Enjoli Ford, LPC

12/24/2025

Allowing yourself a moment to ask yourself what is it that you are really needing? If it is connection that you need, in what way have you learned that the only way you can connect is through social media?

12/18/2025

“Do as I say, not as I do” is the language of parents who expects their children to become better than them without being willing to become better themselves. They want the results of growth without doing the work, leaving the child to navigate life without guidance, support, or an example of what healthy behavior actually looks like.
The child is then forced to carry what the parent refused to hold which is learning, healing, and fixing what was broke. This allows the parent to continue as they are, which is choice. The child gets to do the labor, absorb the consequences, and create progress, while the parent benefits without changing.
Breaking generational cycles is exhausting when you are doing it alone. Imagine how different life would feel if growth were modeled, shared, and supported instead of demanded from one person in the system. No one should have to carry the weight of both their failures and their success when the system failed them long before they ever had a chance to succeed.
Yes, people can eventually learn how to create better outcomes for themselves. But it is extremely hard when no one ever showed them how. It’s even harder when they are blamed for not already knowing. Then shame tells them “I should know how.”

12/18/2025

While listening to “Beyond The Spot” podcast on Spotify hosted by Episode 20: Al, Technology, and Mental Health
This phrase stuck out to me and I wanted to share it.
If you have time please listen to the Episode please do.
If you do not have time, please create the time you need to learn how social media can be harmful to mental health and the nervous system.

12/15/2025

“Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps”
There is a reason your nervous system cringes at that phrase. And if it doesn’t then maybe you have moved away from a part of you that knows when to rest and be held by others. Maybe you have been conditioned to fend for yourself and find it hard to lean on others for support. Maybe you have loss connection to your support systems.
Originally the phrase was used as an idiom, something that was impossible to accomplish. First, you have to have boots. Second, your boots need to have straps. Lastly, that’s not how physics works.
The phrase “Pull yourself up…” became romanticized by European standards, was pushed as merit based, attainable, and like a realistic goal to move capitalism forward. By doing this it allows systems to ignore the barriers and harm that has historically been done and continues to be done in return for a capitalistic overworked and sick society— it covers up systemic oppression and harm. It creates shame, burnout, and isolation.
The message is if one can’t overcome and overachieve then it is due to personal failure because they are not trying hard enough “Something is wrong with you”. Instead of “Something is happening to you”
It’s a trick to continue weaponizing labor over rest and connection. In no cultural community are people thriving alone, it’s in community and being held by others. Nothing is wrong with you, you are tired due to the years of fighting oppression and for survival.
Rest.

11/14/2025

09/22/2025

Sacred Rage as Liberation:

I recently did a presentation on Intergenerational Trauma and the importance of telling the truth by acknowledging how we got here over time. It was never through “peace”, it has always been through violence, colonization, genocide, war, oppression, displacement, slavery, murder, r**e, class systems, colorism, religions literally killing people if they did not comply and conform. The truth is if Jewish people weren’t predominately white, yall wouldn’t care about them either.

The real grief is in letting go of the denial that is rooted in the lies, twisted stories, suppression of truth, shame, manipulation, bias—until then we will be exactly who we have always been. Justifying and weaponizing religion to oppress and be violent towards anyone who we can persuade the masses to demonize.

I refuse to play nice with or befriend people who are okay with statements that continue to put me and people like me in harm because if I were killed today or tomorrow by a white supremacist minded person cosplaying as a Christian, many of you would deflect and say “It was God’s will” or even “She was living in sin” and choose not condemn the violence done against me because most haven’t grieved the violence done to them and/or their lineage. Many are not that far removed from the epigenetics their ancestors passed down, that pure deep red colonizer blood that continues to thrive through transfusion. I know this because you/they have always remained silent when a non white supremacist cosplaying Christian has been harmed, unless it is to victim blame or deflect from the root of the issue using Black people as the scapegoat.
Although it doesn’t and will never matter if the violence is harm through words, gentrification, hate speech disguised as free speech for some, propaganda, policy, political stances, and just a history of oppression— it would force many of you to look in the mirror and accept that you too are violent and oppressive, and you aren’t as righteous or a “good person” as you think you are. (Full Disclosure) So I refuse to seek safety from anyone who refuses to be honest with themselves.
Seek therapy. Not me

09/12/2025

Collective Grief and Truth as Liberation:

and I are excited to be presenting at the 2025 Regional Trauma Institute.

We will examine how historical oppression, displacement, systemic inequities, and collective grief continues to shape trauma responses across generations in racially, ethnically, and culturally diverse communities.
Learning Objectives:
⛓️‍💥 Highlight the ways intergenerational trauma manifests across different cultural contexts.

⛓️‍💥Identify commonalities and differences in trauma transmission and coping mechanisms.

⛓️‍💥Discuss culturally sensitive approaches to trauma-informed care and intervention.

I cannot wait to share information and our experience.

07/01/2025

In my experience the fight response was responsible for a lot of destruction so a lot of survival was built off of fight for survival. The conditioning is that if you did not fight back, you will most likely continue to be harmed. In some ways the lesson was beneficial, but in other ways it wasn’t. The benefit is that I am still alive and I have not dimmed my rage in the face of injustice.

06/28/2025

Enjoli Ford is a dedicated therapist trained in Brainspotting Therapy, supporting clients from diverse backgrounds, particularly marginalized, BIPOC, and LGBTQ+ community. My approach to mental health emphasizes a decolonized perspective, valuing individual experiences, identities, and ancestries. Serving Louisiana, Florida, Texas, Vermont, and New Jersey clients, Enjoli focuses on helping individuals who find it challenging to prioritize their own needs and well-being. You will unlearn behaviors that no longer benefit you by cultivating self-confidence, establish healthy boundaries, and improve your communication skills, enabling you to articulate your needs effectively. We will work to uncover and rebuild your self-worth, set limits, and express yourself assertively, which is essential for building energizing and supportive relationships.
Brainspotting helps identify subconscious beliefs and unhelpful thought patterns that contribute to guilt, shame, and anxiety. BSP reduces anxiety, depression, and trauma-related symptoms by facilitating memory processing. My goal is client empowerment, emotional regulation enhancement, self-awareness, and confidence while setting boundaries and meeting personal needs for a more balanced, fulfilling life.
Remember, you are the expert of your life. I’m here to help you undercover your genius. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

06/19/2025

“intergenerational trauma is a complex phenomenon where the effects of trauma can be passed down through generations, impacting both biological and psychological well-being. Understanding this concept is crucial for promoting healing and breaking the cycle of trauma“

“We can do the work in the present to be mindful of what we are currently creating. Starting with our own families, we can begin to address what has been handed down to us. We can then decide what is worth keeping and what is worth letting go.
❤️🖤💚

06/04/2025

I’ve been feeling a lot of rage towards professionals in this field who continue to do harm to people. Not only mental health “professionals”, but prescribers too.

This is only the beginning of their journey for justice, and I am happy someone is covering their story as they continue to share. With braveness comes vulnerability and the potential of other abusers/predators to target them in search for justice. This is only the beginning!!
Please share if you can

The Re-Creation Retreat, a private boarding school in a remote patch of Arizona, promises therapy and structured learning to troubled girls between the ages ...

06/01/2025

3 whole years and to many more years of meeting people where they are and helping them get to where they are going.
3 years of continuing to add skills to my knowledge, experience, and innate knowing!
Brainspotting trained psychotherapist and more!
Thank you all for your continued support of The Elements of Freedom and trusting me with your stories. I do not take it for granted. ❤️


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