Betrayal Trauma Healing

07/24/2025

How to talk to your kids about p**n - https://mailchi.mp/allanjkatz.com/pleaxe-check-out-my-new-youtube-channel-10339476

07/23/2025

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If you’ve just discovered that your child has been exposed to p**nography, I want you to take a breath, because how you respond in that moment really matters. In this video, I walk you through what I recommend to parents using the COMPOSE method, a framework designed to help you stay grounded and guide your child with care. Start by staying Calm and taking Ownership of the conversation. Normalize their curiosity without shaming them, and gently explain that what they saw doesn’t reflect healthy intimacy. Ask about their Mood, how they felt, and what they noticed in their body. Step into your role as a Parent by creating a space of safety and support.

Then we move into Strategy: setting up filters, parental controls, and having ongoing conversations to reduce future exposure. If they continue to seek it out or show signs of distress, that’s when we look at more advanced protections or consider working with a therapist. Finally, I recommend you Evaluate regularly: check in, ask how they’re doing, and keep the lines of communication open. If you want tools and scripts for how to have these conversations, I always point parents to CultureReframed.org. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

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🚨 In crisis? Call 911, visit an ER, or dial 988 for immediate help.

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07/18/2025

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Many parents hold common misconceptions about teens and p**nography, like believing kids are too young to understand what they’re seeing, or that exposure is just a “teenage phase.” But the truth is, children as young as eight or nine are encountering explicit content online, and their brains aren’t developmentally equipped to process it. This often leads to confusion, especially when something feels pleasurable in the body but emotionally or morally uncomfortable.

The earlier the exposure, the more it normalizes harmful s*xual behaviors, unrealistic expectations, and desensitization to violence and exploitation. What may seem like curiosity can quickly evolve into confusion, shame, or compulsive behavior without the right support.

Another major myth? That p**nography is harmless or even educational. Studies show that repeated exposure warps teens’ understanding of consent, intimacy, and respect, contributing to distorted views of s*x and relationships, and even acceptance of s*xual aggression. It also glosses over the real-world harm behind the scenes, including human trafficking and abuse, often masked by smiling actors.

Avoiding the topic doesn’t protect teens. It leaves them to learn from the internet, where the loudest messages are usually the most toxic. Open, values-based conversations with parents are one of the most powerful ways to equip young people with the clarity, confidence, and resilience they need to navigate a s*xualized digital world.

If you’re unsure how to start this conversation with your teen, or if you think they may be struggling, I’m here to help. You can book an appointment at allanjkatz.com to talk through next steps, whether it’s parent guidance or teen therapy.

Already on the path of recovery? Check out my workbook, Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery, or reach out if you’d like to schedule an assessment.
https://allanjkatz.com/ambushed-by-betrayal-the-survival-guide-for-betrayed-partners-on-their-heroes-journey-to-healthy-intimacy

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07/17/2025

Misconceptions about Teens & P**n - https://mailchi.mp/allanjkatz.com/pleaxe-check-out-my-new-youtube-channel-10339364

07/16/2025

https://timzi9.podbean.com/e/new-book-by-allan-katz-navigating-s*x-addiction-recovery-with-integrity-connection/

Sobriety is just the beginning. The real work is adding meaningful value, purpose, and integrity to life beyond abstinence. In this podcast, I talk about my workbook designed to help people identify distractions like technology, work, and unresolved feelings that block authentic connection and fulfillment.

If you or someone you know is navigating recovery, this conversation offers powerful tools and perspectives to move beyond just “not acting out” to embracing a life of values, honesty, and emotional connection. Whether you’re a therapist, in recovery yourself, or supporting a loved one, this is a valuable resource for building lasting change.

Learn more about the book here: https://allanjkatz.com/navigating-phases-of-s*x-addiction-recovery

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Welcome to a conversation with Allan Katz, author of Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery. In this interview recorded live at the ITAP Symposium, Allan shares their unique journey from a marketing consultant to a certified s*x addiction therapist, diving deep into what true recovery reall...

07/14/2025

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Let’s get one thing straight—you are NOT your addiction. It’s just one part of you, the wild and impulsive side that’s been running the show for too long. But guess what? There’s more to you than that. You have a thoughtful side, a responsible side, a caring side—and those parts deserve a chance to take the lead. Addiction loves to tell you that this is who you are, that you’ll never change, that you’re broken. That’s a lie. You are not the mistakes you’ve made, and you are not the habits you’re trying to break. You’re a whole person with the ability to grow, heal, and take back control. So, let’s talk about what it means to rewrite your story—to step out of shame and into a future where you’re not just surviving, but actually living.

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Let’s get one thing straight—you are NOT your addiction. It’s just one part of you, the wild and impulsive side that’s been running the show for too long. Bu...

07/11/2025

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So you’re sober. You’ve done the hard work. You’re showing up. You’re doing well.

But now what?

This is the part that doesn’t get talked about enough. In recovery spaces, we focus a lot on removing our negative traits—but rarely do we focus on building up our positive ones.

What would it look like to become more compassionate? Purposeful? Honest? Fulfilled?

That’s the deeper work—and I believe it’s where long-term healing and satisfaction really take root.

Of course, there are four distractions that love to get in the way:

📱 Technology
💼 Work
😤 Other people (you know the ones)
💥 Feelings we don’t know what to do with

Let’s talk about how to work through these instead of letting them knock us off course.

Want to learn more? Buy the book:
https://allanjkatz.com/ambushed-by-betrayal-the-survival-guide-for-betrayed-partners-on-their-heroes-journey-to-healthy-intimacy

DISCLAIMER: This channel is for education, entertainment, and marketing only. It is not a replacement for mental health care.

👉 Need support? Visit allanjkatz.com
🚨 In crisis? Call 911, visit an ER, or dial 988 for immediate help.

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So you’re sober. You’ve done the hard work. You’re showing up. You’re doing well.But now what?This is the part that doesn’t get talked about enough. In recov...

07/10/2025

What's Supposed to Happen after Sobriety? - https://mailchi.mp/allanjkatz.com/pleaxe-check-out-my-new-youtube-channel-10339213

07/09/2025

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Ever wonder why some people turn to s*x, p**n, or fantasy as a way to cope? It’s not just about desire—it’s often about deeper wounds from childhood. When someone grows up without emotional connection, without empathy, and with unresolved trauma, they find other ways to self-soothe. And for many, that means using s*x as an escape. Think about it—if no one ever taught you how to process emotions or feel truly seen and valued, you’re going to look for that validation somewhere. For some, that “somewhere” turns into compulsive behaviors, secret habits, and a cycle that feels impossible to break. But here’s the thing: it’s not actually about s*x—it’s about pain, disconnection, and unmet emotional needs. The good news? Healing is possible. Recovery isn’t about giving up something—it’s about gaining real connection, self-awareness, and a healthier way to deal with emotions. Let’s talk about it.

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Ever wonder why some people turn to s*x, p**n, or fantasy as a way to cope? It’s not just about desire—it’s often about deeper wounds from childhood. When so...

07/08/2025

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As a therapist who works with teens and families, I’ve seen firsthand how easily young people can get pulled into compulsive p**n use—especially when they’re stressed, isolated, or just curious. In this video, I walk you through the signs of p**n addiction in teens, why it’s more common than many parents realize, and what treatment really looks like. If you’re a parent, educator, or teen who wants real answers without shame or fear, this is for you.

👉 Let’s talk about how to recognize the problem—and how healing begins.

If you're ready to move beyond the pain of betrayal and reclaim your confidence, clarity, and self-respect, Ambushed by Betrayal offers a powerful, step-by-step path to healing that has transformed the lives of countless partners—including those who thought they’d never feel whole again.

Want to learn more? Buy the book:
https://allanjkatz.com/ambushed-by-betrayal-the-survival-guide-for-betrayed-partners-on-their-heroes-journey-to-healthy-intimacy

DISCLAIMER: This channel is for education, entertainment, and marketing only. It is not a replacement for mental health care.

👉 Need support? Visit allanjkatz.com
🚨 In crisis? Call 911, visit an ER, or dial 988 for immediate help.

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As a therapist who works with teens and families, I’ve seen firsthand how easily young people can get pulled into compulsive p**n use—especially when they’re...

07/02/2025

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For many struggling with s*x or p**n addiction, it’s not really about intimacy—it’s about intensity. The thrill, the chase, the high of the moment becomes more important than real connection. Why? Because true intimacy requires vulnerability, trust, and emotional presence, while intensity offers an immediate escape, a quick dopamine hit, and the illusion of control.

If deep down you feel disconnected from real relationships but constantly seek out more extreme content, riskier encounters, or transactional validation, you might be caught in this cycle. In this video, we’re unpacking why s*x addicts prioritize intensity over intimacy, how this pattern develops, and what it takes to shift toward genuine connection.

If you’re ready to break free from the highs and lows and start building something real, let’s talk about it.

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For many struggling with s*x or p**n addiction, it’s not really about intimacy—it’s about intensity. The thrill, the chase, the high of the moment becomes mo...

06/30/2025

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“My partner takes my p**n addiction way too seriously.” Sound familiar? In this video, we dig into the tension that shows up when one partner uses p**n and the other feels deeply hurt by it. It’s a common dynamic—one partner says, “Why does he need to look at those girls when he has me?” And the other thinks, “It’s not about you—I’m doing it for me, not to hurt you.”

But here’s the thing… even if it’s not meant to be personal, it feels personal. The partner on the other side often starts wondering, What’s wrong with me? Am I not s*xy enough? Not attractive enough? That pain is real. And in therapy, we help couples stop talking at each other and start listening to each other—with empathy, vulnerability, and a whole lot of honesty.

This video is about understanding both sides—and learning how to move from defensiveness to connection.

🎧 Watch now to learn how to bridge the gap and finally start healing, together.

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“My partner takes my p**n addiction way too seriously.” Sound familiar? In this video, we dig into the tension that shows up when one partner uses p**n and t...