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11/11/2025

Act of Love #10: Stop by with your favorite tea or coffee.

Dropping off a hot latte or a basket of tea is like delivering a little bit of comfort wrapped in love.

Every sip reminds them they’re cared for — and sometimes, nothing says love better than a warm, tasty drink.

Whether it’s a colleague at work or a neighbor down the street, bringing them their favorite drink is such a sweet way to say, “Hey, I’m thinking about you.”

💛 Small gestures make a big difference.

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And remember… You matter. 💛

28/10/2025

“We laughed so much!”

That was what one of my friend’s recounted when I saw her on Sunday.

She was talking about after Art died.

She recounted how she and a group of friends supported me and how much we laughed.

And she was right. I don’t remember alot from that time, but I do remember laughing with them A LOT and how amazingly good it made me feel in this very bad, not good, horrible situation known as death.

That is why this is one of my favoriate tips!

Nothing makes us forget our troubles faster than a good laugh.

If you and your friend crack up at the same things, send a joke, a funny video, or an outrageous meme. (Bonus points for those that make her snort.)

When someone’s grieving, the world already feels heavy. Let everyone else hold the sadness.

You? Be in charge of reminding her what it feels like to feel good even for a moment.

Don’t hold back. Make her laugh till she pees. 💦😂

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28/10/2025

21/10/2025

When’s the last time you got a letter in the mail?

Honestly, few things say “love” more than getting a physical note with a few scribbles!

That’s why Act of Love #8 Write to Her, is one of my favorites!

That card that you don’t think will make a difference? Well, it can!

So what should you write?

Anything!

Share about the nosy or noisy neighbor, or tell a quick story like my cousin who shared about the baby lamb who walked on the paint lid while she was painting a room off the garage and then left little baby lamb hoof prints all over the room as she tried to chase it out. Or reminisce about the first time you met!

Just write to them and remind them that they are loved.

NOTE: Watch your expectations here! If you expect them to write back to you, then this may not be the tip for you. They are grieving, and that takes up A LOT of energy. The purpose of sending a note is so they know you’re thinking about them, not so you feel good.

Trust me, it IS appreciated.

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14/10/2025

Their person just died.

And you want to help, but you’re super busy.

How can you help? If this is you, Act of Love #07 may be up your aisle.

It’s Be Her Night Time 911

A crisis is not known for the prevalence of logical thoughts

Which … often means wild and random thoughts often occur at night.

Being a person’s 911 means being there for them in the middle of the night.

When things get quiet is when a grieving person’s brain remembers they are out of milk for breakfast or they really miss there person.

Being their 911 can bring is great deal comfort in knowing who they can call in an emergency.

After Art died, Rachel, a parent at the school where my husband was an administrator, put her name and her husband’s name and phone numbers on a magnet that I stuck to my refrigerator door.

It was a calming reminder that I wasn’t alone.

Put your name and number where they can find it easily: on their desk at work, by their bed or favorited in their phone. (But keep in mind putting your number in their phone is not always the best unless you add a tag or favorite it.)

BIG NOTE: Be sure you are REALLY available to help at any time of the night. This is not a good tip for you if you have young kids, travel a lot, or are caring for another person!

(Don’t worry, you can do plenty of other things!)

You matter so much!! You really do.

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12/10/2025

Preparing for surgery…

The plan is on Wednesday morning I will have a TMT Joint Arthrodesis with a tendon debridement on my right foot.

2 to 8 weeks in a cast with no driving.

This is enough food for 5-6 lunch/dinners and like 10 breakfasts.

My oldest, the ICU nurse, will be flying in to be my medical/emotional support for one week and then…

I’m leaving it up to myself to…

Ask for help.

I am not thrilled with the prospect of asking for help but I also know that in that “not thrilled” part is where my growth lies.

My fear is that someone will say no to my ask and somehow that will be a reflection on who I am as a human being.

In my head, I am fully aware that that’s not true but… In my heart?? Sometimes I fear it is true.

I have been in a program long enough to know that the only way into positive thinking is by taking positive contrary action (IYKYK) and often times that contrary action is uncomfortable as hell!!

And so today I’ll be cooking (and watching football) and then redoing my advanced health care directive.

I can’t think of how to end this! I hope this inspires somebody!

Growth is no joke and it’s happening all the time!

Grateful for the specific opportunity (AGAIN) to lean in and allow love in.❤️

07/10/2025

When someone you care about is grieving, the best thing to do is…

Just show up.

All they need it you!

As a teenager, do you remember all you really wanted to do was to hang out with your friends?

No agenda.

No plans.

Just be together.

Well, your colleague, friend, or neighbor needs the same thing.

You don’t need to “do” anything to be helpful.

Just being with them is good.

(And you don’t need to talk about their dead person either.)

Be with them.

You are a human being, not a human doing.

YOU are what they need the most.

Own that!

29/09/2025

I always forget and ❤️ so I'm posting for both.

There are no words and never will there be to describe how I feel about these three humans.

What makes me happiest is their relationship to each other. It will ebb and flow but I feel certain that it will persevere.

I’m not planning on dying anytime soon, but if I did, I know they have each each other.

And that is

15/12/2024

20/11/2024

These are my boys. I need to stop calling them that because they are men. 

These are my favorite men. 

Yesterday was

November, in the UK, is Men’s Mental Health Month, and tomorrow is , so I thought I’d combine them as their mental health is on my mind more than usual this week. 

I like to think that they will come to me with any mental health challenge because a mother’s love is all-powerful.

But unfortunately, it’s not. 

My love for them cannot overcome the consistent and incessant societal pressures, and that’s a bummer. 

So I got to thinking, in what ways do I need to change my views about men’s mental health that might help them and the other men in my life? How can I make it safer for them to seek help when needed?

Here are a few ways I discovered:
  
🧠 Rethink my expectation of masculinity. I have to admit I have a pretty clear idea of what masculinity “should” look like, and it leaves some space for them to feel sad or scared, but anger doesn’t fit in. Additionally, I expect that they “get over it” quickly.

🙌 Validate their motions: Here, I think I’m pretty good. I dislike it when someone doesn’t validate my emotions, so I am sure to validate theirs. But could I do better with other men in my life? Yup!

📙 Educate Myself: Off the top of my head, I could make you a list of depression symptoms for women. Learning that irritability, anger, or aches and pains are signs of depression in men was a bit of a surprise. I need to have a better understanding of how mental health manifests in men.  

🎖️Honor the Impact:  As a black woman, when a white friend acknowledges the systematic inequalities that I have been through, I feel comforted and safe. I get to drop my guard. I realize that I can do the same for men. I can ask questions about the pressures they might be feeling to be strong, brave, or to “suck it up.”

Will this help?  Only if I put it into practice.

In the end, it comes down to getting out of our heads for periods to “see” the heads of others. That’s a good mental health practice in general, I think.

Which idea resonates with you the most?

13/11/2024

Being kind doesn’t mean being a push over.

Being kind doesn’t mean you agree with them.

Being kind means that you see the other person as a human being who, like you, wants to belong, wants to be seen and wants to know that if they die they will be missed.

It’s easy to be kind to those who are like us.

Today is World Kindess Day!!

Today I hope you will challenge yourself to be kind to those you usually ignore or who are not like you! 💪🏽

You, yes you, can spread some kindness even to those you usually shy away from.

How?
✔️ Say “hello.”
✔️ Say, “I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate how you …. keep the place to clean, consistently get the job done, show up on time or are so welcoming!”
✔️ In traffic, let them person merge in front of you today!
✔️ At the grocery store, let them go first.
✔️ Smile or wave hello!

The way I look at being kind is the way the doctors are supposed to look at treating patients.

🩺“First, do no harm”

What you say to another person matters. Even when you don’t know them or like them.

How are you going to be kind I your world today?

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30/01/2024

Happy Tuesday! 🌟

Today's tip is from "100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend’s' Guide to Loving Your Friend through Cancer or Loss.

Act of Love #13: Take them for a walk. 🚶‍♀️

Sometimes, the simplest gestures speak volumes. Walking together is an old-fashioned way to connect without the awkwardness of expectations.

No need for fancy places – just lock arms and stroll like schoolgirls. 💕

Showing up matters more than you realize. You don't need elaborate gestures; you just need to be there.

So, show up and take them for a walk – it's that simple.

And…

don't forget to order your copy of "100 Acts of Love" at 100actsoflove.com or on Amazon. 📖 And please remember, you matter. 💙