Kyle Tennyson - TennyZen

09/04/2025

💫BE WHO YOU’RE MEANT TO BE! ✨⭐️✨
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“If one does not become the eccentric, unique, one-of-a-kind person he or she was meant to be, then a violation of some large purpose of the cosmos has occurred. Individuation is not self-absorption, narcissism or self-interest. On the contrary, individuation is a humbling task to serve what our deepest nature asks of us. For some it will be a path which brings public recognition, for others suffering and public calumny, for others still, private epiphanies never seen by anyone else.”

If you’ve read this, and it has struck a cord I. The recesses of your heart click the link in my bio to join my free masterclass on Tuesday (9/9) to unleash your true self. 🌟
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Quote: James Hollis
Artist: Serena Malyon
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09/03/2025

We don’t talk about this enough…
The deepest grief isn’t heartbreak.
It’s looking around and realizing you’ve built a life that doesn’t even feel like yours.

I call this Life Script Grief—the ache of following a script that looked good on paper but left your soul behind. I know it because I lived it: the marriage, the nursing career, the city… all things that seemed “right” but weren’t me.

And it’s what I see in so many of my clients—queer men stuck in people-pleasing, numbing out on Grindr or Netflix, waking up with dread, and living for weekends instead of loving their days.

But here’s the truth: you’re not broken. You’re just waking up. And when you wake up, you get to choose again.

In just 12 weeks, you can release the old mirage, rebuild your self-image, and step into a life that feels like freedom, not performance.

✨ Awaken.
✨ Release.
✨ Reimagine.
✨ Align.

This isn’t the end—it’s the compass pointing you back to your True North.

👉 Ready to step into alignment? Join my upcoming Masterclass to learn more and get a special enrollment rate for my 12-week program.

09/02/2025

I know what it’s like to live in a life that looks fine on the outside but feels deeply misaligned on the inside. I’ve been trapped in roles, relationships, and expectations that weren’t truly me — and I had to dismantle old patterns, rebuild my self-image, and reclaim the version of myself I was always meant to be.

I know what it feels like to not be able to Live Authentically, Feel Deeply Rooted in Who You Really Are, and Create a Life You're Excited to Wake Up To!...

And after years of dealing with that...

I figured out the SECRET that changed everything for me...

To the point that today...

✅ I’ve been in the healing arts and an RN and coach for over 15 years, supporting the LGBTQ community in holistic wellness, and mental health.

✅ I am a Certified Trainer and Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, and Mental Emotional Release® (MER) therapy.

✅ I’ve helped countless clients release lifelong limiting beliefs, reclaim their self-worth, and step into deeply aligned, empowered lives.

Now - I don't say the above to brag, but to show you that I've been at a point where a lot of Q***r Men and People Pleasers find themselves in...

And I found a way out...

If I can do it, I know you can too!

That's why I'm even more excited to announce that I'm hosting a FREE Masterclass where I'm inviting other Q***r Men and People Pleasers to learn...

How To Rewrite the Unconscious “Hidden Script” Quietly Running Your Life — So You Can Live a Life Worth Living Without forcing yourself to hustle harder, fake confidence, or “positive think” your way out of it.!

So if you struggle with feeling stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, overthinking, and people-pleasing — constantly putting others’ needs ahead of their own, losing connection to their own desires, and feeling like they’re living a life that doesn’t fit them....

I'd love to have you in this training so that you can reach your next level as well!

We go LIVE on Sept 9th, 2025 between 5:30 PM - 7:00 PM...

Here’s how you join 👇

Join our 1.5-hour exclusive Masterclass designed for Q***r Men and People Pleasers! Discover how to Rewrite the Unconscious “Hidden Script” Quietly Running Your Life — So You Can Live a Life Worth Living Whitout forcing yourself to hustle harder, fake confidence, or “positive think” your w...

09/02/2025

✨It’s very sexy of you…✨

…to trade urgency for alignment.
…to feel the fear and let your gut lead.
…to stop proving and start becoming.

These aren’t just words. They’re choices. Micro-shifts that rewrite your self-image and change your entire life.

And here’s the truth: the patterns keeping you stuck in self-sabotage and people-pleasing? They’re not you. They’re old hidden scripts your unconscious has been running for years.

🔥 Next week, I’m hosting a free masterclass to help you uncover and release those hidden scripts — and take your first steps back to yourself.

🗓 Wednesday, Sept 9
⏰ 5:30pm PST
💻 Link in bio to register (free)

Come join me. This isn’t about fixing you. It’s about freeing You. 🌿

08/18/2025

Recently, I uncovered a program in my unconscious mind that I didn’t even know was there.

It was this constant, quiet script whispering:
👉 “Hurry. Rush. Do it now. Move faster or you’ll fall behind. You're going to fail. You wont be... enough."

For years, I thought this was a good thing. I even called it my Midwestern work ethic and wore it like a badge of honor, convinced it was part of my strength.

But the truth?
It was an old survival strategy.

One that created tension in my body.
Kept me in a low-level state of stress.
And quietly blocked me from the ease and alignment I deeply craved.

Even worse — it was seeping into my relationships, fueling unrealistic expectations and a constant need to control.

And when I looked deeper, I realized it wasn’t really about “work ethic” at all.
It was about a hidden script of people-pleasing. A program that told me I had to perform and prove myself in order to be loved.

🔥 This is the kind of unconscious programming that silently runs so many of our lives — until we bring it into the light.

That’s why I created a FREE masterclass happening this Wednesday evening to dig into our unconscious minds together. I really love sharing these tools that have changed my life, so I'm offering them for free to you. It's gonna get juicy. https://tennyzen.launchware.ai/the-hidden-script/registration/

In this live class, I’ll share:
• How your self-image is secretly sabotaging you.
• Why urgency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing aren’t personality quirks but unconscious survival loops.
• Tools you can use to start rewiring your unconscious mind and reclaiming your energy.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, shame, or just plain exhaustion from trying to “get it right” all the time — this class is for you.

💌 It’s free. It’s powerful. And it might just be the wake-up call your soul has been waiting for.

👉 Join us this Wednesday 6p PST (reply available if you register now). Click here to save your spot: https://tennyzen.launchware.ai/the-hidden-script/registration/

07/15/2025

This past weekend, I did something I hadn’t done in a long time: I performed.

I was an ambiance artist at Oregon Country Fair (yes… I was a centaur 🐎🧚), and it was one of the most playful, expansive, and vulnerable things I’ve done in a while.

I said yes because I noticed myself hesitating. It had been a while since I’d let myself really be seen like that—and part of me wanted to shrink back.

But I’ve learned that those edges we avoid are often the very places we need to lean into.

On the other side of that fear? Joy. Freedom. Aliveness. A deep remembering that it gets to feel good to be fully expressed.

It also reminded me of something I wrote recently—about how we can’t out-create the version of ourselves we’re still unconsciously being.

A few years ago, I had what looked like the “dream life.” But inside, I was deeply unfulfilled, stuck in roles I didn’t even realize I had signed up for.

The real shift didn’t happen by changing my circumstances—it happened by changing me.

Because you don’t change your life by doing more.
You change it by becoming someone new.

Being a centaur at OCF may seem like a playful weekend moment—but for me, it was a full-circle reminder: the stories in your head shape the life you live. When you rewrite those stories, everything else starts to shift.

I shared more about that journey (and the tools that helped me do it) in my latest blog post.

👉 Tap the link in bio to read it.

🎧 Want to anchor your next becoming with one of the most powerful tools I use? Grab your custom AM/PM hypnosis track via the blog or tools page. Or schedule a discovery call and I’ll help you find the path for You.

06/25/2025

Since returning from NYC, I’ve been playing in the woods with my friends a lot.
I love nature and being here with some of my favorite people…
I also love the city.

That might sound simple, but recognizing that I like and want both has taken a lot of work.

For years, I shaped my life around what I thought I was supposed to want.
I built the version of success that looked good on paper.
I people-pleased myself into a marriage, a house, a “dream job”—
and found myself anxious, disconnected, and quietly miserable.

It’s one thing to chase a dream.
It’s another to realize… it was never your dream to begin with.

Learning to listen to my own desires—to trust what feels right for me—has been the most powerful shift of my life.

And that’s why I want to talk to you about something I call The Sacred Yes.

It’s the quiet truth you feel in your body.
The inner pull that doesn’t always come with logic or clarity…
but keeps calling you forward anyway.

You can feel afraid… and still be aligned.
You can feel doubt… and still be on the right path.

We wait for certainty. For signs. For some kind of cosmic clarity.
But most aligned decisions don’t come with neon arrows or booming voices.
They come with risk.
With tenderness.
With the ache of becoming.

And still—your heart whispers:
“But I want this.”

So let me ask you:
✨ What if fear isn’t a stop sign?
✨ What if your compass is internal?
✨ What if you already know the way?

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Drop a 🧭 if you’re learning to say yes to yourself.
***rCoach

06/21/2025

Sometimes—despite my best efforts and purest intentions—I don’t show up as the most aligned, heart-led version of myself.
Sometimes I hurt the people I care about most.
Maybe I was caught off guard by new circumstances, in a triggered or altered state…
Or maybe, honestly, I was just having a dumdum moment. We all do.

When that happens, the wave of shame can hit hard.
Feelings of failure. Self-loathing. Grief.

But when I stay with it—when I resist the urge to collapse or numb—I remember:
I am doing my best.
And I do learn.
Every misstep becomes an opportunity to deepen, to realign, to strengthen the foundation I’m building.
It’s an opportunity I don’t skip.

Because this is what real love and connection ask of us:
Not perfection, but presence.
Not the avoidance of pain, but the willingness to love through it.
To lean in. Again and again.

This is one of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned about love in the last few years:
It’s not about always getting it right.
It’s about having the courage to come back—again and again—with more truth, more humility, more heart.
Love isn’t a performance.
Love is practice.

I remind myself often:
The becoming of my greatest self will never be complete.
The work will never be done.
And that’s not a sign of failure—it’s a sign of devotion.

My commitment to keep leaning in, to keep growing, is a reflection of my self-love—
And of the deep love I hold for the person I may have hurt.

So I take the pain I caused us both,
And I alchemize it into a greater capacity to love.
To love more wisely.
More tenderly.
More fully.

06/06/2025

Some photos from my trip to and some reflections as I wandered the city yesterday:

Some days, it’s not a breakdown.
It’s just… a slow collapse.

You’re not in crisis.
You’re just flat. Tired. Disconnected.
You don’t want to numb, but you also don’t know what else to do.

Here’s the truth:
You’re not lazy. You’re overloaded.
Stillness only feels safe when your system knows it won’t be ambushed.
Creating that safety?
That’s the first step back to yourself.

Not pushing.
Not performing.
Not distracting.

📍 Breathe.
📍 Pause.
📍 Ask: What do I actually want right now?

That’s the re-patterning.

🌀 Want to go deeper? I wrote a full post about this on the blog—link in bio.
✨ And I’m building a course on this exact transformation. DM me “numb” and I’ll make sure you get first access.

01/02/2025

✨ 2025 Vibe Check—Declare It. Claim It. Live It ✨

Declaring your vibe isn’t just setting an intention—it’s stepping into the version of you who’s already living it

The vibe you bring into this year will shape how it unfolds. What energy are you claiming?

Real transformation happens when we stop waiting—for permission, for clarity, for the “perfect” moment—and start CHOOSING.

🌿 Choosing aligned action over fear
🌟 Choosing presence over perfection
💎 Choosing to honor what feels right instead of forcing what doesn’t

💭 Drop your 2025 vibe in the comments and tag someone who’s ready to rise with you

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✨ And if you’re ready to take this deeper—ready to drop the stories, trust yourself, and create a life that finally fits—DM me or check the link in my bio Let’s make 2025 the year you step fully into who you’re meant to be 🌿

***rCoaching

05/17/2024

I got a new hat today and been working in the garden all morning. Next, a naked jump into the pond!
✨❤️😝🙃😶😮‍💨😬🥴🫨😢😖😍😏😭🥰🥹🥺🧘🏼‍♂️

Life has been a bit of a struggle for me lately. I can feel the stuck energy trickling down into stiffness in my neck and back. Getting outside and using my body really helps to process those sticky emotions.

There were multiple times this morning while gardening that sadness welled up in me randomly. I stopped and let it out, grateful for the opportunity to FEEL even if it wasn’t “good,” it was worth it.

Emotions are just energy in motion. E-Motion. Get it?

If things haven’t been going your way you’ve gotta make room to move that energy THROUGH your body. Numbing out on the couch with TV our your phone, shopping, alcohol, w**d, p**n, video games—whatever your choice—is only going to freeze up that energy. You get the “e” with the “motion,” which is why it ends up feeling like this 😬eeeeEEEEE!😱🤯😰🫨 (see even my phone knows, I just typed eee in the emojis and all those faces came up!)

Next time you’re feeling stuck in the eeEEEE! try getting out for a walk or just get up and jump around for a minute. Turn on some music or go listen to the birds.

Create MOTION. You’re the only one who can give it to you. And you deserve that self-love.

FEELING IS HEALING ❤️

05/04/2024

Hi. I miss you! How have you been? I hope life is full of magic for you.

Comment below, sharing some magic that you’ve seen in your life lately ✨❤️