Trevor James

07/21/2025

Shame can prevent us from experiencing pleasure and desire. Here's how to fix it.
https://open.substack.com/pub/trevorjamesla/p/stop-feeling-bad-for-feeling-good?r=5lpl9v&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

07/11/2025

When Your Partner Has A Date Tonight
https://open.substack.com/pub/trevorjamesla/p/when-your-partner-has-a-date-tonight?r=5lpl9v&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

07/09/2025

I was honored to be featured in ShoutOutLA today. Here's my interview:

Local Stories Meet Trevor James | Touch & Intimacy Therapist July 9, 2025July 9, 2025 Leave a reply We had the good fortune of connecting with Trevor James and we’ve shared our conversation below. Hi Trevor, can you walk us through the thought-process of starting your business? Starting a touch an...

06/18/2025

New blog post: Eros in Everyday Life: Finding Sensuality in the Mundane --

Let’s get one thing straight: when I say eros, I’m not just talking about s*x. Eros, in its deepest sense, is life energy. It’s the aliveness that pulses through you when you feel pleasure, connection, creativity, and presence. It’s what makes you want to dance, write poetry, touch skin, or ...

06/15/2025

New blog post: Can You Be Spiritually Awake and Still Watch P**n?

Let’s get real for a second. I work in the world of sacred intimacy, eros, healing, and connection. I talk about presence, breath, and heart-centered s*x. I lead workshops where men cry and share stories they’ve never said out loud. And still, this question comes up all the time—sometimes whis...

06/13/2025

https://open.substack.com/pub/trevorjamesla/p/why-i-started-talking-about-s*x-intimacy?r=5lpl9v&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

06/12/2025

New blog post: Decolonizing Intimacy -

Let me tell you something I never learned in school: intimacy is not one-size-fits-all. Growing up, I was handed a script. Maybe you were too. It came with invisible footnotes and cultural assumptions: Love looks like this. Men act like that. Intimacy happens in private, between two people, proba

06/12/2025

Why I Was Afraid To Be Seen - https://mailchi.mp/trevorjamesla.com/why-i-was-afraid-to-be-seen

06/08/2025

This Political Moment Will Echo for Generations.

What Happens to a Country After It Turns on Its Own?

06/04/2025

New blog post: Oops, Was That Too Intimate?

I run a men’s wellness practice, and my sessions—whether massage, cuddle therapy, or sacred intimacy—are intentional, consensual, and structured for healing. But just because it’s professional doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Or predictable. Or cleanly compartmentalized into little boxes l...

06/03/2025

New blog post: Is It a Sin to Want Pleasure? -

I remember the first time I heard the words “s*x is sinful.” I was twelve, sitting in a cramped pew, squirming under the weight of stained-glass guilt. The preacher’s booming voice left no room for interpretation: pleasure was for saints only, and mere mortals were better off keeping their han...

05/27/2025

When Life Is Hard, Come Home to Your Body - https://mailchi.mp/trevorjamesla.com/when-life-is-hard-come-home-to-your-body