12/12/2024
In honor of ALL parents enduring the holiday season without their children, for ANY reason, I empathize with you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You may be alone physically or perhaps feel alone emotionally in a room full of people…. I encourage you to be strong this holiday season. Rejoice knowing your babies are still getting to celebrate and be treated well; being that the narcs need their pictures for the internet(trophies of gifts and trophies in their children). Let’s be mindful that our babies are also sad and thinking of us and send them strong positive vibes to find a sliver of happiness In the act of being used for clout.
If you DO get the opportunity to talk to your children during ANY holiday please be mindful a narcissist LOVES to disrupt or destroy any holiday birthday etc.
It is very important to be cautious with your words, tones, questions, body language, sighs, eyes, you name it….. for; we don’t want our babies to be retaliated against and or punished, isolated, outcasted, ostracized, mocked or getting lesser treatments due to our yearnings for their being.
I know how badly you want them to turn and look at the camera on FaceTime. I know how badly you want to hear them say it. I know how badly you want to advocate for them when you hear one being bullied by the parent and the other being praised. I know how badly you want to ask who will be around or make a comment about who already is. I know how badly you miss them love them crave them need them how badly you’re broken inside….. BUT we are not the ones that are stuck behind that closed door. And if you think you’re sad and feel awful in this moment during the holidays or on Christmas morning because you’re alone, imagine your ex agreeing on Christmas morning and because you could not control your emotions or your mouth your child now is confined to their room while their siblings are out there opening presents eating good food and rejoicing meanwhile the child that happened to be holding the phone during your impulsive questionnaire and subject onto your child to go ask other parent if you can see them today for Christmas now has to go from house to house all day long while their siblings are praised and they are isolated ostracized and talked about mocked all day long with family and friends because your ex retaliated against that child because you could not put them first in that moment, and they were the ones holding the phone.
NOW! *** this is not a direct attack on you or your character! I learned the hard way by doing all of these things every single day!***
JUST FOR TODAY
Just for today, vow to yourself and vow to your children to be strong. To lead with example. To stay so they’ll stay. To choke your tears back and smile so you can look them in the eye and nod, a silent gift of encouragement to the tiny souls who don’t have half the emotional regulation skills as us adults. THEY NEED YOU! YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU’RE THEIR SUPERHERO! 
• For those of you that have zero contact. •
BE STRONG TODAY AND ALWAYS. FOR GIVING UP MEANS YOUVE DECIDED TO TAKE THE BURDEN OF HEARTACHE AND GIVE IT TO YOUR CREATION TO CARRY FOR YOU.
You are human, you’re allowed to hurt feel and be!
You are not allowed to cop out right now! Because for every silent moment without contact your children are, secretly in the back of their minds, telling themselves “my mom or dad is probably somewhere right now talking to someone right now to make sure they can see me soon !” AND THAT is giving them the courage to stay another minute longer!
I encourage everybody to get into the habit of journaling and studying body language. Also be mindful of trigger words and dig deep inside of yourself to find you and your child soul tie and connection so that you can learn how to use your bodies to communicate.
My DM’s are open to anyone struggling! I too am struggling and alone for the first holiday season. However, I know for a fact my kids are subject to retaliation for me merely asking a question. I also know if I go, one by one, they’ll follow. Today and tomorrow I am choosing to STAY and be SILENT YET RESILIENT by TAKING ON the emotional burden of isolation, loneliness, punishment, bullying and more…. So they don’t have to. Is it hard? Absolutely! Do I want to give up ? Sure most times! Will I? No. I’ve always told myself since I was a very very young mother….
“I will do anything, endure anything, sacrifice anything, walk away from/lose anything/anyone and carry a broken heart mind body and soul everyday for the rest of my life so that they don’t have to!”
Make the sacrifice! Lean on your fellow targetted parents. Message me if needed! I’ll be crying alone into their stockings. 🙏 take this time to study up on your rights, laws in your state, statutes, legalese, etc.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS 🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🙏😞❤️🩹♥️🏳️
