Windmills of the Mind

26/03/2025

Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of any romantic relationship, arising from differences in opinions, needs, values, or expectations. It manifests in various forms, from minor disagreements over daily routines to more significant disputes about long-term goals or fundamental beliefs. Understanding the nature of conflict is essential for navigating it effectively and fostering a healthy, enduring partnership.

Healthy conflicts are characterized by respectful communication, mutual understanding, and a genuine desire to resolve differences. In these situations, both partners feel safe to express their thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment or retaliation. Healthy conflicts often lead to constructive outcomes, such as improved communication, deeper intimacy, and strengthened trust. They provide an opportunity for partners to address underlying issues, negotiate compromises, and align their goals more closely.

In contrast, unhealthy conflicts are marked by hostility, defensiveness, and a lack of constructive dialogue. These conflicts often involve personal attacks, shouting, or passive-aggressive behaviors that escalate tensions rather than resolve them. Unhealthy conflicts can erode trust, breed resentment, and create emotional distance between partners. When conflicts consistently follow this negative pattern, they can undermine the foundation of the relationship, leading to chronic dissatisfaction and instability.

Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of any romantic relationship, arising from differences in opinions, needs, values, or expectations. It manifests in various forms, from minor disagreements over daily routines to...

09/12/2024

Dear Family, Friends, and Colleagues,

I am thrilled to share some exciting news with you—my first book, “Relationship Series: Healing from Infidelity & Rebuilding Trust,” has been published!

This workbook is a heartfelt blend of my clinical expertise and personal experiences, crafted to serve as a practical and compassionate guide for anyone navigating the complex journey of healing after infidelity. My hope is that it empowers readers to move forward, rebuild trust, and discover a renewed sense of wholeness and emotional freedom.

You can find the book on Amazon through this link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DN8FDF3H.

Your encouragement and support mean the world to me. Thank you for being a part of this journey.

14/11/2024

The article "The Impact of Perceived Leadership Effectiveness on Job Satisfaction among Mental Health Practitioners in Nonprofit Organization" has been officially published in the Journal of Organizational Psychology.

In this publication, I delve into the topic of how perceived leadership effectiveness can impact job satisfaction among mental health practitioners in nonprofit organizations. This work explores the various factors that can cause employees practicing in the field of psychology to feel more motivated at their job.

A heartfelt thank you to my co-authors, advisors, and the editorial team for their invaluable support and collaboration throughout this journey. For further reading on this topic, please visit: https://articlegateway.com/index.php/JOP/article/view/6918.

10/09/2024

September 10 is National Su***de Prevention Day🎗️. If you’re struggling, it’s ok to share your feelings. Talk to someone, help is always available by dialing or text 988.

10/07/2024

Our Behavioral Health Team had a great time filming an awareness campaign about the risks of fentanyl at the scenic Great Park in City of Irvine. Even small amounts of fentanyl can be deadly. We also handed out free naloxone kits, which can save lives by reversing overdoses. Learn more at Fentanylisforever.org.

22/05/2024

25/03/2024

The debate of “Nature vs. Nurture” comes up frequently in the field of biology and psychology as researchers and clinicians attempt to understand the factors influenced an individual’s personality outcome. Taking a closer at this debate will allow us a deeper insight into the development of an individual’s physical and psychological traits.

Nativism (Extreme Nature Position): is a perspective that assumes all characteristics of the human species as a whole are a product of evolution and that individual differences are due to each person’s unique genetic cod...

19/03/2024

Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is a psychology approach that focuses on cognition such as thinking, learning, analyzing, remembering, etc. The core concept theorizes that people’s thoughts and thinking patterns are the root causes for their problems such as anxiety and depression. CBT therapists view individuals as being capable of both rational and maladaptive thoughts at the same time. Some people tend to be more optimistic and better at self-motivation, whereas others are more prone toward pessimism and self-defeating thoughts. Therefore, the goal of CBT is to make clients aware of the maladaptive behaviors that they are experiencing. During the sessions, CBT therapists are often direct and actively teaching their clients how to dispute their irrational thought and replace it with more adaptive ones.

Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is a psychology approach that focuses on cognition processes such as thinking, learning, analyzing, and doing. The core concept theorizes that people’s thoughts and thinking patterns are ...

15/03/2024

Are you emotionally secure? According to Harvard Psychologist: you might be more emotionally secure than most if you answer "yes" to any of these 9 questions.

1. Can you listen to different perspectives you disagree with?
2. Can you set healthy boundaries?
3. Can you admit when you're wrong?
4. Do you know your core values and beliefs?
5. Can you express negative emotions respectfully?
6. Can you take criticism from others?
7. Do you continually strive to change and grow?
8. Can you stop yourself from reacting impulsively?
9. Do you trust that you'll be okay, no matter what challenges come your way?

Being emotionally secure does not guarantee an easier life. However, emotionally secure people tend to deal with hardship with a general acceptance and optimism. It is a key in boosting our overall mental well-being and having the confidence in trying new things without the fear of rejection.