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12/12/2025

Won an award tonight, graduating to become a counselor/therapist tomorrow, so so grateful for the growth and people I’ve met along that way!!!! 🥹🖤

24/09/2025

Something I’m still learning - as someone who has struggled with anxious attachment style myself.

Feeling attached to an idealized version of what a relationship could be, versus the reality of the relationship that took place, is something that takes time & consistency to really work on and process. What I’ve realized is that when the feeling of wanting to reconnect or find closure with someone is so very intense - especially when that person was not necessarily deserving of our energy to begin with - there is usually an underlying reason that is almost 100% internal, whether that is:
- wanting to feel loved/validated
- craving a dopamine boost that the person once provided
- fear of abandonment/being judged/being misunderstood

And the list goes on. Some of the hardest transitions in life involve accepting truths about relationships - which involves accepting truths about ourselves, and finding the tools to heal/navigate those truths without incessantly seeking reassurance from the very same people who magnified those truths to begin with.

09/09/2025

Peeling back the layers of a reaction >>>

Often, what we feel first isn’t the whole story. In parts work, we slow down and listen to different parts of ourselves — each one revealing a deeper truth. Usually, a Protector part of us is shielding us from a deeper, more vulnerable emotion. Think of it almost like an older sibling protecting a younger child. Once we can name & acknowledge the protector part, we can then dive even deeper into exploring the Exile/Vulnerable part that likely feels unseen, unheard, and castrated from Self.

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08/09/2025

new headshots for a soon to be counselor ❤️❤️ — hair up or down? 🤓

14/05/2025

been forever since I’ve taken a selfie lol 🩷 moved to new house, made lots of new friends, started a new job, & performing music often! life is good.

04/12/2024

Every person has a go-to trauma response for any anxiety-inducing situation that begins in childhood. Usually, a person’s go-to trauma response stems from either a) witnessing someone in the family home use that same response overtime, b) feeling like the only way to feel “safe” is to respond this way, or c) a little bit of both.

03/12/2024

“Love” is a word that holds different meanings for everyone, shaped by the homes we grew up in and how our caregivers expressed it. Maybe love was quiet, like your mom making your favorite dinner after a hard day, or loud, like your dad cheering you on at every game. Perhaps it was conditional, tied to achievement, or absent altogether. These early experiences become the lens through which we view love as adults. But here’s the empowering part: we can redefine love. By examining the love we were taught—its limits, patterns, and wounds—we can decide what love means to us now. As we align with our values, we make room for a love that feels right: whether it’s mutual respect, open communication, or deep connection. Love can evolve, just like us. ❤️

02/12/2024

Our idea of ‘safety’ is often rooted in the dynamics of our childhood home—what we grew up with feels familiar, even if it wasn’t always healthy. As adults, it’s our job to redefine what safety looks like in relationships. This means digging deep to understand our values, choosing what truly aligns with us, and being brave enough to sit with the discomfort of change. Growth doesn’t feel safe—it feels new. But on the other side is the love you’ve always deserved. 🩷

26/11/2024

October-November has gotta be one of the hardest times of my life in the past decade. It’s involved protecting my peace - even when parts of me may not be entirely on board. It’s involved self-discipline - even on days where all I want to do is bed rot. It’s involved aloneness - which is different than loneliness, because I’m learning how to sit with myself more without the validation of others.

It’s involved a LOT of boundary defining and implementing. Which has been super uncomfy for me, as a recovering people-pleaser.

And because of all of this, it’s caused me to close off to people and experiences unintentionally for a while.

If you were to have told me a couple years ago that my life would be this way… feel this way… I wouldn’t have believed you. I had such an idealistic version of what I wanted my life to be. What’s interesting, is that there are so many things in my life that I have currently that I never even considered in my future plan. So in actuality - I lost a lot, but gained other things in the process. I feel like I’m going through some sort of metamorphosis feeling, which I haven’t felt to this degree since I was 19.

Maybe it’s time for another tattoo. 🩵🤘

24/06/2024

What was your definition of love growing up?

06/06/2024

Anger is oftentimes a cover emotion for a deeper, more vulnerable emotion such as:
• shame
• powerlessness
• fear
• hopelessness

This means, our anger is not bad or wrong. Instead, it is serving as a protective emotion in order for us to not have to face an emotion that feels scarier for us. Usually, we will resort to anger when we grew up in a home where more vulnerable emotions were either discouraged, ignored, or not even spoken about at all. We may have even witnessed a caregiver outwardly express anger growing up, rather than open up about the other emotions they were experiencing.

When we’re feeling anger towards a person or situation, it’s crucial to stop and ask ourselves this question: “What deeper and more vulnerable emotion is my anger trying to protect me from?”

16/05/2024

This year is all about asking my inner-child what she needs and wants. It’s been working out so far ❤️

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