05/08/2021
What's done is done... and cannot be undone.
You can't change the past, let's get that out of the way right now. As much as we would like to, and many of us have tried, we lie to ourselves about it, we deny it ever happened, we focus on one aspect and ignore the others, but it doesn't really change it.
You can spend your whole life wishing you had turned left instead of right, chosen A instead of B, replaying every mistake you have ever made, every wrong that has ever been done, but all you are really doing is storing up hurts. You can't change the facts of what happened.
Sometimes we hold on to the past because we truly believe something is going to happen in the future that will change things. Maybe we are waiting for someone who hurt us to apologize, or maybe we are waiting for the day they will be held accountable for what they did to us. We could be waiting for them to forgive us. We can end up waiting a very long time, sometimes forever.
All you are really doing is putting off your happiness waiting for something outside of yourself to come along and bring you happiness.
What if, god forbid, you found out that you only had a short time to live? Would it still matter? Would you still be willing to spend whatever days you have left holding on to a past you can't change? Chances are you would go out and live the rest of your time to the fullest, so why wait?
Give yourself permission to live whatever life you have left in the happiest way possible, let go.
