Golden State Psychological Services

10/25/2023

Fellow therapists and counselors,
CAN YOU HELP ISRAEL?

If you are a therapist, social worker, coach, or the like and /or are willing to be a listening ear until a person can reach professional help, please volunteer for S.A.N.E. (Save A Neshamah Endowment), led by Miriam Yerushalmi, in this time of crisis. Miriam is organizing S.A.N.E. for Israel, a registry of volunteers to provide counseling through a toll-free number. If you are interested in volunteering please fill out this form https://forms.gle/Yi7VhGyGi59i8Boc8

In the last section, you can see some more info on the ways you can help.
If you have difficulty uploading your info, contact Orna Dayan 301-927-8257 for assistance.
After registering, please text at 646-243-0842, to be sure you were added to the registry.
There is also an option to be added to the S.A.N.E. website (Yournewheights.org) so that clients can contact you directly;
**please specify if you would also like to be on the website and your time availability (for example, Monday from 9-11 am Eastern time).
***If you are interested in the effort, please join the WhatsApp group for information about optional training and more:
https://chat.whatsapp.com/GjuVxWjQbJnLqMdgqqeHlk

Thank you for joining us at this most challenging time. 🙏

בתפילת וּמָחָה אֲדֹ-נָי יְה-וִה דִּמְעָה מֵעַל כָּל פָּנִים

May the Lord God wipe the tears from every face forever
From MIRIAM YERUSHALMI

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10/25/2023

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11/28/2022

Communication style is important and sometimes overlooked in therapy. Clients may get the therapist so involved in content of issues or emotion that pattern, context, communication style, and nonverbal behavior get overlooked. Let's further your relationships by fully expressing your thoughts with words the listener can understand, giving the right emotional content, matching facial expression and eye contact, choosing the right time, place and context, as well as analyzing your overall patterns of initiation. www.gpsych.org

11/20/2022

In contrast to the picture below, married people are happier than unmarried people: across nearly five decades of surveys, data from the GSS shows that 36% of people who have ever been married (including divorced, separated, and widowed people) say they are “very happy” while just 11% are “not too happy,” compared to 22% and 15% for people who have never married (from Lyman Stone, Research Fellow at the Institute for Family Studies).
Could it be that happier people are also more likely to get married? So we can expect higher levels of happiness among married people even if marriage itself does not increase anyone’s happiness (Psychology Today).
As a result of Washington large longitudinal study, researchers have found that people get a minor boost in life satisfaction from marriage, but then come back to their premarital 'normal level' of happiness.https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2003/03/married-happy
Harvard psychology researcher Daniel Gilbert, PhD (Knopf, 2006) said it’s not marriage that makes you happy, it’s happy marriage that makes you happy.
If he is right, work on your marriage to make it happy, and if needed, I can assist you in this work, www.gpsych.org

10/09/2022

I assess IQ almost every day, but it's good to remember that intelligence is multifaceted. Here's an interesting text I found about intelligence:

1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)

1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve math's, memorize things, and recall lessons.

2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate.

3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down.

Your EQ is associated with your Character, while your SQ shows your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.

About the 4th one,

4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind.

When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up and who is a "survivor", strengthened by challenges they go through. Of course, you don't have to expose yourself or children to adversity, but some challenges happen anyway, so go through challenges with strength, self esteem and emerge stronger.

Exposing children to other areas of life than Academics, such as work with your hands like cooking and gardening, sports and arts. Kids should become multifaceted human beings. Here's a great advice I read: "Do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road."

09/30/2022

In this stressful world, learn relaxation techniques from a psychologist or at least from the psychologist's cat!

09/11/2022

Yep, I do couples therapy too...

08/30/2022

Some parents just need support because they are overwhelmed; raising kids is hard. Sometimes parents have tried everything and don't realize the children need help. Don't be embarrassed if your kids are not listening and throwing tantrums. These children may have special needs, which I can evaluate. Help is around the corner.

08/18/2022

Для того, чтобы ваш брак стал идеальным - надо инвестировать в него 5 часов в неделю. По системе Джона Готтмэн и Нэн Сильвер.

1. Расставание.
Перед утренним расставанием задайте супругу минимум один вопрос о предстоящем событии в его жизни, будь то обед с начальником, визит к врачу или звонок старому другу.
Время: 2 минуты в день, 5 дней в неделю.
Всего: 10 минут.

2. Встреча.
В конце каждого рабочего дня поговорите, чтобы снять стресс.
Время: 20 минут в день, 5 дней в неделю.
Всего: 1 час 40 минут.

3. Восхищение и признательность.
Найдите способ выразить своему супругу истинную нежность и признательность.
Время: 5 минут в день, 7 дней в неделю.
Всего: 35 минут.

4. Нежность.
Поцелуи, прикосновения, объятия жизненно необходимы, когда вы вместе. Это помогает уйти от накапливающегося за день мелкого раздражения.
Время: 5 минут в день, 7 дней в неделю.
Всего: 35 минут.

5. Еженедельное свидание.
Это расслабляющее совместное времяпрепровождение. Задавайте друг другу вопросы, которые помогут дополнить вашу «карту любви», будьте внимательны друг к другу.
Время: 2 часа раз в неделю.
Всего: 2 часа.