I read an article you published and it was a breakthrough for me. Thank you very much!
Hi Suzanne, I hope you are well. No posts for me to like for a while.
I see today that “not your President” has suggested delaying the election. It’s bang on cue and anyone who knows his nature could have predicted it. You assured me he couldn’t do that. Constitutionally he can’t can he?
He’s just preparing to refuse to go in January. What will it take to get rid of this excuse for a man?
I read an article that you wrote and it was amazing. It opened up some interesting emotions that needed to be explored. Not only was I able to take from the article, I was also able to share it with some of my clients who were able to benefit from it as well. Just wanted to stop by and say thanks keep doing what you're doing!
Read a couple of your articles - they helped me think about what I can do to heal and move forward. Thank you for sharing.
Dr. Lachmann, I have a question about certain relationship articles from Psychology Today. Background: so with each article there is an associated visual representing or advertising the article. I have noticed that without exception (from what I’ve seen so far) that articles that deal with something negative going on in a relationship, especially gaslighting or narcissism, the visual always shows the man as the perpetrator and the woman as the victim. The woman either appears in despair or is cowering while the man appears angry, unconcerned, or clueless. These visuals seem to suggest that women are never, or at least much less likely to be, themselves the narcissist/gaslighter/manipulator etc. Is this a subtle form of s*xism? Is this stereotyping men as perpetrators and women as victims in a relationship gone bad? Or am I just reading into the visuals more than what is there?
Silly me thought I could google “Am I cursed to be single?” and have it yield meaningful results or even answers to all of my questions. Funny thing though, I came across an article/advice column of some sort that you wrote that talks about reasons someone is single when they don’t want to be (see link below). Thank you. I have been search for ways to reevaluate my life as a single man now and I often wonder what is “wrong” with me. It isn’t about what is wrong with me, but what is preventing me from being in a relationship. I came out of a very rough breakup that pushed me over the edge after everything else I was dealing with in life. I felt unloved, unwanted, ugly....and all I really want is comfort and peace. I have my days still, but times are becoming easier to deal with. I have a lot of work ahead of me, but I know I’ll get there. Reading your article really helped me and I can’t thank you enough for that.
A thankful reader
Recently launched with English subtitles, the documentary "PSY CAUSE" discusses the regulation of psychotherapy in Québec (Canada) and the impact of a new law (known as "Bill 21") on the mental health profession since it came into force in June 2012.
This 70-minute video also explores psychotherapy under the influence of "evidence-based data" approach.
The independent current affairs film features Rose-Marie-Charest (ex-Québec Psychologists College’s president), Guy Corneau (Jungian psychoanalyst), Martin Drapeau (McGill University psychologist), Pierre Plante (Art Therapist & psychologist), Jane Bauer (Jungian psychoanalyst), André Renaud (psychologist & psychoanalyst) and much more.
Originally released in French in September 2017, PSY CAUSE can be purchased or rented online :
Thank you so much for your enlightening articles and insights into strengthening my self-esteem so that I may one day have healthy intimate relationships!
Hi Dr. Lachmann, I just read your article on power struggles in relationships. I found your insights informative and penetrating. I’ve been reading many articles on Psychology Today regarding relationships, coupling, attraction, and loneliness. Ive found these topics fascinating, and I’ve learned much about myself and others. I look forward to reading more articles from you.
Dr. Lachmann - I am 58 years old now and I still don't know what women mean by a relationship. So I guess I've never had one. I have been actively looking all over the place for 20 years now one single sober and clean woman in America that doesn't have a drug or alcohol problem or some kind of drug and alcohol abuse problem from a former spouse. It has ruined me physically, mentally and spiritually trying so hard to do this for so long and it has made me give up on my life. I have been isolated working on my company by myself on the Internet for 20 years with no female companionship. I have no substance abuse problem like these women I meet and I don't have to work any more to pay my bills. i have a new car and beautiful apartment and a guest house in Bermuda I go to every summer by myself. The women I meet would rather be homeless on drugs and live that life. Why is this happening to me? It's making me miserable. What should I do? I have money for therapy.
Dr Dr L,
I’m based in Australia, going through the acute stages of withdrawal from a breakup , also in the paralysis grief stage.
I have been looking into your body of work and am very interested and feel a sence if connection to your whole approach to s*x as tools , relationships , breakups.
Do you by any chance do phone sessions ?
Great seeing you at the Nobody Wants Us Premiere in New York. Best, Stephen😊