SilverDisobedience

23/11/2025

“Possessing all you want does not mean you have everything.” This is something I regularly ask my private consulting clients to consider. I share this because, to some degree, we are all conditioned to believe that once we acquire the right titles, relationships, achievements, or comforts, life will finally feel complete. Yet anyone who has “checked all the boxes” knows this quiet truth: Possessions, whether material or emotional, don’t guarantee fulfillment. ✨ This is because "having" is not the same as "being." And, having is less tied to contentment than most people realise. You can possess success and still feel unsettled. You can love someone yet still feel unseen and disconnected. You can accumulate accomplishments and all kinds of things yet still feel like something essential is missing. ✨Why? True “everything” is not external. It’s actually an inner steadiness. For me, it's a feeling of clarity, a peace, a sense of alignment that can’t be bought or granted by others. ✨ Considering this, consider taking an inventory beyond what’s visible. Look beneath the checklist that you might believe comes with universal approval that "you've made it." Try asking yourself whether what you have reflects who you are becoming. Think and consider this carefully because fullness is not measured by acquisition, but by what I think of as alignment. ✨ And personally, I’d rather feel like my choices, my self-awareness, my life in general, and my relationships -- with those I love and like -- are aligned. This holds more importance for me than anything else. Why (again, Dian? Really? Why? Because it is always alignment -- me positioning myself correctly without conflict to my internal beliefs -- that makes me feel peaceful and allows me to connect far more deeply with others.✨

22/11/2025

Problems often resolve themselves in ways we least expect. So on the flip side, we can’t expect problems to be solved only in the ways we propose. ✨ There are usually many ways to solve the same problem. ✨ I look at problems like a form of communication. For over 30 years, I’ve owned a communications firm. We’ve been hired to help companies and individuals communicate their developments -- whether they were positive or less than. My amazing team has been working with me for over 20 years. I think one of the reasons we get along so well and have been able to work together is because, I’ve learned that how one person might write a press release or relay a story or say something to offer an answer or do something in an attempt to solve an issue --may be entirely different than the way I would have written, said or done it. Yet -- their approach works. It might not be the way I’d have done it, but I cannot deny its end effectiveness. So, I’ve learned not to edit, interrupt or stop the flow and process of others. ✨ The more we can let go of our need to control and can step out of the way to allow others to exercise their creative problem-solving skills, the better we become as a group, and as individuals. This principle works with spouses, children and other family members as well. ✨ We don’t have to “do it all.” We don’t have to be “experts in everything.” We do have to do what we can do to the best of our abilities and let others do the same. When we manage to do this? We all enjoy the benefits of more successful relationships on all fronts. If we ask or simply allow others to help solve the big or small problems – in their own ways – my experiences says: Everything tends to unfold better.

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21/11/2025

Breathing it all in…whatever it is.

21/11/2025

Discover the art of transforming your home into your personal oasis with interior designer Kim Depole! 🎨. https://diangriesel.com/2025/10/30/curating-your-sanctuary-designing-from-the-inside-out-with-kim-depole/ 🛋️ Listen to the latest episode on the Silver Disobedience Perception Dynamics Podcast.

20/11/2025

I think one of the most challenging and often misunderstood aspects of relationships always gets down to one person believing they have changed so therefore they think it’s time to move on because they’ve outgrown others. The faulty thinking in this is that everyone changes every day. Maybe in different ways, but it is impossible for any one of us to get through a day in the life without changing in some way — even if we lived alone in a cave. A thought shifts. A perception softens or sharpens. A conviction loosens. A new awareness forms. A tiny scar heals. A memory reframes itself. We are in a constant state of becoming. So, the difference is not whether we or anyone else changes — but how we interpret and narrate our own changes compared to the changes of others.

20/11/2025

🚔 From cop of the year to delving into the minds of criminals like serial murderer Joel Rifkin – join me as Bob Mladinich shares fascinating insights into the criminal mind. 🧠 https://diangriesel.com/2025/11/19/the-complexity-of-crime-bob-mladinich-on-murder-and-motivation/ Listen now!

A Riveting Conversation with Bob Mladinich: Unpacking the Mind of a Serial Killer In an episode that hurdles through emotions, insights, and a chilling understanding of the criminal psyche, our scr…

19/11/2025

Sometimes the smartest move isn’t to push forward -- but to pause. This is counter-intuitive in a high-pressure world that constantly pushes us to go further, faster and harder. ✨ Yet, maybe if we stop and pause, we can also reassess our reaction or perhaps that of another. We can take a closer look at why we’re riled up, responding the way we are, and why the situation seems to be escalating. ✨ What’s at the root of our reaction? Or that of others? ✨ Does the reaction seem grounded in the present moment -- or is it pulled from an old story? Is it centered and true in our hearts -- or maybe fueled by urgency, fear or habit? ✨ When we slow down long enough to notice the source, we often find clarity waiting beneath the noise. ✨ And from that place, grounded in our re-centered self, our next move becomes obvious. And, maybe even pleasantly surprising and calming. ✨ Just something I was lifting up, inspecting, and looking under this morning...✨

18/11/2025

Everyone has days when they feel like they just want to quit. On particularly rough days when we think that we’ve reached the end of our capacity to give, love, care, think, act, change, try, hear, or do whatever else is demanding more and more and more from us, it is helpful to remind ourselves that our track record for getting through bad days so far is 100 percent!

Congratulations!

Now, it's time to be kind to yourself. Notice all the things you’re doing right and remind yourself that: Life is a test. We’re doing our best and that’s just fine. More than half of our grade each day is earned just by waking up! So, be gentle with yourself, you're doing great.

18/11/2025

Ready to challenge the scripts we unconsciously follow? Tune in to our latest podcast with Rita Silverman to learn about "Replacement Children." Watch the clip then catch the full episode.
https://diangriesel.com/2025/11/17/in-the-shadow-exploring-replacement-children-and-family-narratives/

17/11/2025

Every one of us is very good at remembering what we did wrong. But we often forget to remember the things we did right. Please share a few of those moments below! Be bold! Do tell! Loudly and proudly!

16/11/2025

Just saying...

16/11/2025

I often contemplate how certainty is not certain. Certainty implies a state of absolute assurance or conviction about the truth of an idea or accuracy of a belief. It implies the absence of doubt or ambiguity. While the allure of certainty is compelling, the complexity of certainty is limited and subject to factors that undermine its absoluteness.

Our understandings, perspectives & cognition are fallible. I’ve studied this for years. The capacity to perceive, analyze & interpret information is influenced by biases, perspectives & cognitive limitations that have been socialized into us. Our understanding of the world is shaped by subjective experiences, beliefs & cultural backgrounds. Because of this, certainty is influenced by these subjective factors, making it susceptible to error.

Our knowledge is also constantly evolving – personal, social, science, medicine, paradigm shifts & other more. Each may challenge established beliefs and theories. (I’m still not sure if Pluto is a planet or not!) So, what was once considered certain can be overturned by new evidence or alternative explanations. This dynamic nature of knowledge highlights the inherent uncertainty that underlies even our most firmly held convictions.

The very nature of “reality” itself is complex & often elusive. Philosophical debates about truth, perception & existence reveal challenges to certainty. The limitations of our senses along with the possibility of different interpretations of reality further undermine the notion of certainty.

With all this, if we feel uncertain, this is a normal state of being. Uncertainty arises from the inherent unpredictability of the future. The complexity of the world, the interplay of various factors, and the influence of chance & randomness make certainties difficult to predict, and outcomes become … uncertain.

Yet, even in an uncertain existence, if we accept the uncertainty of Life -- we get closer to embracing the present. And, the present, this exact moment while you are reading this blog, or the moment that I wrote it, are the only two certainties that I can define. So now, we are off to the next moment, within which uncertainty lies.