MTA Wellness, Los Angeles, CA (2025)

12/02/2022

Mindfulness boils down to three key practices:

1 Awareness
2. Acceptance
3. Conscious choice

They are integral elements of seeing yourself exactly as you are now, cutting through the s**t, and making radical changes in the patterns of your life.

Sometimes it's easier to understand mindfulness through the lens of what UNmindfulness looks like: a life on autopilot, going through the motions, not really connected to yourself, reacting unconsciously and impulsively to your thoughts and emotions, daydreaming, strongly identified with your thoughts, and resisting all the parts of life you're not liking along the way!

Tell me what pillar you're working on the most!

11/18/2022

There's an epidemic sweeping the world: productivity-based self-worth! If you believe your value and existence is only justified by doing and achieving, you're far from alone. What else could you expect when we live under an economic system that quite literally tells us our value is derived from our output (lie), we've been told hard work can get us anywhere (lie), and we've been convinced that money and praise are paramount to fulfillment (lie)?

Untethering your self-worth from productivity is a commitment to unlearning. It requires suspicion of the messages we've internalized, reflection on the qualities we value in ourselves that we overlook or have been convinced are soft, and courage to face what does happen when we ease up on the reins of our productivity. Maybe our self-image doesn't totally collapse into a black hole!

If you want support on your journey untethering your self-worth from productivity, send me a DM or book some time to chat with me at the link in my bio.

08/26/2022

To cultivate MORE peace, do LESS!

Less attachment
Less control
Less resistance
Less judgement
Less manipulating every element of your life to fit within the narrow confines of how you think it should bed

Peace arises the more you let life flow and prioritize controlling how you respond instead of controlling everything around you.

08/15/2022

When faced with the prospect of making a big shift, uncertainty, anxiety, and the prospect of regret often take center stage and push aside the prospect of opportunity, expansion, and just feeling like things are RIGHT.

Leaving a long-time job, moving to a new city, ending a serious relationship - looking over the ledge of a tectonic shift can leave us wanting to back away rather than make the jump. The discomfort of complacency is usually preferable to the discomfort of change, but only the discomfort of change has the potential to transform your life.

I've learned these lessons over and over again, especially when making the decision to leave a career and industry (finance...me? It's true) in pursuit of a totally different life.

Your happiness and satisfaction can only be accessed NOW.

05/17/2022

Another happy customer!

Elliott's story isn't uncommon - it's the journey of learning how to be honest with yourself.

He was feeling stuck and unbalanced. His guiding questions of “Where should I work?” and “Where should I live?” revealed a deeper misalignment, as it began clear he was trying to answer these other questions with other people’s values, not his own.

Our work helped him tap into how to be true to his own desires (and so much more).

Wondering if coaching is right for you? Book a time to chat (for free, of course) with the "Book Now" button in my bio. Tell me what's on your mind.

05/12/2022

Notice the energy with which you approach change.

Are you trying to escape your circumstances, or are you moving toward something you want?

Running away is marked by an energy of fear, perhaps anxiety, maybe even desperation. You focus on what you want to get away from, not what you want to invite into your life. Without a direction, you find yourself ending up in similar circumstances, repeating the patterns, not resolving the issues you keep trying to escape.

Running (or jogging, or sauntering, hell - even hesitantly creeping!!) toward a change, your energy is marked by openness, curiosity, and excitement: yes, this is something I want to invite in my life. Some hesitation or fear may be mixed in there, too. 100% dedication or clarity not required. Genuine eagerness is the motivator.

If the patterns keep repeating themselves, I'd wager you're always trying to change your external circumstances without recognizing what it is within yourself that’s asking for attention.

Wherever you go, there you are. Changing your job, serially hopping into new relationships, moving around to different cities won't make the difference you want until you understand what it is within you that's wanting to evolve.

My proposition to you: we're gonna stop running away, m' kay? We're gonna develop that insight, and we're gonna run (or jog, or saunter, or hesitantly creep - whatever your pace) toward what you want. We're gonna cultivate awareness and openness and we're gonna invite in genuine, lasting shifts - so that "you" that you take, wherever you go is one that's clearer on what it wants, how to navigate change, and is, dare I say, happier and more fulfilled.

I know it's possible because I've done it myself and I've helped many others do the same. Gimme a holler! Or a whisper - shoot me a DM or a book a time to chat with me at www.bookmta.as.me. I'll be waiting with open arms.

05/10/2022

So you're achievement-oriented and can't ever find lasting happiness or satisfaction...

You might feel an emptiness or hollowness in your life - maybe you're not sure where it's stemming from, but you sense it.

You try to fill it with new challenges and new goals you can work toward. A new work project, a new position, a new job entirely. Maybe it's outside the career world - a better body, still a better body, new car, new house - something that, if you work hard enough for, you can snag.

And yet....the result is always similar. That sense of unfulfillment, emptiness, still lingers. Why? As soon as the satisfaction from the achievement comes, it's gone. And you're on to the next accomplishment, the next hit. Hit of what?

Hit of validation. Hit of affirmation. Hit of feeling worthy, enough, respectable.
The accomplishments have become a proxy for self-worth...

The problem is attempting to cure these feelings by looking outward, rather than inward. No amount of external praise, achievement, or material acquisition is going to fundamentally affirm your self-worth. It's a carrot on the stick. You'll chase it forever.

So what about your inner state. How are you relating to yourself? To your work? To life itself?

How much are you operating from a place of insecurity? Of unworthiness, not enoughness?

Those feelings can stem from so many sources: messaging from parents, peers, social media...perhaps a culture that has convinced you that your worth actually is a function of your productivity and wealth and acclaim.

I may not know you, but I can confidently say those beliefs of your unworthiness aren't actually true - that you don't need to win an unwinnable game of "proving yourself" to be worthy and enough. There's work to be done - together - to get you to that place. So you can be content, comfortable, and fulfilled however you choose to go about your life.

If that sounds like you - welcome. I'd love to get to know you. Send me a message, book some time to chat with me and begin the exploration.

05/05/2022

What would you dream of if you didn’t feel limited by expectation - how your life “should” be?

How would you spend your time?

How would you express yourself?

What kind of lifestyle would you lead?

We internalize expectations from so many sources: families, friends, peers, communities, cultural messaging, curated social media accounts, economic and political structures. They may simply be born of our own desires. But they become traps.

Guidelines turn into stultifying, anxiety-inducing, freedom-restricting, creativity-dampening “shoulds.” Fear of judgement, concern that our choices will be invalidated, worry that we lose our sense of selves of our path looks different than what we imagined (FYI - the more you follow an unnatural path, the more you lose your sense of self).

These expectations may not even exist anywhere but your own mind as projections.

Nonetheless…

What would happen if you defied the expectations you feel bound to fulfill? I’d bet a not insignificant amount of money that, on the whole, your experience of life would improve. You’d be freer, happier, more fulfilled. Life might look and feel totally different than you ever expected. And isn’t that the point?

F**k the expectations. Or at least, kindly let them fall to the side. Need help working through that? Well, that’s what I’m here for, of course. Let’s find some time to chat about coaching you toward a freer, more authentic, more boundless life.

Send me a message or book some time with me with the “Book Now” button in my bio.

04/28/2022

Alignment is when your thoughts, behaviors, choices, and pursuits honor your core value.

Alignment is moving through the world embodying your true self - not the self you think others expect, not the self you think you ought to be.

Alignment is listening to your intuition.

Alignment is being secure in your choices without needing them validated by others.

For so many reasons, we find ourselves in misalignment: working jobs, maintaining relationships, spending money, treating ourselves in ways that don’t truly resonate with what we know on a deeper lever to be our authentic expression of ourselves.

Uncovering how to be in true alignment is our life’s greatest mission. From there, everything flows as it should - our contenders, satisfaction, joy. It doesn’t mean life is easy, but it means we know how to navigate it with a lot more ease and understanding and fulfillment.

That’s the work I do with my coaching clients. If you’re feeling out of sync and ready to get into alignment, I’m here to support your journey. Send me a DM or book a time to chat with me at www.bookmta.as.me

04/25/2022

It's no coincidence that you have lightbulb moments in the shower.

Ever notice how dwelling, ruminating, turning the same questions over and over in your head seem to make it even more difficult to tease out an answer? It’s like quicksand - the harder you use your rational mind to try to arrive at some conclusion, the further away you get.

And ever notice those times when you relax, take a break, step away, and suddenly an idea - an answer - a choice - comes to you clearly?

Relaxing your conscious thinking allows subconscious thoughts to come to the surface. There's a lot of ways to do it - meditate, do yoga, go for an undistracted walk, engage in an activity you love that gets you in a flow and out of your conscious thought processes.

Give yourself permission - stop thinking all the time 😌 If you need help getting out of your own way, send me DM or book a free consult with me with the “Book Now” button in my profile.

04/21/2022

That nagging feeling that there's always something else to do...⁠
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Kinda sucks, right? A lot. Creates a subtle tension that's always lingering beneath the surface. Makes it hard to relax and be present. The questions linger...can I be more productive? Am I missing something? Am I doing enough? AM I enough? ⁠
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Restlessness, worry, anxiety. ⁠
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Is it so unreasonable to consider that maybe everything is fine in this moment, just the way it is? No, I say. Quite reasonable. ⁠
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Ask yourself:⁠
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❓What does it feel like in my body when I feel the need to do more? Can I let those feelings bubble up - and watch them dissipate on their own, without moving to get rid of them? ⁠
❓What am I afraid will happen if I don't do this thing I'm telling myself needs to be done? Do I know that to be true?⁠
❓What needs do I think I will meet by satisfying the urge to do more? Do I have evidence that it's effective? ⁠
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If you're caught in the never-ending pull of needing to do more and trying to break out of it - talk to me about it. Let's find you your freedom. ⁠
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www.bookmta.as.me⁠
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03/31/2022

Top 5 regrets of the dying:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

People don't regret not having a more impressive resume or the appearance of an enviable life. People regret lying to themselves and living an unexpressed life.

It’s easy to make decisions that are honest with the ego's desires, to receive affirmation from others telling us we're great, we made good choices, we did it right. It feels good on a surface level and it's sickeningly temporary.

It's harder to make decisions that are honest with a deeper sense of who you are - to live in alignment with what is authentic and meaningful. That’s where real peace and happiness emerge, and it doesn’t need affirmation from others - it’s a reward unto itself.

Calling all high performers, hard workers, and future burnouts who are realizing your successes on paper aren't delivering you the peace and happiness you thought they'd promise: it's time to start living in alignment with a truer sense of who you are. Are you with me? Let's chat about coaching so you’re not on your deathbed regretting a life unexpressed.

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