12/23/2025
Limerence is not love.
It’s a survival response.
It happens when your nervous system is searching for safety, regulation, and reassurance, and latches onto a person as a fantasy rather than a reality. Often someone you barely know, but project everything onto.
The obsession feels intense, urgent, intoxicating.
But underneath it is fear, abandonment wounds, and a desperate need to feel chosen.
Limerence can drain you emotionally, distort your sense of self, and keep you stuck in longing instead of real connection.
Understanding it isn’t about shame.
It’s about awareness, so you can stop clinging to a fantasy and start healing the part of you that’s asking for safety.
If this resonates, you’re not broken.
You’re dysregulated, and that can be worked through.
If you’re looking to heal patterns like this, you can DM me or book a therapy session. Healing doesn’t start with obsession, it starts with understanding.
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