10/30/2025
"I thought the hardest part about my divorce would be telling the kids. Turns out the hardest part is figuring out who I am when I'm not someone's wife."
Divorce grief is complex because you're not just mourning the end of a relationship - you're grieving the loss of your coupled identity, your shared dreams, your family structure, and often your financial security.
Even if you initiated the divorce, even if you know it was the right decision, even if you feel relieved - you can still feel devastated. These conflicting emotions don't mean you made the wrong choice. They mean you're human, processing a major life change.
Divorce recovery involves rebuilding every aspect of your life: your daily routines, your social circle, your living situation, your financial plans, your parenting approach, and most importantly, your sense of self.
This process takes time - usually much longer than people expect. Research shows it typically takes 2-5 years to fully adjust to divorce, and that's with good support systems.
You don't have to navigate this alone. Therapy can help you process the grief, develop co-parenting strategies, rebuild your confidence, and create a vision for your new life that excites rather than terrifies you.
You're not starting over from scratch - you're building on the wisdom and strength you've gained from everything you've experienced.
