02/04/2026
Stop negotiating. Start sequencing. 🛑🧠
It’s Wisdom Wednesday! Here is a quick tip for my parents and teachers who are tired of the power struggles.
The mistake we make is using the word “IF”.
❌ “If you eat your veggies, you get dessert.”
To a child, “If” sounds like a suggestion. It sounds like a deal we can haggle over.
The fix? Switch to “FIRST/THEN”.
✅ “First veggies, Then dessert.”
It seems small, but it changes the dynamic from a Bribe (“I’ll give you this if you do that”) to a Sequence (“This happens, and then that happens”).
It’s factual. It’s predictable. It works.
Try it today! Drop a “🦉” if you’re ready to stop the negotiating!