The Trauma Queen

04/14/2023

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!! If you are having thoughts of su***de or self harm please call 988 !!

10/27/2022

Did you know:

*One in five women and one in 71 men will be r***d at some point in their lives

*51.1% of female victims of r**e reported being r***d by an intimate partner and 40.8% by an acquaintance

*Almost half (49.5%) of multiracial women and over 45% of American Indian/Alaska Native women were subjected to some form of contact s*xual violence in their lifetime

*In eight out of 10 cases of r**e, the victim knew the perpetrator

*81% of women and 35% of men report significant short- or long-term impacts such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

*Health care is 16% higher for women who were s*xually abused as children and 36% higher for women who were physically and s*xually abused as children

*R**e is the most under-reported crime; 63% of s*xual assaults are not reported to police

*The prevalence of false reporting is low — between 2% and 10%. For example, a study of eight U.S. communities, which included 2,059 cases of s*xual assault, found a 7.1% rate of false reports

**If you have been assaulted know that I will listen and I will believe you. Most of the time this happens, it’s by someone we know and trust. This may seem like it could cause relationship problems and other “unwanted drama”. Know that there are people that WILL listen and WILL believe you. If you were assaulted, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

10/27/2022

10/17/2022

1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed. On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide (CDC)

10/17/2022

Know the red flags of domestic violence

1. Jealousy and Possessiveness. Wants to be with you constantly. Accuses you of cheating all the time. Follows you around and frequently calls. Asks friends to check up on you.

2. Controlling Behavior. Constantly questions who you spend your time with, what you did/wore/said, where you went. Makes you ask permission to do certain things. Acts like you don’t have the ability to make good decisions. Hides controlling behavior by pretending to be concerned for your safety.

3. Quick Involvement. Six months or less before living together or engaged. Claims love at first sight. Pressure for commitment. Says you are the only one who can make him feel this way.

4. Unrealistic Expectations. Compliments you in a way that makes you seems superhuman. Over-flattering. Expects you to be perfect. Says, "I am all you need. You are all I need."

5. Isolation. Puts down everyone you know- friends are either stupid, slutty, or you are cheating with them- family is too controlling, doesn’t really love you, or you are too dependent on them. Refuses to let you use car or talk on phone. Makes it difficult for you to go to work or school. Tries to cut off all your resources.

6. Blames Others for Problems. If there are problems at school or work, it is always someone else’s fault. If anything goes wrong in the relationship, it is all your fault. Won’t take responsibility for own behavior.

7. Blames Others for Feelings. Tries to make you responsible for how they feel. "You’re making me mad." "You’re hurting me by not doing what I ask." "I can’t help being angry." Won’t take responsibility for own feelings.

8. Hypersensitivity. Easily insulted. Sees everything as a personal attack. Looks for fights. Blows things out of proportion. Unpredictable. You can never tell what will upset him.

9. Disrespectful or Cruel to Others. Punishes animals or children cruelly. Insensitive to pain and suffering. Teases children until they cry. Doesn’t treat others with respect. Dismissive of others’ feelings.

10. "Playful" Use of Force During S*xual Activity. Little concern over whether you want s*x or not, and uses sulking or anger to manipulate you into compliance. Makes s*xual or degrading jokes about you.

11. Verbal Abuse of Any Kind.

12. Rigid S*x Roles. Believes women are inferior to men. Unable to be a whole person without a relationship.

13. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Sudden mood changes- like they have two personalities. One minute nice, next minute exploding. One minute happy, next minute sad.

14. Past Battering. You may hear the person was abusive to someone else. They say it’s a lie, or their ex was "crazy," or it wasn’t that bad.

15. Threats of Any Kind.

16. Breaking or Striking Objects. Breaks loved possessions. Beats on table with fists. Throws objects.

17. Any Force During an Argument. Pushes, shoves, or physically restrains you from leaving room.

18. Doesn’t Respect Your Property or Privacy

(Information from the Police Bureau)

10/17/2022

When most people think of domestic violence, physical violence is what comes to mind not realizing that domestic violence comes in many forms. Manipulation from the abuser is extremely common.

09/23/2022

08/16/2022

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08/02/2022

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07/26/2022

If you or someone you know needs help please call or text 988

07/17/2022

Today marks the start of '9-8-8' as the new national su***de prevention and crisis hotline! The hotline will connect callers who may be experiencing distress with trained mental health counselors.