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12/13/2025

The Year-and-a-Half Delay: Why You Should Reconnect

Big parties are not my thing. While they are a great way to catch up with people you normally don’t meet, those interactions are typically superficial. I usually try to stay only long enough to justify the time it took me to pick out an outfit!

However, at this one party, because I was very late, I didn’t get to sit near people I knew; all the seats were taken. I did sit next to someone I thought was radiating warmth and positivity. I’m so glad I did; we had great conversations, laughter, and even exchanged numbers, with the desire to continue this conversation.

And that was it. That’s how things usually end for me. Because I know it’s hard to recreate the same momentum. And life went on.

A year and a half passed.

Then, last night, while scrolling through my contacts, thinking about starting a book club with like-minded friends, I came across her name. I had completely forgotten what we had discussed, but I just remembered that it was a great conversation that involved our spiritual beliefs.

On an impulse, I sent her a message: “Hey, remember me? We met at so and so’s party and had really connected, hope you are doing well.”

A few minutes later, it was her calling!

We talked and laughed about how little we remembered about our conversation that day. But slowly, the surface thawed, and the deep connection we had experienced emerged. The next hour and a half was spent in amazement at the level of understanding we have for each other’s experiences. I’m left wondering how she articulates my thoughts and feelings so well—and she is probably thinking the same.

It truly felt like an old friendship in a new lifetime.

So why am I sharing this? If there are people in your life whom you feel drawn to reconnect with, do it. Not just the acquaintances that you know you will have a good time with, but the ones with whom you sense a deeper connection. It doesn’t have to be strangers; it could be those childhood friends or those college roommates.

It might or might not turn into a great connection, but you wouldn’t know till you try.

11/29/2025

The Secret Exhaustion of the High-Achiever: Why I Traded Goal Setting for Soul Setting.

I used to chase goals like a sprinter running a race that never seemed to end.
I hit the metrics. I earned the title. I created the perfectly curated life that ticked every box on the "successful woman" checklist. Yet, in the quiet moments between meetings and errands, a deep, persistent ache whispered, "Is this all there is?"
I looked capable, calm, and constantly in control, but inside, I was just exhausted. I was running on an invisible treadmill, convinced that the solution to my emptiness was simply setting a bigger, better goal.

The Problem with the Map

Traditional Goal Setting gave me a clear, efficient map. It told me what to get and how much to acquire. It excelled at the linear, the logical, the public-facing pursuit of achievement. And for high-achieving women, this approach carries a unique burden: we chase these goals not just for success, but often for proof—proof we are worthy, capable, and deserving of our seat at the table.
But the map doesn't tell you if the destination is one your heart truly desires. It doesn't measure the collateral damage of reaching the summit on fumes.

Finding the Compass

I had to stop asking, "What goal can I get?" and start asking, "Who am I becoming in the process?" This is the shift to Soul Setting.
Soul Setting is trading the exhausting map for an internal Compass. It focuses on the WHO and the HOW IT FEELS. It’s about committing to non-negotiable internal states—like Ease, Presence, Courage, or Integrity—and letting those guide your actions.

For years, my Goal was to be the person who kept all the plates spinning—the one who said 'Yes' to organizing every event and committee commitment to ensure everything ran smoothly. This goal was rooted in the external need to feel needed and valued.

My Soulset asked a different question: "How can I practice Honest Capacity this week so I can truly be present for my own well-being?"

The shift was profound. The success was no longer measured by the number of plates I held, but by the level of peace I felt while having the most important ones. It shifted me from a state of over-giving to one of self-respect and sustainable energy.

It’s Time to Stop Proving

You don't have to sacrifice your health or your true self for your ambitions. True success is integration: where your achievements are an expression of your Soulset, not a frantic attempt to earn validation. If you’re reading this and feeling that whisper of emptiness, it’s time to pick up your compass.

I want to hear your pivot: What's one thing you are allowing yourself to stop proving this week so you can reconnect with your true self? Share your thoughts below. 👇



Shoutout to Julia Vivcharyk for this picture.

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