02/23/2026
You might think that your morning routine is simply a set of familiar actions: waking up, grabbing your phone, and pouring your coffee. It’s quick, comfortable, and for a few moments, it gives you a sense of momentum.
However, if your mornings are already tinged with a sense of tension, or if anxiety creeps in before your day even begins, it’s important to consider: what is that cup of coffee doing in a body that hasn’t been nourished yet?
Here are a few questions worth reflecting on, especially if you’ve been feeling more jittery or emotionally stretched than usual.
1. What’s already happening in your body before the caffeine hits?
Is your jaw tight even before you get out of bed? Coffee not only stimulates your brain but also activates your stress response. If your nervous system is already on high alert, caffeine can add even more intensity to unresolved stress.
2. Is this coffee a ritual or a placeholder?
Sometimes, it's not the drink that you're truly craving. Instead, it may be the feeling of control, the small sense of certainty, or the warmth it provides. There’s nothing wrong with that; however, it’s important to distinguish between a grounding ritual and a coping mechanism that keeps you stuck in a cycle.
3. How long does it take for you to feel settled after that first cup?
If you experience sudden bursts of energy followed by feelings of irritability, tiredness, or even shakiness, it’s important to recognize that it’s not just a mental issue. Your blood sugar, cortisol levels, and gut health all play a role in this process.
4. Are you choosing coffee or defaulting to it?
Once something becomes automatic, it ceases to be a decision. Simply take a moment to ask yourself: Do I truly want this right now, or am I reaching for it out of habit? -- is not about judgment; it’s about having agency. And agency itself is a form of regulation.
There's nothing wrong with loving coffee, but if it's the first thing your body encounters in the morning, it's worth reassessing that relationship.