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Helping people define their loving relationship, identify their wants and needs, cultivate clear communication and create a sacred spiritual relationship.

Want to know the secret ingredient to a lasting loving relationship? It is not what you think it is. Helping people to define their loving relationship, to identify their must have wants and needs, to cultivate crystal clear communication and to create a sacred spiritual relationship. Call 845-255-4175 or email jeff@healing-wellness-counseling.com for a complimentary 15 minute consultation.

03/14/2019

Exploring passivity and control in relationships

02/24/2019

A blog post addressing Assertion vs. Aggression

02/09/2019

Great advice and tips for dealing with common relationship mistakes.

01/25/2019

A discussion on New Year's resolutions.

12/15/2018

During the holiday season socializing and celebrations often revolve around food and alcohol (or drugs). If you are in recovery from emotional eating, drug or alcohol addiction, gambling or sexual compulsions here are some suggestions to help you maintain your sobriety and to stay safe:

• Attend Alcoholics and/or Narcotics Anonymous if you struggle with alcohol or drug use or Overeaters Anonymous if you struggle with food or Gamblers Anonymous if you struggle with gambling.
• Take your own vehicle if you are concerned that things might become too uncomfortable or unmanageable at your destination. Or, if you are not driving, know what the public transportation schedule is. Or, perhaps have an arrangement with a friend who can pick you up if need be.
• Attend Alanon for Naranon meetings if your loved one has a drinking or drug problem.

• Reach out to your sponsor, support system and your resources.

• Remember what your relapse cues are and notice when they are surfacing.
• Develop a relapse prevention plan.

12/12/2018

During the holiday season financial concerns and what to gifts to give are often a source of worry. People wonder, “How much money should I spend on holiday gifts? Who should I get gifts for? Will they like my gifts?” They worry what people might think of them if they give less than usual.
If you have some of these concerns here are some suggestions to assist you:
• Contemplate what the holidays mean to you. Do things that are congruent with your wants, needs and values and do them with the people with whom you want to spend time with.

• Spend within your budget and the amount of money that is affordable. If you use a credit card charge only the amount of money that you know that you can pay when the bill becomes due so as to avoid paying interest.

If you can’t give the amount of material gifts that you usually give consider speaking with your friends and family about this and explain your situation.

12/08/2018

During the holiday season there are often more family gatherings than usual. Some families get along really well, enjoy each other’s company and have a lot of harmony. At the same time some folks worry that there will be fighting and arguing at a gathering, which can be scary and disappointing. Others worry that a family member will get drunk and/or high and then act in embarrassing and/or hurtful ways. Others worry that the people they are relating to will be self-centered or narcissistic, and take interest only in themselves. They want to have an intimate connection yet the other person appears incapable of this.

If you have any of these concerns here are some suggestions to help you cope effectively with these challenges:

• Know that you can’t control other people’s behaviors. You can only control your own and how you respond to what others do and say.

• Think about how you’d like to respond to situations that concern you. Think about your customary response and the effect that it has had. If you want a different outcome you will need to do something differently. There is a saying that the definition of insanity is continuing to do the same things and expecting different results.

• Keep the focus on yourself and take responsibility for yourself.
• If you want to express your feelings or your concerns about something use I statements. For example, say, ‘when you said that I felt hurt and angry’ rather than saying something like, ‘you are really mean’, or ‘what’s wrong with you’ or ‘you know you’re a real ____’.
• Take your own vehicle so that you have the freedom to leave when you want to. If you are not driving, know what the public transportation schedule is. Or, perhaps have an arrangement with a friend who can pick you up if need be.
• Have realistic expectations

12/04/2018

This is the time of year that there is a lot of focus on the holidays and holiday celebrations. People often feel that they are “supposed” to feel happy and joyful, and some people do feel like this. However, many others tell me that they feel lonely, anxious, overwhelmed and depressed. Some of this is may also be related to the shorter days, less sunlight and Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Those who suffer from social anxiety may have more anxiety given that they are in more social situations than usual. If you experience any of these uncomfortable feelings it is very important that you take good care of yourself and that you soothe yourself in healthy ways. Here are some suggestions to help you:

• Reach out to your support system and your resources.

• Take deep breaths through the day.

• Compile a gratitude list, written or mentally.

• Be in nature or visualize being in it.

• Read something uplifting.

• Exercise by walking, stretching, jogging, going to the gym or dancing.

• Identify your feelings (happy, sad, lonely, angry, afraid) and allow yourself to feel them.

Know that others share your concerns, have similar anxieties and that your worries are likely very typical. Know that when you look into the eyes of a stranger that they are experiencing what you are experiencing in one form or another.

11/15/2018

Have a happy and healthy Thanksgiving!!

11/11/2018

What are you thankful for? Share below!

02/12/2018

If you are:

-Feeling alone and isolated
-Feeling like no one understands you or what you are going through
-Procrastinating with decisions you need to make
-Having conflict & misunderstandings in your relationships
-Having difficulty controlling your eating, drug/alcohol use, spending or gambling

KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Give me a call @ 845-255-4175 or private message me to learn how my supportive and caring counseling groups can:

-offer you support and encouragement
-help you communicate more clearly and assertively
-assist you to be more confident and courageous
-help you have caring, supportive and understanding relationships
-help you control the behaviors that have negative consequences on you, your finances and your relationships

12/21/2017

How to Deal With Compulsions During the Holidays

The holidays are supposed to be a time of celebration, but many people worry about losing control of alcohol or drug use, overeating, gambling etc.

Here are a few easy to use tips to help you maintain control and stay safe this holiday season.

• Attend 12-Step Meetings
• Identify your relapse cues and notice when they are surfacing
• Develop a relapse prevention plan
• Reach out to your support system, sponsor and resources
• Have an exit strategy from a gathering when you feel like you are at risk
• Remember that relapse is a process, not an event.

Know that others share your concerns, have similar anxieties and that your worries are likely very typical. Know that when you look into the eyes of a stranger that they are experiencing what you are experiencing in one form or another.

12/19/2017

How to Deal With Holiday Financial Worries

The holidays are supposed to be a time of celebration, but many people experience a heightened sense of financial worries, for a variety of reasons (increased spending, worries about gift giving, etc).

Here are a few easy to use tips to help ease anxiety this holiday season, if you find yourself feeling worried!

• Contemplate what the holidays mean to you.
• Do things that are congruent with your wants, needs and values.
• Spend time with people you really want to be with.
• Spend within your budget and the amount of money that is affordable.
• If you charge things buy in ways to avoid paying interest.

Know that others share your concerns, have similar anxieties and that your worries are likely very typical. Know that when you look into the eyes of a stranger that they are experiencing what you are experiencing in one form or another.

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