02/18/2026
So many Christian women I work with - many of them ministry wives and leaders - struggle to experientially know they are:
VALUABLE - without doing anything
WORTH BEING LOVED - without having to earn it
GIFTED - with strengths and talents the world truly needs
MADE TO TAKE UP THEIR SPACE - because God's glory takes up space and we reflect Him when we live freely and confidently out of the person He's created us to be.
Instead, they shrink back, believing the messages they've absorbed that they're selfish, prideful, too loud, too sensitive, too whatever, and can't trust their heart because, after all, it's "desperately wicked" so they can't trust themselves (and they better leave their value in the hands of someone else's opinion.)
They shrink back and live small because that's "Biblical"- and anything other than small and silent is "ungodly."
When someone believes this, it leads to receiving- and sometimes even believing they deserve- all types of abuse: emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, and psychological.
Even in coaching, the fragments of this lack of self-worth shows up in a myriad of ways - and it's often viewed as Godly.
Sigh.
"For you are masterpiece, created in Christ to do good works." (Ephesians 2:10)
"For you were bought with a price..." (So much value!)
The cycle of these beliefs is NOT found apart from the cycle of abuse (either seen or behind closed doors) and is NOT apart from the levels of vulnerability women experience WITHIN the Church.
When we start to address the very real connection between the American Church's low view of women and the rates of anxiety, depression, and chronic illnesses in females, we'll start to see less women leaving the church for the therapy office or solo social support. (Take note, )
That's what I was thinking of when I got up and got ready today.
I am loved and valued and treasured- and I can offer that to myself without anyone else's validation.
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