse challenges, help is available.

💛 Help yourself & share to help others: samhsa.gov/find-help

06/17/2025

ℹ️🌿 GRIEVING THE PARENT WE NEVER HAD |

Some of us are fortunate enough to have a parent who satisfies our basic needs for love, provision, protection, wisdom, and joy. We experience this through a collection of meaningful moments and sensations — this might include hugs, laughter, the preparation of our favorite meals, and their admiration for who we are as a person.

We might even experience it through lengthy stories and lectures that we might feel weary of and yet gratefully learn from, despite our groanings to the contrary.

There are also many of us who have not experienced these things. Some of us have abusive, toxic, neglectful, cruel, and selfish parents; parents who abandoned us; or parents we lost before we got to know them at all. This creates a longing for the parent that we never had, the parent we wish we had, and the parent we dream about.

Read the Full Article: https://humantold.com/blog/grieving-the-parent-we-never-had/



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