
08/04/2025
š The Shadow of Control: Trusting What I Couldnāt See š
By Monica Ramirez | The Warrior of Love š¦
There was a point in my life when I needed everything to be planned.
Every outcome. Every next step. Every detail.
I called it ābeing prepared.ā
But truthfully⦠it was fear.
Underneath that constant need for control was a part of me that didnāt trust.
Not life.
Not others.
Not even myself.
When I finally did shadow work around this, it cracked something open.
I had to face the part of me that believed:
āIf I donāt hold everything together, everything will fall apart.ā
Where did that belief come from?
From moments as a child when the adults around me were falling apart.
So I became the responsible one. The strong one. The fixer.
š¤ That part of my shadow wore a mask of strengthā¦
But underneath it was exhaustion.
Tension.
A fear of letting go.
When I confronted that shadow, I wept.
Because I realized I had been carrying the weight of everyone elseās safetyāwhile ignoring my own need for surrender.
Shadow work helped me:
⨠Reconnect with trustātrust in the Universe, and in my own flow.
⨠Soften into the unknown, without thinking I was failing.
⨠Let others support me, instead of always being the one holding space.
š¦ Releasing control didnāt make me weaker.
It made me more free.
More open.
More aligned with Spirit.
This is why I teach shadow work in Path to the Heartā
Because your shadows donāt make you unworthyā¦
They are the entry point into your deepest healing and power.
You donāt need to control your way through life, mi amor.
You can trust your soul to lead the way.
With love, always,
Monica Ramirez
The Warrior of Love š