Theresa Vargo, Art of Intimacy

04/23/2025

Clients often come to me saying things like, “I don’t know if we should stay together,” or “If only they would change, things would be better.”

But these questions keep you circling the same painful patterns.

They’re fear-based and rooted in the hope that someone else will make things better.

Real transformation begins when you start asking different questions:
✨ What am I responsible for in this dynamic?
✨ What patterns am I repeating, and why?
✨ What do I truly need, and am I honoring that?

Empowered questions lead to empowered choices.
That’s where clarity lives. That’s where healing begins.

04/20/2025

Being Intentional in Relationships

We don’t build deep, nourishing relationships by accident.
We build them by showing up on purpose.

Intentionality is the difference between connection and disconnection. Between living in reaction and relating with presence.

So what does it actually mean to be intentional in love, friendship, or partnership?

Here are a few anchors:
• Know your “why.”
What are you here to experience with this person? What do you want to create between you?
• Speak with purpose.
Say what’s true—not just what’s reactive. Let your words be a bridge, not a weapon.
• Pause before reacting.
Give space to feel, to breathe, to see what’s really needed—not just what your pattern wants to do.
• Stay curious.
Relationships die in assumption. Stay open. Ask questions. Wonder more than you assume.
• Honor the energy between you.
The relationship itself is alive. Tend to it. Feed it. Don’t let it run on yesterday’s love.
• Choose it daily.
Don’t coast. Presence is a choice. Love is a practice.

Being intentional isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about bringing your heart to the table—again and again.

04/16/2025

A good place to look for deeper understanding of yourself during a healing journey is in the energy maps we create.
These maps form in subtle ways—through the emotions we suppress, the triggers that repeat, the sensations we ignore, and the stories we tell ourselves.

They show us where love has been blocked, where wounds still pulse beneath the surface, and where our truth is buried beneath layers of protection.

Tracing these energy maps with compassion brings clarity.
It’s how we find the parts of us that are ready to be felt, freed, and finally come home.

— Art of Intimacy

04/11/2025

In long-term relationships, a common moment arises—not all at once, but slowly over time—where one or both partners feel the urge to change. To evolve. To stretch into a new version of themselves.

Not because something’s wrong.
But because growth is natural.
Because humans aren’t static.

This is where things often get complicated.

What was once comforting—familiar roles, habits, dynamics—can start to feel constricting.
The provider wants to be more playful.
The peacemaker wants to speak their truth.
The strong one wants to be soft.
The spontaneous one wants stability.

And in that shift, the relationship often gets tested.

Because consciously or unconsciously, most long-term partnerships create unspoken agreements:
“You be this version of you, and I’ll stay this version of me, and we’ll keep each other safe here.”

But when one person starts to change, that agreement starts to crack.

And the question becomes:
Can we make space for who we’re becoming, not just who we’ve been?
Can we stay in intimacy and allow the unknown?

It takes courage.
It takes renegotiation.
And it takes love that’s big enough to include growth.

04/06/2025

04/06/2025

I will be joining the yearn family again this year and we have a few rooms left for anyone who might be interested.

Yearn Magic ✨

This will be our 6th Yearn adventure, May 1st to 4th, 2025; Playa del Carmen, Mexico.

Imagine spending four days at a luxury beachfront resort in Mexico with 150 remarkable humans who, like you, are driven to make meaningful impact while living life fully. The Yearn is an intimate gathering where accomplished entrepreneurs, investors, and community leaders come together as whole people - to explore big ideas, form deep connections, and rediscover joy and wonder.

Between sunrise meditations and late-night conversations under the stars, you'll find:

Soul-nourishing discussions that weave between innovation, consciousness, and creativity
Experiential workshops led by thought leaders and artists
Intimate dinners designed for authentic connection
Moments of pure play and celebration

This isn't another networking event. It's a carefully curated space where transformative relationships form naturally and where you can show up as your full self - visionary leader and playful spirit alike.

A few of my favorite quotes from last year:

"The sign of a great gathering is feeling at the end that it is instead just the beginning."

"Unlike most events— this is not for-profit. Not in monetary terms... But it is most definitely for 'profit', in the ripples that come from sparks among creators here."

"It's invigorating to attend an event where every person comes self-powered and ready to skip the small talk."

"A sign of a powerful gathering is noticing how many people you've connected with since the last gathering."

https://theyearn.org/yearn25
Password: yearn25

Here’s the video from last year:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOVIe0gt8Gs

Here’s the mission and what we’re up to:

https://theyearn.org/

Let me know what you think! Happy to talk through any questions as well.

Home of Yearning Man

03/23/2025

The way a relationship begins—its emotional tone, underlying dynamics, and the conscious or unconscious patterns at play—often sets the foundation for how it will unfold. Instead of framing it in terms of “red flags,” which tends to focus on warning signs or negatives, it’s more about recognizing the energy and patterns that are present from the start.

When two people come together, they bring their personal histories, attachment styles, wounds, and unconscious beliefs about love and connection. The way they meet and engage in the early stages often reveals these deeper patterns. If the connection starts from a place of mutual clarity, self-awareness, and emotional presence, it’s more likely to develop into something stable and nourishing. On the other hand, if it begins with unresolved wounds, projection, or unspoken needs seeking fulfillment, those elements will continue shaping the relationship unless consciously addressed.

03/17/2025

If we’re going to point out someone else’s flaws, then I hope you’re willing to look at your own. It’s our inner child that takes in the deep criticism of others. .

03/15/2025

If you’re wanting to experience better relationships you need to explore what your responsibility is!
Are you advocating for yourself ?
Communicating your needs?
Choosing qualified partners?
What are your wound patterns?
Do you feel worthy of love and care?
Addressing shadow issues?
Is your heart open?

03/10/2025

Relationships serve as mirrors, reflecting not only our love and strengths but also our wounds, fears, and unconscious patterns—the shadow aspects we often try to avoid. They bring up what is unresolved within us, offering an opportunity for deep self-awareness and healing if we’re willing to engage with it consciously. Guiding someone into their shadow requires a balance of compassion, presence, and depth. Shadow work isn’t about eliminating these hidden parts but integrating them with awareness.

03/04/2025

True transformation isn’t always linear—it involves cycles of growth, release, and integration. Are you noticing any of these shifts in yourself ?

01/22/2025

Reclamation feels like a good word for today.