10/31/2025
"David and I have been together since we were just 15, and as naĆÆve as it sounds, we both always knew we wanted to get married and have lots of babies. We spent years talking about our future togetherāwe made it through school, college, university, dream jobs, buying our first home, getting pets, a proposal, and a beautiful wedding. Everything felt like tick, tick, tick⦠until it didnāt.
I donāt know if dreaming about becoming parents for 15 years made it harder when someone told us weād never conceive naturally, but it sure felt that way. We replayed every time weād confidently said āwhen weāre parentsā and thought about all the years weād spent avoiding pregnancyāfeeling this overwhelming wave of regret and disbelief. I donāt even know how to describe that feeling, other than ālike having the wind knocked out of you.ā
I was so sure Iād be a mom one day, and then overnight Iād convinced myself it would never happenāyet I kept fighting for it. We spent two solid years after that Skype call (thanks, COVID) dragging ourselves through clinics, waiting rooms, hospitals, and bathroom stalls (IYKYK). We had to keep picking ourselves back up after what felt like endless setbacks and hurdles. My mental health took a major dive during that time, but somehow, we stayed determined.
We found a community on social media that helped guide us in the right direction. Others going through the same thing shared recommendations for doctors, tests, and treatments that ultimately led us to our baby boy, Taylorāour fourth embryo and the absolute light of our lives.
What infertility taught me, eventually, is that nothing is guaranteed. A positive outcome isnāt guaranteed, but neither is a negative one. Thatās the hardest partāthe not knowing, the waiting, the lack of control. I guess thatās why we shared, and continue to share, our story. Itās one thing you can do in the thick of itāand it helps others more than youād ever realize." - Hayley + David
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