02/22/2026
If you can’t refuse yourself a small pleasure, say, a sweet treat, then it controls you.
If you restrict yourself from it, it gains double power over you, because now, along with the discomfort of its absence, come self-hatred and guilt each time you give in.
And even if you completely deny yourself that pleasure, it still rules you, because it has managed to cut off a piece of your reality.
The same applies to all desires: alcohol, s*x, ci******es, money, adrenaline.
Quitting smoking is difficult not because of chemical addiction, but because the one who tries to quit is more dependent on ci******es than the one who simply smokes.
A freedom fighter obsessed with democracy will never become truly free, he is enslaved by the struggle itself.
A monk practicing strict asceticism will never overcome “the desire of the flesh”, he remains a slave to denial.
Acceptance and rejection are merely different forms of the same dependence.
Wisdom lies not in self-restraint or total asceticism, but in the ability to maintain equilibrium, preserve inner harmony, and live in balance.
Freedom begins when you remain at peace regardless of whether you get what you want or not.
The beauty of such freedom is that you become untouchable.
You are happy or… happy.