04/23/2024
Hi FB community,
I keep getting asked when I will “return”. Taking a break from social media was like stepping out of a noisy room into a quiet one. It was like soothing nerves I didn’t even realize were there. The serenity I found, in that silence, was revealing. During my time away, I was also confronted with the consequences of the social media use of my “friends” and the impact it has on my family and my own personal safety.
During my hiatus, much more was revealed. I have noticed a profound shift in how I view myself and my life. The absence of constant external validation has allowed me to reconnect with what truly matters to me…my real-life relationships, my spiritual growth, and my God-given talents that had been sidelined. I pray more, read more, sleep better, engage in more service opportunities, and the mental clutter that I had unfortunately grown so accustomed to has cleared.
This break has also illuminated the toxic elements of social media…the platforms designed to addict, the curated perfection designed to sell, and the outrage that’s amplified to engage. Stepping back has helped me see the mechanisms behind the curtain, prioritizing engagement over wellness and attention over authentic love.
Now, faced with the decision of whether to return to social media, I find myself hesitant. I have already permanently deleted my Instagram, as that platform has proven to be extremely toxic. I do find some value in Facebook…connections, professional networking opportunities, the engagement with others in the recovery community, and the chance to share significant moments that I love to see pop up each year in my memories.
But…can I engage on my terms? Can I protect my peace, safety, and mental space while navigating an environment designed to monopolize and distort them? Can any of us really expect that our social media “friends” understand that taking a screenshot and sharing it with someone who we are not connected to (who may even seek to cause harm) is unhealthy to all?
I am taking it one day at a time, weighing the real benefits against the potential costs. Social media has its place, but perhaps I need to “clear the deck” or create a completely new page. Let’s be honest here. No one has 5k real friends…ESPECIALLY me!
I choose to focus on what enhances my well-being, keeps me connected to God and His children in more meaningful ways, and brings joy without the noise. You do have my permission to share THIS post…as it may help someone else. I am also going to encourage you to hit that “unfriend” button if you feel anyone you follow does not “deserve” peace and respect.
Sincerely,
Lynn
