Calla Lily Wellness - Ingrid Toledo-Hammett, CH

Calla Lily Wellness - Ingrid Toledo-Hammett, CH Pretending to be Ok is Not OK!

I help newly widowed women 40+ navigate the recent loss of a spouse and take back control of their lives, so she can truly live, and not just exist, using my Bliss Effect Method.

I am considering scheduling another 7-Path Self Hypnosis Group Class, in English, live via Zoom. I’ve had a few inquirie...
02/19/2026

I am considering scheduling another 7-Path Self Hypnosis Group Class, in English, live via Zoom. I’ve had a few inquiries. 5 Weeks, Tuesdays 6:30pm CST and Saturdays 1pm CST. If you’re interested, Drop a 🙌 in the comments.

“Why am I not getting any better?”It’s a question many widows and widowers quietly type into Google late at night.After ...
02/19/2026

“Why am I not getting any better?”

It’s a question many widows and widowers quietly type into Google late at night.

After the books.
After the podcasts.
After therapy.
After trying to “stay strong.”

The questions keep coming:

• Why isn’t my grief going away?
• Is this normal 6 months… 1 year later?
• Why do I feel worse after support groups?
• Why do I feel relief and guilt at the same time?
• What do I do with all this pain?

If this has crossed your mind, please hear me clearly:

You are not broken.
And you are not grieving wrong.

Grief isn’t only emotional.
It’s neurological.
It’s physiological.
It lives in the nervous system.
It settles into the body.

When love is lost — especially in complicated relationships — the system doesn’t just feel sad.

It can feel shocked.
Hyper-alert.
Numb.
Disoriented.
Relieved.
Ashamed.
All at once.

That mix alone can make someone question everything.

Support groups can help. Talking helps.

But talking alone doesn’t recalibrate a nervous system.

If there was unpredictability, emotional storms, control, tension — the body may still be bracing for impact.

That’s why “time” hasn’t fixed it.

What’s often needed is:

✔ Nervous system regulation
✔ Safety in the body again
✔ Emotional root work
✔ Structured support
✔ Guidance from someone who understands complicated grief

Relief comes when the system is gently — but intentionally — reset.

Not bypassed.
Not drowned in.
Recalibrated.

You deserve to feel steadier.
You deserve clarity.
You deserve to move forward without feeling like you’re betraying your loved one — or yourself.

If trying to manage this alone feels exhausting, deeper support is here.

Free 20-minute consult. Link in bio.

Because the rest of your life still matters.

I see you. 💛

Ingrid @ Calla Lily
Widow Recalibration Specialist
Founder, The Bliss Effect Method®

"Why am I not getting any better?" - is a question many widows, and widowers, quietly type into Google late at night. Be...
02/18/2026

"Why am I not getting any better?" - is a question many widows, and widowers, quietly type into Google late at night. Because they wonder and suffer in silence.

"Why am I not getting any better?" - is a question many widows, and widowers, quietly type into Google late at night. Because they wonder and suffer in silence.

Even after reading many books, listening to podcasts, seeing a therapist/ counselor, or taking medication, other questions I hear often are;

- Why is my grief not going away?

- Is this normal 6 months/1 year after losing my husband/wife/ partner?

- Why do I feel worse after support groups?

- Why do I feel relief and guilt at the same time?

- What do I do with all this pain?

If any of these questions have crossed your mind, please hear me clearly; You are not broken. And you are not grieving wrong.

What most people don’t tell you is that grief isn’t only emotional. It’s neurological. It’s physiological. It lives in the nervous system. It settles into the body.

When love is lost, especially in complicated relationships, your system doesn’t just feel sad. It can also feel shocked, disoriented, hyper-alert, numb, or even relieved and ashamed all at once.

Feeling all of these at once can be overwhelming, and confusing. That combination alone can make you question yourself, your relationship, your life moving forward and more.

Support groups can sometimes help, but for many repeating the story over and over keeps the nervous system activated instead of regulated.

Talking is important, Yes, but talking alone does not recalibrate the body.

If there was trauma layered into the relationship, like unpredictability, emotional storms, control, tension, your system may still be bracing for impact.

This is why "time” hasn’t fixed it. You need more than storytelling, relating or rehashing.

You need:

✔ Regulation
✔ Safety in your body again
✔ Emotional root work
✔ Structured support
✔ A guide who understands complicated grief, who's walked in your shoes and made it to the other side.

We become frustrated when nothing we've tried works. Trust me, I know!

Relief comes when we gently, but intentionally, reset the system. Not bypass or drown in it, but recalibrate it.

You deserve to feel steadier.

You deserve to feel clearer.

You deserve to move forward, without feeling like you're betraying your loved one, or yourself.

If you’re tired of trying to manage this alone and ready for deeper, intentional support, I’m here.

Let's chat. It's Free. Book 20-mts together here.

https://calendly.com/bliss-effect-method/free-consultation

Because the rest of your life still matters. I see You.

Here to support you always,

Ingrid 💛 Calla Lily

Widow Recalibration Specialist
Founder of The Bliss Effect Method®

Why Am I Not Getting Any Better? https://wix.to/cygRFTu

"Why am I not getting any better?" - is a question many widows, and widowers, quietly type into Google late at night. Be...
02/18/2026

"Why am I not getting any better?" - is a question many widows, and widowers, quietly type into Google late at night. Because they wonder and suffer in silence.

Even after reading many books, listening to podcasts, seeing a therapist/ counselor, or taking medication, other questions I hear often are;

- Why is my grief not going away?

- Is this normal 6 months/1 year after losing my husband/wife/ partner?

- Why do I feel worse after support groups?

- Why do I feel relief and guilt at the same time?

- What do I do with all this pain?

If any of these questions have crossed your mind, please hear me clearly; You are not broken. And you are not grieving wrong.

What most people don’t tell you is that grief isn’t only emotional. It’s neurological. It’s physiological. It lives in the nervous system. It settles into the body.

When love is lost, especially in complicated relationships, your system doesn’t just feel sad. It can also feel shocked, disoriented, hyper-alert, numb, or even relieved and ashamed all at once.

Feeling all of these at once can be overwhelming, and confusing. That combination alone can make you question yourself, your relationship, your life moving forward and more.

Support groups can sometimes help, but for many repeating the story over and over keeps the nervous system activated instead of regulated.

Talking is important, Yes, but talking alone does not recalibrate the body.

If there was trauma layered into the relationship, like unpredictability, emotional storms, control, tension, your system may still be bracing for impact.

This is why "time” hasn’t fixed it. You need more than storytelling, relating or rehashing.

You need:

✔ Regulation
✔ Safety in your body again
✔ Emotional root work
✔ Structured support
✔ A guide who understands complicated grief, who's walked in your shoes and made it to the other side.

We become frustrated when nothing we've tried works. Trust me, I know!

Relief comes when we gently, but intentionally, reset the system. Not bypass or drown in it, but recalibrate it.

You deserve to feel steadier.

You deserve to feel clearer.

You deserve to move forward, without feeling like you're betraying your loved one, or yourself.

If you’re tired of trying to manage this alone and ready for deeper, intentional support, I’m here.

Let's chat. It's Free. Book 20-mts together here.

https://calendly.com/bliss-effect-method/free-consultation

Because the rest of your life still matters. I see You.

Here to support you always,

Ingrid 💛 Calla Lily

Widow Recalibration Specialist
Founder of The Bliss Effect Method®

Why Am I Not Getting Any Better? https://wix.to/cygRFTu

02/14/2026
02/14/2026

Happy Valentine’s Day, from Calla Lily Wellness! 💌🌹Many of us learned there were 5 Love Languages. Today, they have expa...
02/14/2026

Happy Valentine’s Day, from Calla Lily Wellness! 💌🌹

Many of us learned there were 5 Love Languages. Today, they have expanded into 7, because love is more layered, especially after loss.

This Valentine’s Day I want to gently remind you;

🤗 Love can be received
🤲 Love can be given
💕 Love can be offered to yourself

Here are the 7 Love Languages, with a softer, modern lens:

✨ Words of Affirmation
✨ Quality Time
✨ Receiving Gifts
✨ Acts of Service
✨ Physical Touch
✨ Emotional Safety
✨ Shared Experiences

And here’s the beautiful part;

You don’t have to wait for someone else to speak these languages to you. You can begin speaking them to yourself.

💓 Little by little.
💓 Without guilt.
💓 Without pressure.

Today doesn’t have to be about what’s missing. It can be about planting a new, kinder idea of love, starting with you. 💐

If this resonates, save it, share it, or simply let it sit with you today.🥰

I see You.

Ingrid 💛 Calla Lily

Happy Valentine’s Day, from Calla Lily Wellness! Many of us learned there were 5 Love Languages. Today, they have expand...
02/14/2026

Happy Valentine’s Day, from Calla Lily Wellness!

Many of us learned there were 5 Love Languages. Today, they have expanded into 7, because love is more layered, especially after loss.

This Valentine’s Day I want to gently remind you;

🤗 Love can be received
🤲 Love can be given
💕 Love can be offered to yourself

Here are the 7 Love Languages, with a softer, modern lens:

✨ Words of Affirmation
✨ Quality Time
✨ Receiving Gifts
✨ Acts of Service
✨ Physical Touch
✨ Emotional Safety
✨ Shared Experiences

And here’s the beautiful part;

You don’t have to wait for someone else to speak these languages to you. You can begin speaking them to yourself.

💓 Little by little.
💓 Without guilt.
💓 Without pressure.

Today doesn’t have to be about what’s missing. It can be about planting a new, kinder idea of love, starting with you. 💐

If this resonates, save it, share it, or simply let it sit with you today.🥰

I see You.

Ingrid 💛 Calla Lily

Newly widowed women and men 40+ recovering from the recent loss of a spouse, many from complicated relationships, often ...
02/13/2026

Newly widowed women and men 40+ recovering from the recent loss of a spouse, many from complicated relationships, often struggle to navigate grief and feel in control of their lives.

All they want is for the pain to stop, but nothing seems to help, even though they’ve tried:

❌ Going to support groups, feeling worse afterwards because they’re just rehashing their pain

❌ Putting on a brave face, hiding the sadness and hopelessness they really feel deep down

❌ Bargaining with time, believing that if they just wait long enough the heartbreak will fade away

❌ Surrendering to the depression, fear, and anxiety that have taken over their daily lives

❌ Enduring moments of deep despair, anger and resentment alone because no one understands.

Marriages are not created equal. If their relationship felt like a storm, their partner was controlling, or emotionally unpredictable, widows may experience;

💔 Deep Sorrow
💔 Anger
💔 Relief
💔 Guilt
💔 Combination of fluctuating emotions

If this resonates, comment "Complicated" now.

Grief after complicated relationships often comes in waves.

Widows and widowers;

🖤 Grieve what was
🖤 Grieve what should or could have been

And That is Real. That is Honest.

The world prefers neat stories, so often widows feel like they can’t grieve honestly for fear of what people might think; family, friends, children.

So they clean it up, soften the truth, or grieve “politely.”

What others may not know is that they constantly walked on eggshells. Waited for the weather to change. Braced themselves for the next shift in mood, tone, or silence.

And then one day… the storm ended.

Or did it?

Here’s the secret no one prepares new widows for: 🌪️ Every storm has it's aftermath. ⛈️

After a great storm trees are down. The ground is unstable. Debris is everywhere. - That’s complicated grief.

They're no longer in the storm, but their body still remembers it.
Their nervous system is still on high alert, while forced to survey what remains.

Complicated emotions or feelings don’t mean they loved wrong.
It means they lived through something intense and are now standing in what’s left.

Even after trying their very best, many widows still feel worn down, lonely, or emotionally numb. Life keeps moving forward, even when everything inside them feels frozen or heavy.

This kind of loss doesn’t just live in the body or mind. It;

🖤 Impacts sleep and energy the following day
🖤 Creates a threat of safety and security among new relationships
🖤 Creates isolation and a loss of purpose and passion for life
🖤 Affects the entire family unit, and the way they see and perceive themselves, life, and the future

“Surviving” isn’t truly living. They deserve more than simply making it through each day.

This is why I wrote this E-Book. It is designed for newly widowed women (40+) who feel lost, overwhelmed, and unsure how to move forward from loss, yet still hope peace and joy can return.
Inside I share how to reclaim:

💛 Connection and Meaning - being present and seeing beauty in life again

💛 Safety and Trust - feeling safe in their own skin and gradually comfortable around others

💛 Peace and Joy Without Apology - finding moments of peace, and even joy, without guilt

💛 Hope and Possibility - recognizing that a future where they can thrive still exists

💛 Acceptance and Moving Forward - believing deeply that life after grief is possible, and that moving forward never means forgetting or leaving their loved one behind.

💥 Important Note: Exclusively designed for Newly Widowed Persons 40+, ready and excited to take back their lives. Not for those younger than 40 years old, or anyone looking for a quick fix or magic pill.

If this resonates, if widowhood feels heavy, scary, and lonely, and a lighter, safer, more joyful life is calling, Comment "Complicated"
👇Now.

Also - Click “Learn More” now to get the Free E-Book; Grief Looks Different For Everyone. Get some relief today!

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We don't talk enough about the widow or widower who was the caregiver.💪 The strong one.🫡 The organized one.😎 The “we’ve ...
02/11/2026

We don't talk enough about the widow or widower who was the caregiver.

💪 The strong one.
🫡 The organized one.
😎 The “we’ve got this” one.

But then… it ends. And suddenly:

😩Your body hurts.
🥵 Your blood pressure rises.
🫥 You feel empty.
😶‍🌫️ You feel invisible.
😔 You feel depressed.
🤒 You feel ill.

Because when survival mode stops, the body finally feels everything. Everything.

Caregiving keeps you running on adrenaline. 🏃‍♀️

Grief removes the structure. And now your nervous system doesn’t know how to stand down.

If this is you, I want to offer some relief, right now. Try this 3-minute reset:

🌿 Inhale for 4 seconds. Hold for 2. Exhale for 6. - Whisper: “I don’t have to hold everything anymore.”

🌿 Lightly and gently, tap under your collarbone, and say: - “My nervous system can soften.”

🌿 Tap under the eyes and say: - “I survived. Now I can rest.”

🌿 Tap on top of the head and say: - “It’s safe to release a little.”

Slow and gentle. Even temporary relief counts.

And if you’re realizing your body is paying the price of years of caregiving, I support widows and widowers through recalibrating the nervous system, reducing emotional overload, and rebuilding identity beyond the caregiver role.

No pity. No performance. Just grounded support.

You were or have been strong for so long. Now you deserve care too. 🤍

I want to help; message me.

I see you.

With love,

Ingrid 💛 Calla Lily
Grief Transformation Coach

PS: For 1-on-1 support, Free E-Books, and more, follow the link in the comments.


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