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25/01/2022

Here are signs and symptoms to look out for, whether you were in a narcissistic relationship or are currently in one.

This is a guide to help you understand the psyche of a narcissist and the disillusioned world they create.

The first step to recovery is acceptance.

26/10/2021

The danger of romanticizing your relationship is that you’re creating hope when hope doesn’t exist.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We lower our standards for people who aren’t able to give us unconditional love. Trust and respect are earned. Don’t give it so freely for those who aren’t able to reciprocate.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When your trauma bonded by your narcissistic partner, your inner child is screaming “love me”, “pick me”, “need me”. If you’ve had past trauma this can cause your inner child to create attachment rather than unconditional love, because you weren’t taught that growing up. You were constantly needing approval as a child and it transcends into your adult relationship. Wanting to be the “special” one for the narcissist to continue choosing you, needing their approval in order to feel loved. It’s trauma not love. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s important to heal your inner child in order for you to stop the pattern of being in narcissistic relationships.

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17/10/2021

There’s no shame in going back to your narcissistic ex. It’s part of the psychological abuse they instill. Many people don’t understand why survivors go back, it’s important as a friend or loved one to understand narcissism and not to judge.

Things you shouldn’t say to a friend:

x Why do you keep going back?
x Haven’t you learned from the millions of times they hurt you?
x Get over it already!
x There’s so many fish in the sea
x Have some strength move on!

This can re-traumatize survivors in toxic relationships.

Instead do this:
x It must be hard
x It hurts me to see you hurting
x I’m sorry you’re going through this
x I’m always here for you

17/10/2021

He or she can deflect any conflict you try to bring up!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They become angry, enraged or maybe they give you the silent treatment. 🤬⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For example: “I noticed you have been talking to this girl on social media”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The narcissist: “That’s my insurance broker, there you go with your insecurities again”. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Lies, lies, lies.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In order to avoid taking accountability narcissists love to deflect a conversation and shift the blame on you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Projection by a narcissist: “You’re probably talking to other men on social media”.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They make you think you’re doing something wrong to take away from the truth and make you believe you must be delusional to even think this thought. It’s truly crazy making when you’re in this type of relationship. It makes you feel anxious and confused. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The only way through, is out!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Don’t get stuck in the narcissistic trap! 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️

11/10/2021

Anytime you give up your wants and needs to fulfill the narcissist void is the very moment you lose yourself slowly.
As long as your life revolves around them they are happy. The moment you’re not putting value to their soulless self you’re out! They’re onto the next supply without you even knowing.

You know that “gut instinct” we have but we ignore it? The one that feels something is wrong, you feel sick to your stomach. That’s the moment you know your narcissistic partner is somehow fulfilling their void with other narcissistic supply.

Because of this:

✅ They try to mold you to become their rescuer
✅ You become addicted
✅ You change your appearance to please them
✅ You’re constantly walking on eggshells
✅ You start to isolate yourself

Do you know someone who is in a narcissistic relationship or are in one and want out? DM me to work with me one on one! Let’s start your healing journey together 💪🏼

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08/10/2021