ReEnvision Marriage and Family Therapy

06/11/2025

Not sure who created this as we'd like to give credit. Sometimes we need reminders for when our minds take us to unhelpful places, especially when we are alone. Hope this helps...

💕 I am safe in this moment

💕 I survived this before

💕 This is going to pass

💕 I accept this feeling

💕 I control my body

💕 I am resilient and strong

💕 My thoughts can't hurt me

💕 I trust myself to pull through

💕 I will be okay

And when you can, lean into your support systems. Talk with a friend, a trusted mentor, a spiritual leader, therapist, God. You are not alone.

04/29/2025

"Perfect" Post from The Peaceful Parent!

When your child is overwhelmed—when the storm is building, and the tears start to rise, and they lash out in ways that surprise even them—
they’re not looking for a perfect parent.

They’re looking for safety.

Not rules. Not fixes. Not consequences.
Safety.

A face that doesn’t reflect fear back at them.
A voice that doesn’t rise to match theirs.
A presence that says, “You can be messy, and I will stay.”

You don’t have to get it right all the time.
You just have to practice staying calm more often than you lose it.
You just have to create an environment where mistakes don’t cost connection.

Because the more safe they feel with you,
The more regulated their brain becomes.
The more you lead with calm,
The more they’ll learn to find their own.

It doesn’t happen overnight.
But it does happen.

And it starts with you—being the safest person in the room.

04/22/2025

5 ways to improve your mental health on Earth Day - and beyond!

04/21/2025

This is a beautiful, spot-on conversation on parenting teens - a perspective that is in line with the way we work with parents at ReEnvision. Take a look/listen!

[Context note: Host is in the Southeast Asian context, specifically, Singapore. The message from the guest, however, is universal.]

What’s really going on inside the minds and hearts of today’s teenagers?In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr Cheryl Loh, one of Singa...

04/07/2025

Monday midday check-in.

This is Lady Paisley, an 8 year old adopted border collie-pointer mix. She likes to check-in throughout the day. Our practice is all telehealth so unfortunately, most only get to meet her virtually. She hopes you had a great weekend and that your day is going well. 😊

She also wants to share something she read 😉:

"You're struggling to make change because the old behavior is still meeting a need.

Instead of shaming yourself, identify the deeper need and allow it to exist.

Then get curious about a new way to meet it."

-theeqschool

That is all. Carry on.

🐾💖

04/04/2025

This is important parenting information to know. Please speak to your children about these apps and know that when apps create these secretive designations, they are not thinking about the child's/teens best interest. Children need guidance and parents need to be aware. Have conversations early and often about electronic uses (phone, tablets, iPads, computers, etc) and how to responsibly use them and any apps they would like to use. If possible, smart phones can wait until 8th grade or later, to be given to your child.

Snapchat has a secret picture vault in their application so that kids can hide pictures from their parents. Kids will often hide pictures and videos in the vault so that parents can not see them. Drug photos, n**e photos, party pictures, and much more can be hidden and locked away from parents.

As parents, it's a good idea to find out what your kids are keeping and hiding from you in their secret picture vault. You might be saving a life (your own child or someone else's child) by checking this vault. I have included some step-by-step instructions on how to get to the vault.

How to check your kid's Snapchat “secret” picture vault.

1) Open the Snapchat application on their phone (yellow icon with a white ghost). This will open up the main picture-taking page, you should see a live image ready to take a photo.

2) Below or beside the “take a picture button” (large circle at bottom of the screen) there is a small icon that looks like two playing cards. Press the two playing cards icon. You will be in their memories photos which are some of the photos they have taken with their Snapchat camera.

3) Along the top of the photos you should see some labels “SNAPS, CAMERA ROLL, MEMORIES, and MY EYES ONLY”. Press the MY EYES ONLY BUTTON.

4) If the phone pops up with a PIN entry keypad you will need the code from your kid. Standard answers when you ask your kid for their PIN is that they forgot or they never set it up. (see parental pin extraction techniques for further help if needed).

5) Once past the secret pin you might see the photos your kids usually don’t want you to see. Understand you are still not seeing the private disappearing snap chat messages they send back and forth to each other.

Happy parenting,

Officer Gomez

04/02/2025

A healthy way to approach & work with our emotions. So well illustrated!! We love this! 💖

Shared by CMH Workshops - Children's Mental Health via

04/02/2025

FYI

One Day. 12 Experts. Free & Online April 2nd. This FREE event is packed with tools that will help your family transform ADHD struggles into confidence and strength.

04/01/2025

A helpful grounding technique that works - it's just important to practice this when you're not feeling anxious, afraid, and/or overwhelmed.

Why it works: When we're in a state of emotional dysregulation, our limbic system goes into overdrive. It's the part of our brain that processes emotions, memories and motivation (the hippocampus, amygdala, hypothalamus and thalamus). It plays a pivotal role in responding to stress and it activates our fight, flight, freeze, and fawn mechanisms. When we engage in a mindful exercise like the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique, it gets our brains to re-engage our pre-frontal cortex, the part of the brain that's responsible for things like decision making, impulse control, planning and emotion regulation (the brain's "executive center"). By engaging our pre-frontal cortex, we're allowing ourselves to reconnect with the present moment - the here and now, which reduces the anxiety, dissociation and any other symptoms that come up. By engaging with our senses, it powerfully brings a sense of calm and safety, reducing the intensity of the overwhelming feelings. This occurs because it activates our parasympathetic nervous system that induces a relaxation response. Learning how to take slow, deep breathes also works similarly. Combining the two - the deep breathing and grounding technique works really well.

Give it a try. The key is not just doing it once or twice or even just three times. It's practicing it enough times so that you become well acquainted with it and can reach for it when you need it. Think of it this way - we're most likely to reach out to people we know when we need to than people we don't know. We'll think of people who are close to us and not strangers we passed by in the street or just had one interaction with. Make this technique your friend and it will be there for you when you need. 😉💖

04/01/2025

An important read with some important considerations on the latest Netflix show, "Adolescence" by Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

03/21/2025

Since this is longer than 3 minutes (Instagram has limits with minutes unless you're doing a live), we will post the full video here. We hope you will "consider" what Michelle is saying here. And perhaps it goes without saying but the coping behaviors she mentions is not exhaustive... There are plenty more ways one can "cope" with stressors/conflict/exhaustion, etc. The point is to get thinking about the what and how. Hope this is helpful! 💖

03/18/2025

We often talk about breath work with clients. We also often incorporate simple breathing techniques when we present at workshops and seminars as it's an effective way to learn how to regulate stress and emotions. Dr. Tracey Marks offers an excellent video on what you can do to help regulate your emotions when certain stressors or emotions are activated. Take a look (her videos in general are excellent!)

Discover the powerful connection between breathing and emotional control through neuroscience. This video explains how specific breathing techniques influenc...