Divine Time Healing

01/17/2026

“Loyalty is an expensive gift—
don’t give it to people who abuse empathy.”
Some people don’t want connection.
They want access.
Access to your compassion.
Your understanding.
Your ability to forgive, overextend, and explain their behavior away.
As an empath, I learned the hard way that empathy without boundaries becomes self-abandonment.
Not everyone deserves your loyalty just because they’ve seen your softness.
Not everyone gets to stay because they needed you.
If someone only shows up when they’re hurting…
only values you when you’re giving…
only respects you when you’re silent—
That’s not loyalty.
That’s emotional extraction.
Your empathy is sacred.
Spend it on people who reciprocate—not consume.

01/17/2026

“You hate that I took the power.
It makes you feel like a coward.
You say that you’re gonna save me—but you hate me.”
That line hits different when you were raised in a dysfunctional home.
When love came with conditions.
When help came with guilt.
When approval required obedience, shrinking, and people-pleasing.
Some parents don’t love you—
they love the version of you they can control.
So when you grow up…
when you heal…
when you stop complying and start choosing yourself—
the abuse doesn’t disappear.
It escalates.
Because boundaries feel like betrayal to emotionally immature and narcissistic caregivers.
You weren’t “saved.”
You were shaped.
And the moment you take your power back,
they don’t mourn the relationship—
they mourn the loss of control.
If they hate you for becoming yourself,
it’s because the love was never unconditional.
Healing is the bravest rebellion.

❤️💞❤️

01/17/2026

They didn’t win.

They didn’t outgrow it.
They didn’t “heal.”
They didn’t move on clean.

They just learned how to redirect the damage.

They learned how to look calm while leaving wreckage behind them.
How to appear reasonable while discrediting the one person who saw the truth.
How to make sure the harm stayed private, deniable, and easy to dismiss.

Because if people believed you, the story would collapse.

So instead of facing what they did, they controlled who heard it.

That is not peace.
That is not strength.
That is not accountability.

That is fear dressed up as composure.

People who truly did nothing wrong do not spend their lives managing perception.
They do not panic when someone goes quiet.
They do not need allies, explanations, or rewritten timelines to feel safe.

They do not need you to disappear in order to function.

You were not silenced because you were wrong.
You were silenced because you were dangerous to the narrative.

And here is the part survivors rarely get told clearly enough:

You walking away did not let them off the hook.
It handed the weight back.

You stopped absorbing what they refused to face.
You stopped carrying what never belonged to you.
You stopped bleeding quietly so everyone else could stay comfortable.

Now they live with the residue.
Not as punishment.
As consequence.

And you get something they never had to offer you.

A nervous system that can finally rest.
A life that does not require constant self-erasure.
A peace that does not depend on silence.

That is not revenge.

That is reality finally landing where it belongs.

01/17/2026

“If you thought I was a bitch—
I’m choosing myself.”
I used to stay silent at my own expense.
I swallowed discomfort.
I minimized myself to keep the peace.
Not anymore.
This isn’t a new version of me—
this is the same woman who finally stopped betraying herself to make others comfortable.
I didn’t change.
I just stopped being quiet about what hurts, what crosses the line, and what I will no longer tolerate.
I will heal loudly.
I will speak clearly.
And I will never apologize for choosing myself again.
If that makes me “too much”—
it only means I was never allowed to be enough before.

❤️💞❤️

01/17/2026

Time is your most precious resource—
but as an empath, I’ve learned that emotional energy is just as sacred.
When you’ve survived trauma, you don’t just spend time…
you spend nervous system capacity, emotional regulation, inner safety.
That’s why healing teaches you discernment.
Not everything deserves access to your heart, your softness, or your presence.
If something drains you, confuses you, or pulls you out of alignment—
it’s costing more than minutes.
It’s costing your peace.
And once you realize that…
you stop giving unlimited access to people, situations, and cycles that don’t nourish you.
Healing is learning to protect what was once taken for granted.
Your time.
Your energy.
Your emotional bandwidth.
✨ Choose wisely.

Your peace costs something. Spend accordingly.

01/17/2026

Scapegoat❤️‍🩹 I am not the darkness that I was born into. There were many times I almost lost myself. I'm finally flowing into who I am meant to be. I'm so proud of who I'm becoming.

Something I would like to add,: We often make suggestions like boundaries, just ignore them, or just don’t let them bother you to people who have absorbed unfair blame their whole lives. If those suggestions were accessible to them, they would do them.

However, when you’ve been the scapegoat, you’re carrying heavy energy that you’ve absorbed from other people while no one’s asking you what you need in order to feel free.

It’s like telling someone who’s been holding their breath for 30 seconds to take it deeper inhale.

Exiting the scapegoat role requires time, tremendous patience, and a sense of safety that the scapegoat knows what they’re working towards. That’s not always easy to see.

Sending courage to each person who is navigating these changes…

I’m glad you’re here. 🫶

01/17/2026

I've learned so much. ❤️‍🩹 I've gained wisdom that's all we ask for . 🙏

01/17/2026

Most people don’t realize they’re in a trauma bond until they taste peace for the first time. Chaos can feel like chemistry when it’s all you’ve ever known. The highs feel addictive, the lows feel familiar, and the entire relationship becomes a cycle of craving relief instead of receiving love. You think you’re choosing them, but really, your nervous system is choosing what it remembers.

A healthy bond recalibrates everything. It doesn’t rush your heart or punish your silence. It doesn’t rely on adrenaline to feel alive. Instead, it meets you — consistently, gently, without the emotional whiplash you once mistook for connection. And at first, that steadiness might feel “boring.” That’s just your old wounds adjusting to a relationship that doesn’t feed on your pain.

The love that activates your fear was never love — it was survival. The love that soothes your fear is the one you were meant to learn how to receive. When you can tell the difference, you stop chasing intensity and start choosing peace. 🖤

01/16/2026

https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/the-heart-of-transformative-healing-coaching
New article available

In a world that constantly encourages self-improvement, many people are chasing transformation without understanding what true transformation really means. Real change doesn’t come from surface-level...

01/12/2026

The version of me you mishandled is never coming back—let’s be very clear about that.
People love to re-enter your life like you’re still the same woman they played with.
The one who ignored red flags.
Overextended herself.
Kept offering grace to people who only gave confusion.
But that girl? She’s gone.
I outgrew the version of myself that tolerated inconsistency.
I outgrew seasons where I had to explain what was already obvious.
I outgrew the phase where potential impressed me more than character.
And they’re shocked—not because I changed…
but because they never thought I would.
Growth will always offend those who benefited from your silence.
And I’m at peace with that. ✨

01/11/2026

Completely unrecognizable as far as energies go. Totally transformed.