Brave Beautiful Life

01/23/2026

There was a time in my life when a birthday cake brought me so much anxiety, that I could feel sweat beading and the tears well up in my eyes.

It had NOTHING To do with the CAKE 🍰

I distinctly remember a scenario when I was about 20. My coworkers bought me a cake and everyone gathered in the break room to sing happy birthday to me. I was the center of attention and all eyes were on me.

I immediately wanted to crawl out of my own skin and run for the hills. It triggered me. A moment that should have been filled with joy, gratitude and love...triggered fear and pain.

It brought me back to another time in my life when I felt like all eyes were on me. A time when I felt outcast and shunned by my own best friends. So I sat alone. People stared. I felt the heat of embarrassment sizzling in my skin.

Isn't it interesting how our brains store information and try to protect us? Two seemingly different situations were now put in the same file folder by my brain. A host of other scenarios were added to the folder, anything remotely related to possible embarrassment and public shame, were neatly tucked away in a vault. Singing, public speaking, any sort of performance where eyes were on me, became a NO GO.

I guess that's part of why I became so fascinated by the brain and how it works to try and protect us. Sometimes that fear is real and rational, like if you are getting chased by a ferocious dog or about to fall off a cliff. However, in most day to day instances, fear is a liar.

FEAR IS A LIAR.

Was I in any danger when I was being sung to with a birthday cake? NO.

So how do we move away from irrational fears?

Your same imagination that can create a million negative outcomes, can also be used to think of positive outcomes.

Instead of asking yourself "what if I fail?" Ask
"What If I succeed?"
"What If Iearn?"
"What If I grow?"

Healing and Bravery are not about the absence of fear. It's about feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Choosing not to allow the lies to own you. Choosing to doubt your fears and have faith in possibility.

Instead of using your creative powers to come up with every excuse to why you can't accomplish something.... What if you used those creative powers to think of all the possible good that could come from a situation.

Get out of bed.

Take the leap.

Sign up for the class.

Say Yes to the date.

Write the book.

Go on the adventure.

Choose FAITH.
✨💗💫

11/08/2023

Katharine Hepburn’s childhood, in her own words.
“Once when I was a teenager, my father and I were standing in line to buy tickets for the circus.
Finally, there was only one other family between us and the ticket counter. This family made a big impression on me.
There were eight children, all probably under the age of 12. The way they were dressed, you could tell they didn't have a lot of money, but their clothes were neat and clean.
The children were well-behaved, all of them standing in line, two-by-two behind their parents, holding hands. They were excitedly jabbering about the clowns, animals, and all the acts they would be seeing that night. By their excitement you could sense they had never been to the circus before. It would be a highlight of their lives.
The father and mother were at the head of the pack standing proud as could be. The mother was holding her husband's hand, looking up at him as if to say, "You're my knight in shining armour." He was smiling and enjoying seeing his family happy.
The ticket lady asked the man how many tickets he wanted? He proudly responded, "I'd like to buy eight children's tickets and two adult tickets, so I can take my family to the circus." The ticket lady stated the price.
The man's wife let go of his hand, her head dropped, the man's lip began to quiver. Then he leaned a little closer and asked, "How much did you say?" The ticket lady again stated the price.
The man didn't have enough money. How was he supposed to turn and tell his eight kids that he didn't have enough money to take them to the circus?
Seeing what was going on, my dad reached into his pocket, pulled out a $20 bill, and then dropped it on the ground. (We were not wealthy in any sense of the word!) My father bent down, picked up the $20 bill, tapped the man on the shoulder and said, "Excuse me, sir, this fell out of your pocket."
The man understood what was going on. He wasn't begging for a handout but certainly appreciated the help in a desperate, heartbreaking and embarrassing situation.
He looked straight into my dad's eyes, took my dad's hand in both of his, squeezed tightly onto the $20 bill, and with his lip quivering and a tear streaming down his cheek, he replied; "Thank you, thank you, sir. This really means a lot to me and my family."
My father and I went back to our car and drove home. The $20 that my dad gave away is what we were going to buy our own tickets with.
Although we didn't get to see the circus that night, we both felt a joy inside us that was far greater than seeing the circus could ever provide.
That day I learnt the value to Give.
The Giver is bigger than the Receiver. If you want to be large, larger than life, learn to Give. Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything.
The importance of giving, blessing others can never be over emphasised because there's always joy in giving. Learn to make someone happy by acts of giving.”
~ Katharine Hepburn

08/15/2023

Hey You!! It’s time to say goodbye to the caterpillar life. You’re ready to spread your wings and FLY!! 🦋

11/05/2022

One of Satan’s most useful tools is that of deception. If he can just get you to believe you are not good enough, not loved enough, not worthy enough....

He can keep you from doing the good you were put on this earth to do.

He may even try to tell you that things would be better if you weren’t on this earth at all.

But that is a LIE!

The truth is, you are here for a purpose!

You have gifts the world needs.

The truth is, you are deeply loved,
No Matter What!

11/01/2022

✨❤️✨❤️✨❤️✨

10/10/2022

YOU make a difference! ✨❤️✨

04/02/2022

03/12/2022

I’m always needing this reminder!

Where are my multi-passionate friends that want to say yes to every good thing? 🙋🏼‍♀️

It’s ok to simplify, prioritize and focus!
One step at a time!

03/09/2022

You’re one decision away….