Over the Rug Therapy

09/02/2025

08/14/2025

Welcome to the Bad Thoughts Club—we all belong because we’ve all had a “bad” thought.

I have so many thoughts aboutthoughts lol. At a risk of sounding nerdy: I think about the quality of thoughts often; I think it’s the crux of what I do as a therapist.

Thoughts are part of what makes our existence rich and full. They help us interpret life, assign value, and create purpose. Without thoughts, we’d still have sensations and instincts, but no way to connect them to stories, relationships, or identity.

“Bad” thoughts point to something deeper: an unmet need, a fear, a wound, or a desire we haven’t yet given conscious permission to exist. These types of thoughts are an invitation to get curious.

When we learn to listen without shame, even our “worst” thoughts can become guides, showing us where we’re still protecting yourself, where we still need healing, and where we might be ready to grow.

🧠💭

08/13/2025

Lmao, am I the only one?

When I’m on a call and asked to verify a letter, I cannot for the life of me, ever come up with words that aren’t trauma related. Not to mention that I learned only a FEW years ago that there’s the NATO Phonetic Alphabet 😅 I thought people just used whatever words they wanted to. 🥲

Anyway, this is what I sound like when someone asks me to verify certain phonetic letters. (And no, I’m not actually spelling anything out in the video… those are just the letters I typically get hung up on lol).

Open to better suggestions 🤪

08/12/2025

What else would you add to the list?

Share this post with a friend to spread the word on what it means to be truly trauma-informed.

A lot of mental health professionals call themselves “trauma-informed” while causing/adding to the harm, because they don’t understand the full depth of what it means.

“Trauma-informed” has become a buzzword we throw around to mean “aware of trauma,” when in reality, being trauma-informed means:
- Awareness of the systems people live in and survive (classism, racism, capitalism, patriarchy, colonization, homophobia, etc)
- Expanding beyond a focus on individual symptoms to see the whole context
- Understanding that a therapist is not a blank slate and how they lives outside the therapy room impacts client safety (ie, how they vote)
- Recognizing that healing is not just personal, it’s deeply relational
- Knowing trauma isn’t only isolated events; it lives in the body, in relationships, and in the systems around us

And for some controversy: I do believe White mental health professionals can be trauma-informed. They’re rare!!! But they exist. Being trauma-informed is not exclusive to a particular physical feature. It’s a matter of the mind and heart, and there are White professionals doing the hard, heavy work of checking themselves, unlearning harmful beliefs, and dismantling their biases.

08/05/2025

Most people think boundaries are about controlling other people, but they’re really about honoring yourself.

Setting boundaries becomes a little easier when you begin believing that you’re lovable, deserving of goodness, and worthy of safety.

The guilt that comes with setting boundaries still comes up, but knowing your worth gives you the strength to not fold and betray yourself for others.

08/01/2025

What’s something a therapist has said to you that left you 😳🥹😭 or 🙂??

I’m the kind of therapist (I believe) who can have hard conversations without making you feel hard to love—hence my private practice name, Over the Rug Therapy.

My clients pay good money not just to vent, but to shift and transform. So yes, we go deep. Some of the things I say might feel intense, but they’re always said with care, in the context of a strong therapeutic relationship.

I lovingly interrupt old narratives and bring patterns to light, which brings up A LOT of feelings, thoughts, and push back. I’m here for it all! 🫶🏽🛋️