09/02/2024
IS THE RIGHT PERSON GETTING TREATED?
by Mark McFeely, Natural Healer. (694 words)
Sharon brought her little daughter (3) to see me. She was covered from head to foot with eczema, a pathetic sight, bleeding in many areas from constantly scratching her itching skin.
The moment I laid my hands on her tiny body, I felt that this condition had very little to do with her and could disappear very quickly. In fact, I knew that she was not the person I should be working on.
I treated her for about 30 minutes, simply to nourish her. Then I turned to her mother and told her that she was the one who really needed to come and see me. I suggested that she take Sara home, get a baby-sitter, and return to my office that afternoon. She was in her early thirties, very attractive and vivacious. Her husband, a military helicopter pilot, had been killed in action 2 years earlier. She had recently found a new man and was torn between what she wanted and what would be the proper thing to do. She was also concerned about what would be best for her daughter.
Living on the Air-Force base, she was constantly being reminded that she was a war widow. It was as though she was being locked into a personality, whether she liked it or not. She felt that she was not allowed to have a life of her own, but was being compelled to live in the shadow of her late husband's memory.
During our session, she got clear that it was all right to have what she wanted, and that her feelings were not wrong. I helped her to release the shock and the grief that she had been storing in her body since her husband's tragic death, and start to move for her own life. After two sessions with me she announced that Sara's eczema had cleared up completely. Once she was free of her own issues, her little girl let go of her condition.
Often with problems in little children, I look to the parents. The one the child has the strongest bond with usually needs to resolve his or her own issues. Then the child usually recovers, without the need for any treatment.
Children under the age of 5 or so, rely more on intuitive communication, as their thinking process does not seem to kick in before then. They are very sensitive to their parents and hate to see them suffer. So, if Mummy is experiencing intense feelings, the child will draw the attention by creating a drama, or crisis, often hurting themselves in the process. Anything to change the feeling in Mummy's gut. They also relate to the father in this way, but tend to have more with the mother.
If Mummy and Daddy are being "nice" to each other, when really they are feeling a lot and not expressing it, the child will go crazy, throwing tantrums, etc. But, if they are yelling at each other, and it's real, the child will play quite happily in the corner, without a bother in the world. When the child asks, "Are you all right Mummy?" and she replies, "I love you honey". The child does not doubt that Mummy loves her, but has the feeling that Mummy is lying to her, because she is in touch with Mummy's pain. This causes the child to feel insecure. When Mummy says," I'm unhappy because we're broke", or "Daddy and I are not getting on well", the child can handle that. It is not necessarily that the child understands, but when the verbal expression matches the feeling Mummy is giving out, the child is secured.
Taking care and responsibility for what goes on in your own life does have an effect on your children's health. If your child is constantly having problems, perhaps you should be looking at your issues. I still like to treat children, because they can always use the nourishment of a healing touch, and sometimes they do really have conditions that have nothing to do with their parents.
[P.S. The names have been changed for confidentiality.]
© Mark McFeely. 1992.
by Mark McFeely, Natural Healer. (694 words)
Sharon brought her little daughter (3) to see me. She was covered from head to foot with eczema, a pathetic sight, bleeding in many areas from constantly scratching her itching skin.
The moment I laid my hands on her tiny body, I felt that this condition had very little to do with her and could disappear very quickly. In fact, I knew that she was not the person I should be working on.
I treated her for about 30 minutes, simply to nourish her. Then I turned to her mother and told her that she was the one who really needed to come and see me. I suggested that she take Sara home, get a baby-sitter, and return to my office that afternoon. She was in her early thirties, very attractive and vivacious. Her husband, a military helicopter pilot, had been killed in action 2 years earlier. She had recently found a new man and was torn between what she wanted and what would be the proper thing to do. She was also concerned about what would be best for her daughter.
Living on the Air-Force base, she was constantly being reminded that she was a war widow. It was as though she was being locked into a personality, whether she liked it or not. She felt that she was not allowed to have a life of her own, but was being compelled to live in the shadow of her late husband's memory.
During our session, she got clear that it was all right to have what she wanted, and that her feelings were not wrong. I helped her to release the shock and the grief that she had been storing in her body since her husband's tragic death, and start to move for her own life. After two sessions with me she announced that Sara's eczema had cleared up completely. Once she was free of her own issues, her little girl let go of her condition.
Often with problems in little children, I look to the parents. The one the child has the strongest bond with usually needs to resolve his or her own issues. Then the child usually recovers, without the need for any treatment.
Children under the age of 5 or so, rely more on intuitive communication, as their thinking process does not seem to kick in before then. They are very sensitive to their parents and hate to see them suffer. So, if Mummy is experiencing intense feelings, the child will draw the attention by creating a drama, or crisis, often hurting themselves in the process. Anything to change the feeling in Mummy's gut. They also relate to the father in this way, but tend to have more with the mother.
If Mummy and Daddy are being "nice" to each other, when really they are feeling a lot and not expressing it, the child will go crazy, throwing tantrums, etc. But, if they are yelling at each other, and it's real, the child will play quite happily in the corner, without a bother in the world. When the child asks, "Are you all right Mummy?" and she replies, "I love you honey". The child does not doubt that Mummy loves her, but has the feeling that Mummy is lying to her, because she is in touch with Mummy's pain. This causes the child to feel insecure. When Mummy says," I'm unhappy because we're broke", or "Daddy and I are not getting on well", the child can handle that. It is not necessarily that the child understands, but when the verbal expression matches the feeling Mummy is giving out, the child is secured.
Taking care and responsibility for what goes on in your own life does have an effect on your children's health. If your child is constantly having problems, perhaps you should be looking at your issues. I still like to treat children, because they can always use the nourishment of a healing touch, and sometimes they do really have conditions that have nothing to do with their parents.
[P.S. The names have been changed for confidentiality.]
© Mark McFeely. 1992.
