12/14/2025
For those who know me, you know I love to crochet and create beautiful items. While I can't take credit for the patterns I use, I see them as works of art. Over the past 12 years, I've hosted a crochet/knit group that has now moved online since many of the ladies are from all over the country.
Recently, I received an email from one of the members saying she would no longer attend because the conversations have shifted to expensive fibers, and she noticed others who do donations or can't afford these yarns seemed distressed.
What??
As a people pleaser and part-time low self-esteemer, my alarms went off. My stomach tightened, and I felt the old knee-jerk reactions creeping in. How did I miss this? Had I failed as an organizer? But then I paused. Thanks to my daily spiritual practice, I caught myself, and my Soul took over. Instead of spiraling, I asked, "Who is this person?" I checked the attendance. She hadn't been to the group in months and only attended once in the past six.
Another question came to me: "Don't you do donation work?" Yes, I do. Women who work with donations aren't going to buy high-end fibers, so why would they feel bad? Isn’t talking about fibers and patterns the intention of the group? Yes. One last reminder: Could she be projecting her feelings onto the situation? Probably. I started to feel more at ease.
Our group met this past Saturday. I was still cautious, wanting to ensure no one felt uncomfortable. Guess what? As each lady joined, they complimented me, saying they love the reminders I send, enjoy the company, and look forward to our monthly gatherings. The core group was there, and we had a blast discussing our favorite fibers, patterns, magnifying glasses, and even cruises.
This was confirmation on all levels.
PS. I share this because I believe if I hadn't shifted my fears and self-criticism, I might have set a completely different outcome in motion.
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