Chris Kingman | Therapy

06/28/2016

If procrastination is so destructive then why do we do it? Why don’t we just create to-do lists and stick to them? The answer is simple: we procrastinate excessively due to unresolved emotional/existential conflicts about our lives.

01/12/2016

Fear is too often seen as the cause of emotional disturbances in relationships when, in truth, it is actually more of the effect. The effect of what? Insufficient experience and inadequate learning.

12/09/2015

Drug and alcohol addiction are often likened to cancer in that they develop in stages, with stage 4 literally being deadly. Addiction to p**n develops in stages as well, and while no one will die from using p**n, there are many, many people who are experiencing the potential or actual “death” of

11/23/2015

Inside and outside of the psychotherapy office, it’s not unusual to hear someone say, “The past is in the past.” Actually, when it comes to relationships, the past is always present. In this regard, the important question to ask yourself when attempting to build healthy relationships is: HOW i

04/19/2015

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Elizabeth Dickson, therapist and author, passed away in NYC on Easter Sunday, 4/5/15. As her bio says, before she became a therapist she worked as “the Director of a Policy Analysis Division for New York City mayor Ed Koch, and later as a Bond Analyst at Smith Barney, where she was promoted to Vice-President.” I point this out because it illuminates something important about Eli: her therapy work was grounded in a very practical wisdom derived from struggling and succeeding in the real world of NYC politics and finance for many years. [ 207 more words. ]

01/12/2015

There's a particular challenge to discussing emotional needs in therapy with men because our social conditioning so often idealizes being macho, playing it cool, being detached and above it all, et...

08/28/2014

Far too many people have learned to automatically and habitually give away their personal power.

04/03/2014

If you avoid negative emotions, you're setting yourself up for pain and misery. If you use them as opportunities for learning and growth, everything changes.

01/09/2014

Therapists are known to empathize. More and more, however, we need to mobilize.

Procrastination is deadly. It kills dreams, goals and plans. It kills the spirit and the soul of whoever falls too deeply into its tangled web. Take action.

11/20/2013

Why do so many people have an emotional hangover after family visits? Managing anger effectively begins with recognizing that it is a habit and that habits develop over time .

11/06/2013

Healthy adulthood requires that we learn how to identify and effectively transform fear so that it is a source of growth rather than paralysis.

10/28/2013

The NY Times article below serves as yet another reminder that attempts to kill emotional pain (i.e. popping painkillers for depression, anxiety, irritability, loneliness, stress, etc.) are actually the surest ways to exacerbate and perpetuate the pain and all its negative consequences.

For more, read my blog post "Emotional Pain Cannot Be Killed" http://bit.ly/Hs5yxD

The F.D.A.'s move to tighten restrictions for prescribing painkillers is a rare victory by lawmakers from states hard hit by prescription drug abuse over well-financed lobbyists for business and patient groups.