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Betrayal Trauma Healing, Memphis, TN (2025)

09/04/2025

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The turning point in recovery often comes when you finally see the pain in your partner’s eyes. Addiction thrives on instant gratification, but healing comes from facing the hurt, learning to manage triggers, and choosing connection over objectification. Be honest with your therapist—it’s the first step toward real change.

Already on the path of recovery? Check out my workbook, Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery, or reach out if you’d like to schedule an assessment.
https://allanjkatz.com/ambushed-by-betrayal-the-survival-guide-for-betrayed-partners-on-their-heroes-journey-to-healthy-intimacy

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The turning point in recovery often comes when you finally see the pain in your partner’s eyes. Addiction thrives on instant gratification, but healing comes...

09/02/2025

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Addiction recovery is about learning how to live with yourself and others in a completely new way. That’s where emotional sobriety comes in.

Emotional sobriety means staying in the present instead of reliving the past. It’s about facing the trauma, rebuilding trust in relationships, and choosing vulnerability even when it feels uncomfortable.

For couples, that process often feels like dating again (slow, tender, sometimes awkward) but worth every ounce of effort.

The betrayed partner usually needs about a year and a half before they can even begin to trust again. The addict, on the other hand, has to invest years of hard work to truly recover. Healing on both sides matters.

The good news? Couples who stay committed to recovery often find themselves in a stronger, more fulfilling partnership than they ever imagined.

It’s proof that with therapy, trust, and time, healing isn’t just possible ... it’s powerful.

✨ Recovery takes work. But it also gives you back your life, your love, and your future.

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Addiction recovery isn’t just about putting down the substance. It’s about learning how to live with yourself and others in a completely new way. That’s wher...

08/29/2025

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Rebuilding trust after betrayal takes more than “I’m sorry.”'

Most partners don’t need excuses. They need empathy. 💔➡️❤️

In this clip, I talk about the AVR Formula (Acknowledge, Verify, Reassure), a simple but powerful framework that helps addicts move from defensiveness to healing.

🎯 Key takeaway: Defensiveness destroys safety. Empathy rebuilds it.

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Rebuilding trust after betrayal doesn’t happen with “sorry” or promises to do better. It takes honesty, empathy, and consistent action.In this clip, Alan exp...

08/27/2025

When betrayal happens, the natural instinct is to get defensive—“I didn’t mean to hurt you” or “that was months ago, can’t we just move on?” But those responses don’t heal. They actually make your partner feel less safe.

In this clip, I explain why empathy—not defensiveness—is the key to rebuilding trust.

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When betrayal happens, the natural instinct is to get defensive. “I didn’t mean to hurt you” or “that was months ago, can’t we just move on?” But those respo...

08/26/2025

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Esther and I have been married for 52 years, and it hasn’t always been easy. From bankruptcies to addiction and betrayal, our journey could have ended many times. Instead, we chose honesty, recovery, and hope.

In this conversation, we share:

✨ Why low self-esteem can be the hidden seed of addiction
✨ What it takes for a betrayed partner to heal and rebuild trust
✨ How empathy (and even humor) helped them through the hardest moments
✨ Why recovery is more than just sobriety—it’s about emotional growth

Our story is proof that marriages can survive even the toughest battles
when both partners commit to doing the work.

Watch now and see what 52 years of love, struggle, and healing has taught us.

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Alan and Esther Katz have been married for 52 years, and it hasn’t always been easy. From bankruptcies to addiction and betrayal, their journey could have en...

08/22/2025

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Is p**n addiction really just about boredom—or is there something deeper going on? In this video, I unpack three often-overlooked contributors to p**nography addiction: religious abuse, emotional abuse, and everyday boredom.

For some, strict religious upbringings create shame and confusion. For others, emotional abuse (growing up unseen, unheard, or silenced) leads to low self-esteem and emotional dysregulation. And yes, boredom can play a role, but it’s usually the surface layer of something much heavier. That’s why p**n often becomes a coping mechanism—just like gaming, gambling, or alcohol. It’s not really about curiosity or free time. It’s about numbing what hurts.

👉 In the video, I break down these root causes and what it actually takes to heal.

And if you’re ready to take the next step, my Emotional Sobriety Workbook offers practical exercises to help you recognize distractions, regulate emotions, and move past the cycles of avoidance that keep you stuck. It’s a guide to developing maturity, accountability, and deeper connection—so you can finally live with peace and purpose in recovery.

Here's the link to the workbook: https://shop.allanjkatz.com/products/navigating-the-phases-of-s*x-addiction-recovery

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Is p**n addiction really just about boredom—or is there something deeper going on? In this video, Allan breaks down three commonly misunderstood contributors...

08/20/2025

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Ever wonder why some people turn to s*x, p**n, or fantasy as a way to cope? It’s not really about desire—it’s often about deeper wounds from childhood. When someone grows up without emotional connection, empathy, or tools to process trauma, they search for other ways to self-soothe. For many, that “escape” becomes s*x.

Think about it: if no one ever taught you how to feel seen or valued, you’re going to chase validation somewhere. That’s how compulsive behaviors and secret habits take root. But here’s the truth: it’s not actually about s*x—it’s about pain, disconnection, and unmet emotional needs.

The good news? Healing is possible. Recovery isn’t about giving something up. iIt’s about gaining real connection, self-awareness, and healthier ways to deal with emotions. In this video, I explain how childhood wounds feed addiction and what breaking the cycle looks like.

And if you’re ready to go deeper, my Emotional Sobriety Workbook is designed to help you move from distraction and impulsivity into purpose, emotional maturity, and serenity. With practical exercises that address the root of disconnection, it’s a guide to finally finding hope and freedom in recovery.

👉 Watch the video and explore the workbook. Your healing starts here: https://shop.allanjkatz.com/products/navigating-the-phases-of-s*x-addiction-recovery

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Ever wonder why some people turn to s*x, p**n, or fantasy as a way to cope? It’s not just about desire—it’s often about deeper wounds from childhood. When so...

08/18/2025

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Did you know that many addicts also show narcissistic traits? The mindset of “I deserve this” or “It’s my way or the highway” often fuels compulsive behaviors. What’s missing in that moment? Awareness of consequences.

In this video, I break down how entitlement plays a role in s*x addiction and why addicts often don’t consider the emotional damage their actions cause, especially to their partners. Acting out is usually about personal gratification, not the betrayal, inadequacy, or hurt that a spouse feels.

The key to recovery? Accountability. By facing the impact of their choices and addressing the deeper need for validation, addicts can begin to change, rebuild trust, and grow emotionally.

Want to go deeper? My Emotional Sobriety Workbook offers practical tools to help you manage distractions, impulsivity, and complacency (the things that keep you stuck.) With problem-and-solution exercises, it will guide you toward character development, emotional maturity, and healthy intimacy, giving you the skills to live with purpose and freedom in recovery.

👉 Watch the video, grab the workbook, and take the next step in your healing journey. Here's the workbook: https://shop.allanjkatz.com/products/navigating-the-phases-of-s*x-addiction-recovery

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Did you know that many addicts also show narcissistic traits? The mindset of "I deserve this" or "It’s my way or the highway" often fuels compulsive behavior...

08/15/2025

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Sobriety isn’t the finish line. It’s the starting point. This practical, no-nonsense workbook helps people in recovery protect their sobriety and thrive by tackling the sneaky distractions, impulsivity, and complacency that can quietly lead toward relapse. With a clear problem-and-solution format, it guides you through building character, emotional maturity, and healthy intimacy while developing essential skills in mindfulness, emotional regulation, and impulse control.

Packed with concise, actionable exercises, this book equips you to navigate the inevitable ups and downs of recovery, face challenges head-on, and live with purpose, serenity, and freedom. Whether you’re weeks or years into sobriety, you’ll find the tools you need to not just stay sober—but to live well.

Want to learn more? Buy the workbook:
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Emotional sobriety isn’t just about staying clean—it’s about learning how to live well. But even when we’re off the substances or out of the chaos, there are...

08/13/2025

Emotional sobriety isn’t just about staying clean. It’s about learning how to live well. But even when the chaos is behind you, there are four sneaky distractions that can quietly pull you away from peace:

- Technology – the endless scroll that numbs instead of soothes
- Work – the “productive” escape that keeps you from being present
- Other people – the ones who drain your energy (and your boundaries)
- Emotions – the feelings you stuff down until they blow up

My Emotional Sobriety Workbook is designed to help you take your life back from these daily saboteurs. Inside, you’ll find practical tools for managing distractions, impulsivity, and complacency before they lead you down a slippery slope toward relapse.

With alternating chapters presenting problems and solutions, this workbook will guide you through:

- Building character and emotional maturity
- Improving your relationship with healthy intimacy
- Finding meaning and purpose in life
- Practicing mindfulness, emotional regulation, and impulse control

You’ll gain the skills to finally live in serenity, surrender what’s weighing you down, and experience true hope and freedom in recovery.

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This workbook answers the question, “I’m sober, now what?” This workbook is for people in recovery to help you maintain sobriety by providing tools for managing distractions, impulsivity and indifference that could take you down a slippery slope toward relapse. As you know, complacency will re...

08/11/2025

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Teenagers today are increasingly exposed to p**nography, which can shape how they view s*x and intimacy in harmful ways. Many teens base their s*xual experiences on what they see online, which often involves intense, dehumanizing actions like strangulation or slapping. This creates unrealistic expectations and a distorted sense of intimacy. As a result, they may struggle to understand the true meaning of intimacy, which is about vulnerability, trust, and connection (not just physical acts.) P**nography makes them think that intensity is what makes s*x exciting, but real intimacy is built over time through emotional closeness, communication, and shared values.

Intimacy is about more than just the physical; it’s about sharing your true self with a partner, building trust, and having a deep emotional connection. When teens skip over the emotional building blocks of intimacy and jump straight into s*x, they risk damaging their ability to form long-term, healthy relationships. P**nography distorts this process by presenting an unrealistic view of relationships, making many think physical attraction equals emotional connection. It’s important for young people to understand that true intimacy isn’t about intensity. It’s about developing a meaningful, respectful bond that lasts.

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Teenagers today are increasingly exposed to p**nography, which can shape how they view s*x and intimacy in harmful ways. Many teens base their s*xual experie...

07/30/2025

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One of the most powerful things I ever did as a parent was sit my teenagers down for a family meeting and tell them, “You can say whatever you want and we’re just going to listen.” No arguing, no defending, no fixing in the moment. Just listening. And it worked like magic. They opened up in ways I didn’t expect, and it showed me how much they were holding in simply because they didn’t feel safe to say it before. That moment laid the groundwork for so many healthier conversations later.

Now, I recommend this to every parent I work with. Creating an open environment isn’t about having all the right answers. It’s about showing your kids you want to hear them. When we stop reacting and start listening, we give our kids the safety they need to be honest. It might not be easy, but it’s a game-changer.

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