Dr Katie Stirling

10/06/2025

“One of the things that is so evident to me as a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist is that most of us were never taught how to navigate conflict, express needs, or make a repair.
And yet we expect ourselves to just *know.*

Relationship skills can be learned.
And you shouldn’t need a crisis, a diagnosis, or a breakdown to access them.

Everyone deserves tools. Everyone.

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09/29/2025

Being in the same room doesn’t mean you’re connecting.
Sleeping in the same bed doesn’t guarantee emotional closeness.
Proximity alone isn’t intimacy.

True intimacy requires intention.

🌀 Pausing to really listen.
🌀 Asking deeper questions.
🌀 Sharing the unfiltered version of yourself.
🌀 Creating space for presence — not just co-existence.

It’s not about grand gestures.
It’s about choosing each other, over and over again, in the small moments.

✨ Want help bringing that intention back into your relationship?

Start with my Ask Your Partner This Question card deck —
Deep questions designed to create connection that lasts.

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09/27/2025

Your partner shutting down isn’t a sign they don’t care.
It’s a sign their nervous system learned, “It’s safer to disconnect than to speak.”

Freeze is not a flaw in their character — it’s a protective response.
A strategy their body once needed to feel safe.

And while it might feel frustrating in your relationship now,
the answer isn’t to push harder —
it’s to build safety.

Because emotional safety is the foundation for change.
It’s what helps a nervous system unlearn shutdown
and slowly learn to stay.

✨ Want tools to create emotional safety together?

My Relationship Reset 6 Week Online Program walks you through the process — step by step.

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09/19/2025

Your nervous system doesn’t heal in the grind.
Not in the rushing, the fixing, the pushing through.

It heals in moments of presence.
In relationships where you feel safe enough to let the mask slip.
In spaces where you can bring your whole self — not just the curated version.

Because real healing asks for slowness.
Softness.
Safety.

And while self-regulation is powerful,
we also heal in connection —
when someone says:
You don’t have to hold it all alone.

✨ Ready to slow down and reconnect — with yourself and your partner?

My 6 Week Online Relationship Reset Program gives you the tools to break out of survival mode and rebuild emotional safety together.
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09/15/2025

Emotional intelligence in a relationship isn’t about getting it right all the time.
It’s about noticing when you’re filling in the blanks…
and choosing to get curious instead.

That moment when your mind starts building a story —
“”They’re pulling away.””
“”They don’t care.””
“”They’re doing it on purpose.””

Pause.
Ask.
What’s actually going on for you right now?

Because healthy relationships aren’t mind-reading contests —
they’re built on shared reality, not assumptions.

✨ Want to practice this with more intention?
My Relationship Reset program gives you the tools to change old patterns and connect with clarity.
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09/12/2025

Letting go is hard — especially when you’ve poured time, energy, and hope into something.

But sometimes the bravest thing you can do
is release what’s no longer working…
so you can make space for what will.

This applies to patterns.
To relationships.
To the way you speak to yourself.

Because healing isn’t just about adding more.
It’s often about clearing what no longer serves you —
so there’s room for something better aligned.

✨ If you’re ready to let go of old dynamics and build a relationship that actually works —
Relationship Reset is for you.
A 6-week guided experience to shift stuck patterns and reconnect.
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09/08/2025

The nervous system doesn’t heal because you tell it to.
It heals through experience.

Through presence.
Through repetition.
Through connection.

It’s not about saying “I’m safe now.”
It’s about feeling safe — in your body, in your relationships, in the moment.

When someone says:
“I’m here. I’ve got you. I’m not going anywhere.”
—and follows through—
That’s how survival begins to soften into safety.

That’s how rewiring happens.

Because real healing isn’t just cognitive.
It’s relational. It’s embodied. It’s earned over time.

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Follow for more insights on nervous system healing, relational safety, and tools for real change

09/06/2025

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aIEe18Wa5hc&t=742s

Why do anxious and avoidant partners keep getting stuck in the same fight?When anxious and avoidant styles collide, couples often get trapped in the pursue/w...

09/05/2025

Being the cycle breaker is brave. But it’s also lonely.
You hold the line, change the story — and carry the weight.

It’s okay to grieve what you didn’t get.
Even as you give something new to those around you.

💔 For relationship tips and psychology insights follow

09/05/2025

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Can your environment and lifestyle actually change how your genes work? In this Call Me Katie Podcast episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Katie Stirling sits ...

09/01/2025

When chaos is your baseline, the absence of intensity *feels* like calm.
But numbing isn’t peace — it’s disconnection in disguise.

Real peace feels alive. Present. Calm. Attuned.

💭 For tools that help you move from freeze to freedom follow

08/28/2025

Your relationship should be where you exhale — not where you brace.

Not where you walk on eggshells.

Not where your nervous system is always on alert.

Not where you feel like you need to earn what you need.

It should feel like warmth.
Like coming home.
Like softness in your chest.

Because love is not just about who you choose —
it’s about how your body feels with them.

Safe. Seen. Softened.

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